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Bettie,
My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2007. It was too late to commence chemo or offer surgery because it had already metastasized to the bone. She was in agony. She had to be admitted to the local Hospice where she was put on a morphine pump. We were all prepared for the worst outcome. When the medical staff got the pain under control, my sister asked if they would try oral medication. She was a very stron willed woman. They did, and she was discharged home and attended the hospice every week for art sessions ( it was one of the therapies offered while patients were also monitored medically and treated with alternative remedies as well as conventional medicine).By coincidence, my sister was an Art Therapist, so she looked on her visits as going to work rather than being a patient! My othersister and I went to the UK to support her as much and as often as we could. We took her on at least three trips to Ireland. The pain was kept under control for two years. Sadly she went downhill from Easter 2009 and finally died (RIP) in the hospice in June 2009. Her final 2 years were painfree and fruitful.
With proper and well managed pain relief, she had two good years which she used to prepare herself to "move on". She enjoyed life, settled her affairs ( to some degree) and didn’t suffer as much as she initially expected She wasn’t a religious person, but towards the end she said "it had to be prayer that took away the pain, because there were no guarantees that the drugs wouldn’t fail me". She thanked me for everything and after she died I asked myself " what did I give her?" I was gambling heavily during those two years but managed to shake off my addiction every 5 or 6 weeks and travel to the UK on a pretend holiday to support and monitor her.
I know now Bettie that what I gave her was HOPE!
That’s the best gift you can offer your friend at this time, Bettie!
HOPE!
Thanks for the Links Larry! I will read them when I get a chance!
I do have problems with being "programmed" to gambling! I really do not want to be programmed to anything. I want to be free! The problem with gambling is that the addiction is stronger than any programming I’ve ever encountered and the desire to gamble for a raving CG overcomes every desire or wish for recovery. If compulsive gambling was just about being programmed it would be far easier to stop. Unfortunately addiction withdrawal is a more difficult issue. I think sometimes we just have to learn to do without what we feel is our "heart’s desire!" For me, nothing replaces the buzz that gambling gives and yet no amount of gambling will relieve the insatiable desire. Can’t live with it! Can’t live without it! Its a no win situation Larry!
Cold turkey might be the best route!Hope you have a great St Patrick’s Weekend RtC!
Thanks for all your support on my thread.
I could have had a round trip to New York for the St Pat celebrations with all I have lost recently.
Pretending you are not as skint as you are is stressful but borrowing to appear rich is lethal. I learned that too late….
"A fool and his money are easily parted". "Easy come, easy go".
Both have been my downfall this year. Where will it end?
Like you, I need to be ready to change before disaster really strikes!‘Hope all goes well with your job Bonkers. If you are able to carry out your duties you should get a favourable medical report. I can see why you didnt tell them about the pacemaker…I was sent to Occ Health last year and like a fool revealed too much. It was all slapped up to me at a "feedback" meeting with admin. Suffice to say the doc in Occ Health was very apologetic when I went back to confront her for breach of confidentiality. She said it wont happen again….It sure won’t because my union rep will be with me next time. Are you in a Union B?
Congrats on the birth of your grand daughter. Try to see her so you two can bond when she is still "new!"Thanks for your support and advice P! It fell on deaf ears, unfortunately….what more can I say.
Everytime I gamble. it’s totally my own fault!
I feel very detatched from everything and everyone right now. Just like a robot! The nightmares are back.Wishing you a speedy recovery, B!
ODAAT!So sorry to hear of this awful tragedy, Sherry! Suicide is such a difficult legacy to handle. Over the past 15 years, there were two suicides in our extended family. Both men. Both fathers of families. One **** related, it seems. The other one was never "clarified". The man in question hung himself on the morning of his daughter’s wedding…..He was my husband’s cousin.
May this young man, and all who took their own lives rest in peace. I will pray especially for the mother of your son-in-law’s brother RIP. She must be broken hearted. I find this increasing trend very scary. Society is gravely lacking and we have to live with a lot of answered questions.
Gambling would have left you totally devastated Sherry.
The family are blessed to have your support.
God grant you the strength to deal with this sad situation!HAND ME DOWN MY FIDDLE, ICAN!!!
I could sing, play and dance to that tune!
Who would these youngsters blame if they didn’t have mothers!! (sorry guys!)
I hope and pray your daughter gets the job if its meant to be!Even thinking about the pain makes me cringe B! I’m a total coward when it comes to pain and I realise I’m spoiled rotten. My husband waits on me hand and foot. Not willingly, but he does everything I need him to do!
I hope you ask for the help you need and don’t attempt to go back to work until you are fully recovered.I will be thinking of you tomorrow B! ‘Hope and pray all goes well! You will be a new woman in a few days!
To answer your question, Elvis, Yes I did gamble in that casino and many others lately, Im very ashamed to say, and in the time I was "having fun" I lost a lot of hard earned money.
Last bet 31st January 2013!
I hope it will the very LAST!I AM banned from that casino Kathryn, but banning in Ireland means NOTHING unless you are personally known to the staff!
Happy Birthday Harry.
Its my big brother’s birthday too!
His name is Kevin!
I’d say you are out celebrating!
Enjoy !Just bringing you to the top, Blue!
Cream always rises to the top!
******** the days can be both stressful and rewarding. It can act in both ways. We can leave each day behind us and say I am a step further from my last bet and move forward, or the Cg mind can see that method as gaining free time to "earn" a reward for abstaining.
That’s the best of just focussing on today!
Today,I had 30 euro and petrol in my car. A neighbour who hasnt been well lately , called I told her I was going to get my hair cut in one of my favourite places in Dublin ( a small chinese hair saloon) and asked her if she would like to come. For €25 , I got a hair wash, head massage, cut, styled and blow dry. I sure wouldnt have gotten that value in a casino.
The block away from that hair saloon has a casino that I have frequented twice lately, so having someone with me was a great barrier in case I was tempted. I told my husband I was going but as you know CGs always have a B Plan. I had a scissors in the car and would have cut my own hair and come home whinging that the hairdresser had done a botched job, but on this occasion I didnt need to go to such extremes!
Keep your money in your pocket Blue. The "fatcats" have enough!
— 09/02/2013 22:13:32: post edited by vera.All that cleaning and de cluttering is what I planned to do at the start of the New Year, Ican…
ten years ago!!!
Multiply that clutter by ten now and think of how bad it is! They say a cluttered house is indictive of a cluttered mind!
Gambling is the cause of all this clutter.
Conclusion?
No gamble-no clutter, odaat!