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Glad to hear you are looking after your health, Jen, especially if there is a family hx. of cardiac problems.
If the dull chest pain persists request an angiogram.
(says she who self diagnoses and avoids hospitals like the plague!!)Gambling is the biggest dream crusher I know, IDI. Yes, we can become demotivated by negative remarks and a negative attitude from our nearest and dearest or by rejection along Life’s road. I have experienced some of that but it’s how we cope with these things that c ounts in the long run. Nobody can stop us from taking steps to hold on to our dignity and peace of mind. I’m just home from the theatre in Dublin. A few things struck me. I was astounded at the cost for one.The car park cost 15 quid. I was probably one of the oldest/fattest/ugliest people there. The glamour was out of this world. The bars were crowded before and after the show and at the interval. “Where do they get the money?” I asked myself. Then I remembered I could have ten nights in the theatre , for one night in a dingy casino. It was like a different life. On a different note. In defense of GA, it is said that most people who “fail” , fall back to gambling because they stop attending the meetings (so GA as an organization can’t be blamed for the high relapse rate among gamblers) I can’t stand over that but I will say I have been to hundreds of meetings and everyone who returns to GA opens their therapy with “I gambled again because I stopped coming to the meetings”. It’s not written in stone but if you really study the principles of GA, you will see the benefits of the Fellowship. You obviously had a bad experience there.
I’m certainly more confident when paying for goods at the check out, Nick. When I was gambling my heart always went bumpitybump in case they would say “card declined”.
Well done on your progress, Beem.
Keep moving forward.
Gambling is a waste of time and energy.
(not to mention money)‘Hope the health issues aren’t too serious, Jen?
Yes, gambling does have an effect on our health. We don’t notice or perhaps ignore symptoms when we are numb.
Take care.You and Pete are close buddies, Monica.
In Irish it’s called Anam Cara (Soul mate)
I had an Anam Cara once…….Nice sometimes to have human company. Most of the time, I prefer my own company.
Going to see Mowtown The Musical tomorrow night. Have you seen it?Sorry to hear you are not feeling too upbeat, IDI.
Life, with or without gambling can be dull, sometimes.
Gambling brings a bit of a buzz but we know what follows.Thanks for posting to my tread, Kin.
God’s grace gives us strength to move mountains-but only if we co operate with His grace.
I will always be powerless over slot machines-but ONLY when I put the first note in the machine.
In the meantime, I am in remission.For what it’s worth, Jezi, I found “dry gambling” very dangerous. For me. Maybe other members have different thoughts. I would waste hours , playing free slots and end up nauseous, “headachy”, agitated, sleep deprived and couldn’t stop once I started. I was the same with the game “Snake” on my phone. All these activities are a waste of time and time, to me time is far more valuable than money. For that reason, I quit both activities for 2019, and have stayed free of real gambling too. I read your posts about “going public”. I did in a way open up, by publishing and circulating a booklet of Gambling/ Recovery poems . I often come out in a sweat in case the wrong person reads it but who cares, really? If people are that small minded that they need to hang on other’s weakness they are not worth considering. Have you been back to GA? I have an ambivalent relationship with GA. I hate getting ready to go. I have to push myself really hard. (Then again, I hate getting ready to go anywhere-the ONLY place I ever went willingly was to casinos.) I hate the part of the meeting when the group is gathering-the small talk among the men is usually about sport, would you believe. I get frustrated when people mutter when they speak or if I can’t understand their accent, but all those defects are in me, not in GA or the members who attend. I always benefit in some way from the nuggets of wisdom in the room -somebody always says something that gives me a reason to NOT want to gamble. I could find many excuses to gamble if I nit picked every person and everything they say at a meeting. In “real” life, I would have nothing in common with most members but in the Fellowship the common bond is that everyone there has a desire to stop gambling. I have no problem saying “my name is XXXXXXX . I am a Compulsive Gambler” Everybody in the room is broad minded enough to know that there is far more to each of us than that term which is used for brevity and unity. I have a GA meeting tonight. It is very near the last “hellhole” I gambled in, so I have reminders of gambling binges every time I drive that route. It would be very easy to nip in there after a meeting and blame someone in GA for my “slip”. To prevent that occurring, I will just carry the neccessary cash. Glad to hear your counsellor has experience in addiction. The person I went to didn’t but she helped me a lot in other areas. At the end of the day, Jezi we get back what we put into recovery, one day at a time.
Well done, Tekeisha!
nIt was good to meet you in the group tonight.
nOne word of advice
nKEEP IT SIMPLE!Don’t feel excluded, Lizbeth. Your mom and sis obviously HAD to go to the casino. They made that choice and most likely they will regret it.
You COULD have gone if you had chosen to, but you made a better choice.
No regrets!Balance is the name of the game, Monica. I’m an all or nothing person too. When I was working, I almost fell out the door after a 12 hour shift and drove home 40mins. I remember one night, my son almost lifted me out of the car……crazy! and if we popped our clogs tomorrow, what would happen? A line would be drawn through our name ———–just like that. We really are only numbers in the workplace, Monica. My friend took her retirement two weeks ago. She is 60. No man. No children. Bought a house for cash. Doesn’t know what credit is. Takes 5 or six holidays a year. Goes to the Gym –she is size 10 by the way…the opposite to me. I feel like a blob when I meet her.
Would you think of getting your B12s checked , Monica?
Work can be exhausting and if you are running on empty you need to step back and see the bigger picture.
What IS Life about , afterall?
THE GOLDEN MEAN!
Faith
Family
WorkIs it 18 months yesterday, Monica?
Sorry to hear you are “knackered”.
I can relate.
I remember years ago when I first qualified , I thought I had to do EVERYTHING.
A very senior charge nurse called me aside and said one word
“DELEGATE”!One day at a time. The days soon turn to weeks, months, years.
Your whole life is ahead.
Don’t waste it gambling.Thanks for your post to my thread, Sherrie. I have been doing a bit of selling and back at GA . Both involve travelling, so I’m not around GT very much. When I put something up for sale, I become very obsessive…checking, checking, checking….not the best occupation for a CG but I do make a small bit of money. I might get one of those pressure cookers when I save a bit more. Sounds brilliant. I looked it up online. You said you didn’t get “best at anything” on your workshop trip How about best wife, best cook, best driver… Get CUPRINOL for the woodworm and inject it with a syringe. Depends on how extensive it is and the type of timber (my old man is just telling me all this) Hubby might cook a meal for you for if you heal the woodworm! You sure have a busy life. Did himself recover from the extraction?