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Sorry to hear that shocking news Bettie! Stops us in our tracks, doesnt it?
Take your vacation, Bettie. You need a break. Hanging around the house is not good. A change of s enery will be of benefit to you. why not go to Carole’s? No idea how far that would be though. I wish you could hop on a plane and come to Ireland. We WILL arrange that sometime B…we really will! Im still waiting for Geordie’s visit… If only, if only!Sorry to hear you feel exclude AGAIN, Bettie! But you DO know that these feelings are just feelings! However, not being invited to events can be a bit of a let down, but if you feel negative about yourself for NOT being invited, you will also feel negative even if you ARE invited. I often find myself saying "maybe they only invited me as an afterthought, or to make up the numbers, or because they knew I would bring a present!"….Stinkin thinkin!…then I have to shake myself and remember that other peoples’ motives may have nothing whatsoever to do with my feelings or thoughts. I have to remove myself from being in the "poor me" place, and say "Bugger the lot of them. No matter what THEY do or say, I will continue being myself and if they don’t want me, it’s their loss!"
If we dwell on feelings of being the "odd one out", it can lead to gambling Bettie, because in a casino NOBODY gives a damn who you are or how you feel because all they want is your money!
Look for another GA group but dont expect to be included in the social lives of people who have bonded together before you arrived. If people need to be part of a clique it tells me they are not my type. I hate cliques! I prefer people who can stand up and be counted as individuals.
"To thine own self be true", Bettie!Thanks for your post to my thread Larry. You are spot on! Keeping the plan to gamble a secret is a big mistake. Not using my thread is another cop out. Charles is right. I do avoid using it.
Three things happened this month to make the opportunity to gamble seem easier and more urgent. Number one was that I overspent on a few "treats" ( birthday presents, theatre tickets, meals out etc), hence leaving me more short of cash than I have been in a long time . Number two, I was off work sick for a week in April and was paid less as a result. The third thing is, I applied for a new credit card with the intention of transferring my existing balance and avoid paying interest and when the new card arrived, it said nothing about a transfer from my old card so it was just like a new loan. A new card with a credit limit of € 3,750 (my secret stash! A dream come true for any CG-money to use as I see fit)
My chance to try out a new little casino I had discovered recently had come! Hubby was away for the day. I was off work and my card was activated at midnight last night.
Fortunately wisdom prevailed in the following form. I went through the whole gambling scenario i.e. played the tape right through to the end. I read Cat’s post again asking me to start the May Pact which I did, thus making myself more accountable. ( who said a monthly pact is a bad idea?) If I had to account for today only, I felt I could have easily drawn a line through it and pretended nothing happened. So instead of gambling, to "win" the money I felt I needed, I went back to my GP this morning and got the sick cert I needed to ensure that the balance of my salary will be paid ( a surer bet than the slot machines), then I looked at the credit card for what it is CREDIT not my money , then I came home . hopped into bed for the afternoon and the rest is history…
Hubby home now. Fire lighting. Dinner over and I’m another G free day older and wiser!
Thank God!"fat" "obese" "overweight" are just words, Bettie. How we react to those words is up to us. Whoever uses those words to hurt people, has an even greater problem than the person they say them to!
Like gambling recovery, there are ways to overcome a weight problem. It involves hard work, the right tools and a lot of patience.
Back to odaat B!
That’s my next project!Hope you didn’t give in to that temptation to gamble Franco..
All it does it sets you back in recovery.
Can you Think of one good thing that gambling has ever given you?
I can’t..
but I can remember the grief, the loss, the pain, the agony, the tormented thoughts, the lack of sleep, lack of money etc etc.
Ever been to Bettystown lately?Hope youre feeling a bit better B, and that you returned those pills to the pharmacy and got a refund. They should point out side effects and contraindications to customers. Go and get your money back today!
I was buying "Sinutabs" for hubby in the chemists and the girl mentioned "is he on anti -hypertensives" I said no. Otherwise she would have advised me not to buy them . So go and let them know they made a blunder. Your customers wouldn’t be long pulling you up. If we make the slightest drug error at work there are heads rolling!
Have a good weekend B! I’m back to work on Monday. The 3 weeks flew!…and thanks for your post to my thread Larry.
Who wants half a million dollars?
Far too stressful to deal with!
Choose recovery instead, because as Geordie says…
recovery is priceless!I agree fully with your post on the March Pact, Larry when you refer to gambling being a form of self destruction.
In my case, and from what I know of you, maybe your’s too, we are probably punishing ourselves for "failed relationships" real or perceived. In my case, due to what I see as my failure to establish "normal" relationships, I sabotage what remains of each relationship and turn people away from me rather than cause them further hurt. Instead of using gambling to escape these issues I know I should be getting in touch with what lies at the core of my problem, but that would involve opening too many cans of worms and looking at a cure . Gambling brings some temporary relief. A cure brings pain, but pain brings healing……All very complex and enlightening but we must stop gambling first…Bettie! Bettie! Bettie!
what happened ya?
Sounds as if there is a lot going on beneath the gambling.
E mail me if you feel up to it….if God can’t talk sense into you, I ‘ll try!Sorry to hear you had a disappointment at work, Kathryn! Hope your job is not at stake? We live in scary times!
My daughter is home on hols. All off with her B/F in Sydney . ( a mother’s prayers never go unanswered) and she met a lovely guy from guess whwere….MELBOURNE!
Bad news is, he works in the Middle East!
Life is full of disappointmets and surprises but we don’t rely on gambling any more to solve themmm
Glory be to God!HAPPY BIRTHDAY BETTIE!
LIFE BEGINS AT……………??Hello Layy!
Sorry to hear some unpleasant things are going on in your life right now. A CG sees two choices when a problem arises. Face up or run away . It seems you are facing up!
Wouldn’t it be great if there were no problems and if everything just ran smoothly in this life? Or would it? Maybe we would use boredom as an excuse to gamble, then. I hope your daughter’s father in law will receive suitable treatment for his illness and make a good recovery.
As for the dental work…all I can say is DON’T go there!!! I need serious "renovations" in that area…had the money saved and guess where it went…
As for the daughter! Another "bundle of joy/turned terrorist!" Teenagers specialise in targeting the parent who is more likely to pick up the flac and they are highly skilled at playing mum and dad off against each other. I often wonder if these skills are the only thing they learn in school. Girls, especially , have the back up of about 200 peers, whom they phone as soon as they part company and then between facebook/twitter/ bebo and every other "social" network,they use every moment to perferct their "persecution" skills and use them against their parents for their own benefit. You are in "Gangland" Larry so just BACK OFF! The unfortunate parents (us) on the other hand have a different set of lifeskills to fall back on. If your lessons were anything like mine, those "skills" were based on virtues! We were told to "be honest" Be loyal" "be kind/tolrent " etc etc. Sadly, these virtues are outmoded now and instead of" love your neighbour" the kids are learning to outdo/override/resent their neighbour/peers. They speak a different language these days Larry and live in a very different world. It was a shock to me when my kids hit the teenage years, to discover that their values are no longer mine. In the schools, in Ireland they brought in programmes at that time to bring the parents "in line" with their kids’ confused/errant ways. Most parents fell for this plot and within a few years, they and the kids were rolling along like headless chickens. I told my kids at the time that whatever they decided to do, that I ll be sticking to my guns…..did it work out…? Yes and no! For the main part it was a disaster for many years especially for my youngest son who decided to follow his own counsel at 16. Combined with alcohol/drugs/ refusal to attend school and eventually his leaving home, I had a fair share of grief and blame of course everything that wwnt wrong in his life was my fault. Not his father’s! Mine! I thank God that he had someone to blame and direct his anger towards,otherwise he would have turned that anger on to himself….
Incidently we, his parents are not split up. neither of us had left home. He was the one who did that…so don’t allow her to lay the separation on your doprstep to excuse her behaviour!
In brief, Larry, you won’t win over your teenager. My advice is to sit back and observe. Tell her you will always be there for her and stick to your own principles because if you start to water them down her security will be shattered even more than it already is.
Try to see the wider picture,Larry.Given time, everything changes and very few of these changes are within our control.
God bless!Bettie!
It’s horrible having to admit to having a long term illness!
Like, gambling, ACCEPTANCE is the first step.
Then SURRENDER!
After that it’s all about taking it one day at a time.
Living life is all about odaat, I guess!
Paying for "drugs" we really don’t want to put into our system is a bummer, but what’s the alternative?
We might be better off if we could learn to "receive our demons" instead of fighting them.
Escaping to the casino with a packet of cigs and a bottle of brandy seems like the best solution today, but what about tomorrow?
In Ireland ,Treatment for diabetes comes under the LTI scheme. Everything is free.
Other long term illness like Hyrertension, High Cholesterol etc are not covered, so like you I pay an arm and a leg for medication I DON’T want to take…however if we buy our meds bi monthly, it is all covered under the calender month payment scheme. Ask your chemist again. Keep pestering whoever is involved because it sounds as if it’s beyond your means.
Will you be able to claim back on your tax at the end of the year B? Keep all your receipts and have a try.
"Accepting the things we cannot change" sounds very easy until we realise that there ARE actually some things that will never change.
Yet, I have discovered that everything changes so hopefully Bettie, when you begin to adjust to the increased meds you might have a surprise in store.
In the meantime, safe driving in your Chevrolet Cruz!
Hi Larry and thanks for your post to me via Sherry’s thread!
My original thread was called REACH OUT and my "logo" was "all the sevens".
I closed that thread when I stopped reaching out.
Kathryn then opened a thread on my behalf entitled FOR VERA.
Time moved on.
I gambled during that time and on my way home in the early hours I heard Joan Armatrading singing "THE WEAKNESS IN ME". That is one of my favourite songs , for other reasons…
When my Reach Out Thread was closed , "all the 7’s" disappeared…
Life is a mystery but I do believe everything happens for a reason.
Today I will not gamble!
Thanks Larry for being there!‘Wish you would "intimidate" me whenever I fall off the recovery bus, Kathryn!! lol!
Did you ever hear the like!
CGs will use any excuse to avoid recovery! Jealousy will get us nowhere!
I know we met early in your recovery, Kathryn and I always feel a close affinity to you. I really wish you a happy, peaceful, blessed life! You have made major strides in recovery. Through all the ups and downs we still managed to get a few laughs together and YOU never gave up. I did! I was selfish, undisciplined, careless and complacent but you stuck to your recovery guns through thick and thin!
Nobody can take that from you!
Well done and if you ever stop coming here I will personally go to Melbourne and FIND YOU!
Today, I did not gamble!