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by the sound of things you wont be throwing any more tantrums B!
remember you can ASK for help instead. We can hear youmaybe your sister is not the best person to hold your money Izzi?
If it is leading to stress and conflict, I would get somebody else. Think of her side of the bargain. If you sink you will pull her down too. Is she afraid that might happen? Maybe she is still angry with you and using her new power to control you. All very unhealthy ways of dealing with your problem, Izzi. I think you entered this arrangement very quickly Izzi and you sound resentful, already!
Just my thoughts!by the time this post arrives on your thread , you will be into your 9th day, Blu!
How come we get so hung up on ******** days? Is it a sort of mourning period for what we left behind or is it in anticipation or trepidation of our next bet? And do we need to know the reasons why we gambled? When I was in the throes of gambling I could not fathom for the life of me why everyone didn’t gamble. I used to think that non gamblers were missing out on life! typical CG distorted thinking. It’s only when we become sick of our sickness,that we look for a way out!
These days I try to keep life simple. When I dwell on deep reasons , I sometimes find myself escaping and fantasizing. Staying rooted in reality helps. That’s where work helps.
Maybe your partner would step in by taking care of your next pay cheque Blu, to prevent her fear being fulfilled?Bettie. it must be very hard for you to accept that you made that dreaded trip to the casino…(I will write more in an e mail…)
There is nothing for it but to start again…
As for that Lady who "healed" your ankle and brought you a present of an angel, I would just say, be cautious! I believe in God’s power to heal us of our ills and weaknesses, but don’t think He needs self appointed "healers" to do His job. These people target the vulnerable and at this point in time you are vulnerable, Bettie! All He needs is our consent to work in our lives. You gave that consent when you surrendered and admitted to being powerless over gambling. Now is the time to renew that admission.
If it’s any consolation.B.I very nearly gambled too…read Cat’s thread…
So all I will say is " there but for the Grace of God, go I!"Bettie!…………..words fail me…running out to work now…maybe my eyes are blurred…
I wish I could follow some of your good example Reds!
Well done ! Working with hubby is a great idea. That means you cant disappear to gamble, but you don’t want to do that anymore!
Happy New Year! I’m heading out to work now. Very stormy weather here today.
Odaat!Having a supportive family is your trump card, Erin.
I was very impressed that you were all praying as a family and with your husband’s petition.
Grace builds on nature.
Nothing good ever came from gambling so like you Erin, I need to say No every day.
365 "NOs" and next year we will be richer in every way!Well done on resisting the urges Luke!
Whether it’s day 4 or day 4 hundred , they can come from nowhere "like a thief in the night"!
Keep setting up things to do. Make plans. Arranges "dates", frequent short trips, meeting with friends. Time fillers to replace the action. Meditation in a group might be more successful than trying it alone. One of the after effects of gambling is restlessness and impatience with everything . We miss the fast action and the buzz. Walking releases stress but be careful what direction you take! Music can be consoling, but certain music reminds me of the casino and I associate it with my "good *****" there…in short, everything can act as a trigger in the early days.
The main aim is to make it impossible to gamble, Luke. Having NO MONEY in my possession and not being alone for too long are my best alibis!
Time and money are the main gambling ingredients.
Glad to see you’ ve joined the pact. It’s just another way of staying interested and accountable! A useful recovery tool for some!Glad you got the gambling urge out of your system in time for the New Year kick off, Cat!
What’s done is done. As much as we hate gambling or hate ourselves for giving in to it, we cannot change things after the crime is committed.
I very nearly went myself today..so very very close that I almost believe I gambled, so I know how you feel Cat. Ithe scary part was that I didn’t care if I gambled or not! The results were as if I had gambled. I suffered the after effect without even entering the casino. How powerful is that? "Absent gambling" so to speak! As a result, I was unable to go to work. Due to start nights but luckily someone who ***** a night off next week agreed to work for me tonight. Not my decision totally. Not what I wanted . I feel I am losing control when I cannot do what I am should do. It is as if gambling is gainining some control over my life again, albeit indirectly!
So here we are Cat back to reality. Back to today. Back to NOW!‘Hope you managed to avoid going near the bank Grace!
Could you arrange a separate outing with your granddaughter, maybe a one to one trip to the cinema or playground to celebrate her 5th birthday? Sometimes little girls like to be singled out. If not, just plan a different event altogether. You and your friend will have next week to look forward to. I have learned that it’s unhealthy to try to suck love from children. I tried it with my son and he told me straight up what he thought of me! Are there any literary groups near you Grace? It seems to me that you need company of your own age to share your interests. You sure won’t find it in a casino. Everyone there will be "into their own buzz" as the youngsters say!
ODAAT,GRACE!If I were to post HAPPY NEW YEAR on everyone’s thread , I would be up all night and still miss someone, so, since your thread has the most "views" and "reads", I ll say it here, Larry and a big thank you for being my MENTOR!
NEW YEAR BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOUR’S and to ALL who look at this thread!Hi Kathryn!
As Geordie said a week ago "NEXT WEEK IT WILL BE NEXT YEAR". That stuck with me.
We can also say "tomorrow will be today", SO
HAPPY NEW YEAR KATHRYN ! YOU ARE AHEAD OF US IN TIME, BUT LET’S SHARE ALL OUR DAYS DURING 2012, AND LET THEM ALL BE GAMBLE FREE!
Nice knowing you K!
God Bless!You got it in one on my thread Larry..
If recovery is going to overpower me, I might as well be gambling.
I dont want to be a slave to anything.
Gambling or recovery!
Re covery can, unfortunately, un cover the issues gambling served to cover. these actions may have caused us to gamble initially.
Being AWARE of this, may or may not cause us to spring into action. If we are just re acting to life, we will be no different to the slave who gambled compulsively. Anything which becomes a compulsion enslaves us. We need to drop ALL our desires Larry.
My biggest desire is staring me in the eye right now. Recognising that desire is part of recovery. I’m trying to "receive my demons", one day at a time.If a Relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it!
Not preaching, B! Just saying!P.S
I used to feel flattered by such calls! Like gambling these relationships are illusions!
Big difference between flattery and abuse.
Don’t allow yourself to be used B!
You KNOW you are worth far more than that.
Maybe this is not "it", B!
Hungry hounds follow the scent and chase ’til they get their "kill".
Like hyngry CGs chasing their losses!
Raise your barriers.
Try not to play games with him. I think that’s what we miss when we bow out. The game!