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I haven’t blocked my access to money totally either Jo. I think a little bit of me (us) always wants to leave a door ajar to gambling. We need to bolt those doors firmly and SURRENDER!
I joined this site in May 2008.
Six years “talking the talk!”
Time to “walk the walk now”. It is not easy, but gambling will kill me if I don’t quit. My health is affected as well as my finances…
By the way , have you “met”Bettie who is a member here? One of the successes! I think you are from the same area….Might be good to have someone to call, if B agrees to that!Take care Reds!
Remember we are with you in Spirit. You are never alone!
Stay in touch!Well done Jo!
You had a very close shave today! I had lots of days like that ! “Will I, won’t I?…why not?….. Maybe I will win(sic)…another few hundred won’t make any difference etc etc!” I often turned back from gambling , but more often than not, I didn’t! It is not a good idea to go out alone when you have access to cash, Jo. Think about it…..
Going out alone with cash has been my downfall.
No money=no gamble!!!
It also means no urges, or very few because the addiction only lingers when it knows it can be met.
Harry posted (on your thread I think) some time ago that debt did not cause him the anxiety it caused me, but knowing he COULD gamble created his anxiety.
Remove the source of the anxiety Jo.
Remove you access to money!
Make it IMPOSSIBLE TO GAMBLE!
NOW!
Life will become easier as time goes on.
YOU WILL NEVER GET THE MONEY BACK THAT YOU LOST!
Neither will I!!!!
Let it go…..odaatWell done on completing three months Rehab, Ruthless!
I’m sure you are looking forward to coming back to your wife and children, and they will be waiting with open arms to embrace you!
Take it easy in the early days.
The transition period won’t be easy.
Good that you have this site to support you!
Stay in touch!
ODAAT!It takes a while for a CG to regain his/her Purpose in Life, Berber.
Keep treating your husband as head of the household. You know his true role. When he sees you giving him his rightful status ,with time, he will slot into that role. Gambling damages our dignity and self respect but it can be restored.
As mother, you are the heart of the family.
You have your priorities right.
Never give up hope.
Work on the little things. One day at a time!Sincere condolences on the death of your dear Dad, Reds!
May his soul rest in peace!
Nothing prepares us for the death of a parent, but you have had some time to become accustomed to his absence since he went to the nursing home.
It would have become increasingly difficult for your mom as time progressed Reds, so all in all it is for the better.
God knows best!
I will remember you and your mom especially in my prayers.Just to say I’m thinking of you today Jo. I hope you got some sleep and that you are coming to terms with your loss!
How crazy is that?
That we have to come to terms with self inflicted loss(torture!)
God forbid, if we were diagnosed with some incurable disease we would be searching frantically for ways to ease our pain but with gambling, (which IS an incurable/progressive disease) here we are (sometimes) still searching for ways to gamble and when we have to face the inevitable loss, sickness, grief and pain we wonder how it happened! Yet , because we are CGs, we repeat the same action over and over.
I think this repetitive action is what causes a CG to be confused Jo. We never stop for long enough to think. When we are in the throes of gambling our thoughts become blurred and like dogs chasing their tails, we keep going around in circles until we are forced to stop….
I gather from your posts that you gamble on slot machines? They are also my poison. I could sit for 20 hours at a time watching those damn reels spinning , waiting for the random prize and feeling the thrill of “winning” even €50, and all the time denying that it cost me five hundred!
It is only when we step back and look at it logically, Jo, that we will regain some sanity and power.
As Cat rightly says EVERY TIME we put a cent into those machines we become powerless.
The two lessons I have learned the very hard way are,
1. Once we cross the line into the CG world there is no turning back!
2. CGs NEVER win!Stay focused. Just for today!
Great to hear you sounding happy and relaxed, Carole!
“The divil you know is better than the divil you don’t know!”
It takes two to tango so maybe now that you have had a break from Danny, you two will catch up on lost time.
Gambling is not the solution to life’s problems Carole. We both know that.
In one of Ken’s “Gift for the day” emails it mentions GRATITUDE and ACCEPTANCE!
I’m try to be grateful for all I have and accept all the shortfalls!
E mail when you get a chance Carole!Good to meet you in Charles’ group earlier Jo.
Every time I gamble, it involves a plan. I put the plan in place. Like a sleeping monster that plan lies in wait. Then , when I get the ammunition (money and time) and the impulse strikes, off I go!
Trace your steps back and see if you too had a plan?
I am trying to set up alternative plans these days . I need to make sure I have no spare time and no spare money.
Try it Jo!
it works!Thinking of you all the time, P!
Hoping ‘n praying you’ll be back soon!Good to hear that Bettie! Healthcare is gone crazy worldwide !
Smoking , gambling, bad diet are all forms of self destruction.
Better shape up!“We can ACT ourselves into thinking right easier than we can THINK ourselves into acting right!” was Ken L’s “Gift” on May 2nd.
Food for thought!
Today my actions ruled my thoughts…
I did not gamble!Just want to say I’m thinking of you Lori!
‘Hope you are ok?