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Haven’t seen any post from you this month, Jo?
I’m just wondering how you are getting on since your mother’s visit?
The memory of your brother’s death and your mam’s departure from your home will leave a void which may leave you vulnerable.
Even if you have gambled, Jo, don’t wait too long before you come back.
Every day is a new day!Well done on taking what I’m sure is a positive step, Kathryn (You don’t take negative steps!!!)
This time last hear, I was still working . My Boss announced at a ward meeting that he was leaving (ten years before his due date).
I caught a glimpse of his next in line, who to this day, I’m convinced pushed him over the edge and caused him to leave. G.U.I.L.T. was written all over her!She made an immediate announcement that she would “NOT NOT NOT” look for his job…..Suffice to say, she jumped in like a snot off a hot shovel as soon as he walked out the door and has made everyone’s life HELL since!
Lots of staff left (myself included). The people who stayed and who keep in touch with me are at their wits end. She screams and bellows and would hang her own mother! No loyalty! I could not work in that environment Not for diamonds, yet I feel sorry for her. Bosses who are stressed need to quit! Unfortunately they pull a lot of good people down first. I hope you document all your grievances, K. I did!
Of course you will have no bother getting a new job! Treat yourself to a month off first and maybe do a bit of agency work in the meantime! You can do anything you want !
The only thing you can not do is gamble! ODAAT!Lorraine,
Sometimes it is in a patient’s best interest to change their status from “voluntary ” to “involuntary”when they need to remain in long term care. Under The Mental Treatment Act (In Ireland) this change in status can only be “recommended”. The Mental Health Commission was set up to ensure people who are detained under The Act and are in long term care will be assessed at regular intervals to review their status on an ongoing basis. Relatives are invited to attend these Tribunals as are “patients” , if they are capable.
Don’t panic yet Lorraine. Your husband’s condition was NOT caused by your gambling. Neither will gambling reverse his position. Attend the meeting . Listen to what is planned. Its all simply explained in the Mental Health Handbooks.
I’m sure most of these Laws and Acts pertain to healthcare, worldwide.
Do not blame yourself for what has happened. People who never gambled have spouses and family members in long term care. Legal protocols and conditions apply in all cases.
Keep yourself informed of every move and read the Recommendations before agreeing to anything.
At Mental Health Tribunals, Orders are sometimes revoked.
Keep a clear head by not gambling!
KNOW YOUR RIGHTS!Heartfelt condolences Ken.
God will give you the strength to cope.
One day at a time.Take it easy with the fishing buddy, Lizbeth…is that the guy who came to fix your computer and offloaded all his sorrow about his son?
I’ve come across a few of those in my day!
Not being judgemental…..jusy sayin!(He might turn out to be lovely of course!) Bring a third person with you!!!
Why would you lose hope now P, when you need it more than ever?
We are all behind you now. Never give up!
You certainly have much more hope trying Recovery again, than you have when you are out there gambling recklessly! No hope of winning! Every hope of losing!
I will pray for the Gift of Hope for you P!
It is a very special gift. Without Faith there is no Hope. Without Hope , there is no Charity!
One day at a time. Don’t look back! It’s futile! Don’t look forward either. Today is all any of us have. Try to find simple things to do that will bring you relaxation and peace. Try 5 minutes walking . Next 5 minutes sitting with your eyes closed, taking deep breaths. Next 5, feeling the sunshine on your face. Next 5 listening to music. Next 5 stroking your cat …..and so on until you FEEL the real YOU coming back to life.My guess is that you are still in shock.
Gambling has often left me feeling numb. Like a zombie! Traumatized!
You will come back to reality bit by bit P.
Time is a great healer.
In one of KenL’s Daily e mails it says every day use Gratitude and Acceptance at every turn.
Let’s try it P…..HAPPY BIRTHDAY TWILIGHT!
I would not recommend buying a slot machine Jo!
You may tire of it quickly or it may serve to keep your addiction alive and lead you back to the real thing!Well done Jo!
Referring to a comment you made about not always feeling stress before you gamble…I often wonder would we be better off to FEEL that stress rather than allow it to simmer inside and then release it in unhealthy ways e.g gambling.
We sure feel the stress in the aftermath of gambling and the long term effects are far from pleasant!I was disconnected from the chat P…..
Glad your mother is being looked after Carole!
You sound really busy!
It’s one way of avoiding gambling!!!Well done on the great effort P!
Recovery is not easy but it is possible. Hang in here ! We need you!Small steps L.
You’ll never walk alone!come to the group Jo…its on now…
I hear you Jo, on feeling the doom and gloom of your last binge still. In my case I will feel that grief until my debt is paid. Four more years! Yes it is tempting to try to retrieve some of “our” money, but the truth is, it is not OUR money any more . We threw it away. We will NEVER get it back.
Are we going to throw “good money after bad” and waste more time ? Then face yet another hangover?
As Charles said on Sad’s thread, “We can’t have one without the other!”
Hang in Jo. We are doing fine. Breathe deeply. Live simply! Odaat!