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to your daughter, Lizbeth.
She is a great girl!That was a terrible shock for you, Monica.
Very well checked out by all accounts. It takes me 48 hrs to from those attacks. I hope you got a cert for work.
Did you tell the doc you are taking the chinese herbs?
On a practical level, have you checked out your entitlements for sick leave pay? Have you signed the permanent contract ? If so you should get full pay, should you not.
One thing I notice when I become ill to that extent is that my gambling past flashes before my mind and all the highs, lows, debts etc pale into insignificance.
When you passed out did you come round quickly?
It really is frightening to feel the life draining from our bodies.
I hope you make a full recovery , Monica,
Stay at home until you are well.I hope you were well enough to enjoy Easter, Monica. That feeling of your heart thumping too fast is scary. Did you have your O2 sats checked? Maybe your HB is low. Don’t neglect. What herbs are you taking? Pop into the Open Group if you’re free now.
Lizbeth, I think you need to slow down.
Toddlers are draining in every way. I think that’s why Mother Nature sends us babies in our 20s/30s and not older.
The child is most likely out of kilter due to recent changes in her life. She misses her mom.
I remember you talking about routine and consistency when you spoke about rearing your girls. Sometimes it’s easier to give in, especially when you are tired.
I have no grandchildren but my sister has lots and takes them for long weekends , always ending with her being exhausted so you are no different, Lizbeth.
It’s good that your mam can do “standby duty” occasionally.
It will make her feel important.
I hope your daughter comes soon to give you a long break.
Remember, Liz she is the mother, not you.
Take time to rest when she is home.
I can understand having gambling thoughts in your circumstances. Are you getting to any GA meetings?
Talking about your situation would help.
One day at a time, Lizbeth . Otherwise you could become easily overwhelmed.…is a long time, Paul. Walking away is not the solution to your wife’s gambling problem. I’m telling you honestly, if my husband had done what you are considering, in the throes of my gambling, it would have given me exactly what I desired-lots of money and a great excuse to continue self destructing. I’m glad it didn’t pan out that way.
I’m even longer married than you, Paul.
Gambling is not about money. It’s an emotional problem.
I suggest you try GAMANON and the Live chats here in F and F, where you will meet others who are sick to the stomach of “Significant Others’ gambling.
Sit tight and lock down ALL your funds, property and valuables.
Money is merely ammunition for a CG. Keep communication lines open.
Hi Paul,
Just a very brief comment.
If your wife is a Compulsive Gambler, as I am and is in charge of your finances, you have every reason to be scared to check the bank statements.
My suggestion would be to tell your wife you would like to see those statements and don’t let her fob you off.
Every gambler needs an enabler.
My husband was my main enabler.
Could you confide in a family member and arrange a mini non confrontational intervention?
No smoke without fire.I don’t like dreaming about weddings, Monica. It always unsettles me for a few days. When I am physically unwell (especially with gut problems) I have very disturbing dreams. The “gut”has to do with emotions as you know. Years ago I went through a number of Dream/Healing sessions. It was based broadly on Jungian methods. I have reservations about many of his theories but this is how it was applied in my sessions. The dreamer (me) would be asked by the therapist to go back into the dream. Recall each details with eyes closed and relate everything to the listener, using the past tense. For example. ” I was standing in a church. I wore a wedding dress. The hall was packed. My mother was there. There was no groom…..” At certain stages the therapist would interject, asking how the dreamer felt etc etc. It sounds interesting even as I write and I remember experiencing healing at different levels at that period in my life. For this to work the dreamer needs to have a good rapport with the therapist. I think it could also be done with a close friend who is interested in dream work. Remember, Monica it’s YOUR dream and you are most likely the best person to find out it’s meaning. Taking a broad guess, I would say this was a “spiritual” dream. The bride and missing groom and the mother were all parts of Monica. What Carl Jung would describe as the anima and the animus are out of balance. The dreamer needs to delve deeper to find out what is creating the imbalance…. I could comment on the withered dress but I will refrain, for. now. All my comments are subjective and open to argument.
‘Sounds as if you really took a big gamble on that holiday, Monica. We live and learn!
The Tourist Agency who took your booking need to compensate you for their horrendous planning.The first two days were taken up with travel, it seems.
I’m laughing at the old guy with COPD. He fancied his chances. ‘Hope he wasn’t too disappointed . I could never go on vacation with strangers. I have so many ideosyncrasies nobody would tolerate my company.
Hi Jezi,
Glad to hear you are still G free. Without the regular “prop”, life can be tough at times.
Looking for happiness in the wrong places will never work.
Being “numb” is not the answer either.
We need to face our demons one at a time, one day at a time.
Keep calm.Nothing worse than being unwell when you’re away Monica.
Holidays are a bit like gambling. Risky business.
At least you got away and came back without spending money on slot machines.
Take it easy for a few days and remember the good times.I have had situations in my life that created voids, CMC. I won’t use your thread to unleash the details. Suffice to say I inadvertently got involved in a “healing session” which resulted in a “water tap” being turned on behind my eyes and I cried for 3 days. This has happened twice in my life that I can recall. Another “downpour” happened after a very significant gambling loss in 2015.
Loss and separation seem to be recurring factors among many CGs
My compulsive gambling escalated after the breakup of a very close / forbidden/secret/unhealthy relationship.
Mr Slot replaced Mr Gimegime and so the abuse/control/manipulation continued for years.
Perhaps you need to revisit that era in your life with your counsellor and work through those emotions in a safe, less secret environment.
Do you dream a lot ? I found Dream Therapy very cathartic.
One thing for sure I can tell you ,CMC is that gambling solves done of these hurts. On the contrary, it compounds all our problems, culminating in abject self destruction.
“What you are aware of, you are in control of; what you are not aware of is in control of you”.
AWARENESS is the key to moving forward and dropping our attachments but it takes a lifetime.
Be aware!
Don’t listen to gambling talk, Beem. It’s all LIES.
Easter is coming.
You don’t want to break your stride.
Gambling has NOTHING to give us.
Well done on your G free time.Crying brings healing, CMC.
How long have you been gambling?
Would it coincide with the time you stopped crying?