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Bake a cake. Put it in the oven and WAIT…..by the time the cake is cooked, hopefully the smell of the fresh baking will have overtaken the urge to gamble.
This has worked for me in the past!High anxiety for a few night after a gambling loss, Jo?
I have had high anxiety every night, since I lost money gambling and I know the anxiety will not disappear until my debts are cleared. The only thing we can do to cut down on the anxiety is to ensure we do not increase it by gambling again. Gambling relieves the anxiety for a while, but in the long term, increases it. My anxiety manifests itself in many ways, but mainly in sleepless nights where my head buzzes and I relive the highs and lows of gambling. (The lows outweigh the highs!) I have spent many a night adding and subtracting and shuffling money around in my head, but it DOES ease the longer we stay away from the “action”!
Just take it one day at a time, Jo and don’t expect instant results.
We are reaping what we sowed!Missed you in Charles’ group, P!
I hope you were SLEEPING!!!!
February is already over in your part of the world.
Another G free month to add to your collection!WELL DONE!
Hi Jo and welcome to GT!
I first came here in 2008 and the biggest regret I have is that I did not follow the advice or use the tools I was given then, to reform my life. I stopped gambling for long spells. Banned myself from several casinos but always found new ones. When I read that the next casino is further away from you, it reminded me of my situation. casinos that were “too far away” became my “local” after the first few trips. No distance is too far for a CG, JO. I travelled long distances , in all weathers, at all hours of the day and night to get my “buzz”. Indeed , when we ban ourselves or limit our chances to gamble, the urges can become so strong that we would go through flying bullets to get there.
“Why do we gamble?” is a common question! When I am in the throes of addiction I would say “why not?” but when I stand back and look at the reality I realise it is a form of madness. Nobody in their right mind would keep putting money in a slot machine and expect to get even half of it back, yet Cgs keep doing the same thing over and over hoping for different results! While we are sitting around waiting for “good results” , we are destroying our lives. It’s only when we wake up as you have done, Jo that we see that our lives are in a mess all due to gambling!
the good news is that we CAN change.
Keep posting and reading here. Its a good (though underused site) and you will meet lots of new friends who understand your plight and one day at a time things will improve in your life.
The alternative is to do it your way and lose everything!
Gambling comes with a price tag Jo. It ruins lives!
Well done on having the courage to take the first step!
We learn from each other!Good to see a post from you R2C.
I’m “white knuckling” through the month of February.
ODAAT!That Agency seems to be leaving themselves wide open for litigation Carole. An ordinary blood donor would be given far more information prior to the procedure. I think I would take the investigation to a higher level. Not only for your own satisfaction , but for the protection of future donors and recipients.
You learned the hard way P, that alcohol and medication don’t mix!! Some people seem to get away with it but I never did! I “suffer” if I drink alcohol. Enough to turn me off it for ever. I wonder if there is any such aversion therapy for gambling?
Your mam is lucky to have you. P….I hope the weather has cooled down in your state !Glad to read that you are feeling better Carole!
Sometimes it takes huge effort!
I know you know that gambling won’t solve your problems but it does SEEM to ease things for the time being. Having little or no money is the only way to be sure you wont gamble again.
Would you and Danny consider marriage counselling? (eeeek!!)Sorry to hear you are unwell, Sam. I missed you in the groups.
I wasn’t feeling great myself today. My husband and son were going to Dublin. I was talking to Charles in the Topic Group. Suddenly, I just decided that I would force myself to go too. (Sorry for abrupt departure Charles. Very bad manners!) Anyway, I’m home now. I didn’t wait to attend the literary group where a new book was being launched but I felt good for going out when I could have sat at home feeling sorry for myself. Sometimes we have to force ourselves Sam but we have to cut our cloth to size too.
Maybe a break away from your routine for a couple of days would help?I often think of you Reds and wonder did your dad settle in to the nursing facility or if he moved to another place? ‘Must be hard on your mum and on all the family?
Well done on not gambling!Thank God your daughter’s operation was a success Lorraine! Now the two of you can support each other in “recovery” odaat!
‘Don’t know how you live with 3 cats Carole! Would you consider taking the “one eyed” cat to a cat shelter for a few days at give your mom’s cat time to adjust to her new companions one at a time? Maye two opponents are too much for her . ( I’m not into cats so can only judge in human terms) Two is company , three is a crowd!
Are you coming back to the chat Sam?
WELL DONE P!
Come to the group now if you’re up…Hold off on that request, is my suggestion Carole….more later…