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Well done on two years Larry!
You were on my mind all week I knew your anniversary was around this time but not sure of the date.
Maybe you will pop in to the Group now to celebrate!Well done on starting your own journal LW!
Compulsive gambling is a progressive disease which destroys lives. Things will not improve for a gambler until we stop gambling. As soon as we take the first step and follow the advice we are given, we will begin to see an improvement in our lives.
Try to be patient. Take all the help you can get and keep postponing your next bet!
It is possible to stop gambling one day at a time!
Keep posting!Despite all , Lizbeth, your daughter still knows where to turn when she is in trouble. I see great hope there!
It could be an answer to prayer that her boyfriend is leaving. Now she might be able to see things more clearly!
I envy you for your energy. I love reading about YOU doing all the things I should be doing….maybe tomorrow!
One good thing we have in common, is that we don’t gamble!!‘Hope the flu like symptoms have subsided, Bettie and that you have a great vacation and some great “sister time!”
“usually the only way to relieve” the pressure needn’t have to be so, Jack!
Change “usually” to “sometimes” and “only” to “optional” and you will see more clearly how you might learn to “accept the things you cannot change” etc.
Even a CG has choices!It is just terrifying when our “children”go off the radar Lizbeth…sometimes my son does that for months. Every time the phone rings my heart stops when he is missing but we have to let them go. We cannot live their lives. When my son comes home, the place lights up but after an hour or two the sparks fly. Then it usually ends up in chaos. ( not a good thing for a CG to have to deal with!) We cannot change them Liz, only set limits and boundaries. I think, as mothers we should follow our instincts more. That way we will know when to move in and when to step back.
I feel guilty when I read your posts Liz! They highlight of my ongoing laziness.
Now that I have stopped gambling, I need to address that sloth!
ODAAT!Every time I read a post that you write I have a smile like a Cheshire cat on my face Bettie! I ask “Is this the same Bettie I met here a couple of years ago?” You have grown from strength to strength, B!
I laughed out loud when I read about the landlord looking for favours!!!! The power has shifted now! I would have done some banking trick if I had the skill that would land him in prison! Just as well I’m not a banker!
Taking the power back is the secret, Bettie! Gambling steals our power among other things. I am on a G free roll these days. Postponing my trip to the shops in case I have to spend money! Mrs Scrooge!!!
I love reading your posts B. Like old times, only different!!!Great to see you posting again, Cat!
All your prayers are being heard. ODAAT!Want to know how to double your money, NRG?
Fold it in two and put it in your pocket!!!CGs N E V E R win!
Yes Liz,
It does seem you need to set some boundaries around your younger daughter’s demands to avoid further enabling!
As a mother I know how difficult that is especially since you are in a position to help her. As CGs we know all about manipulation and emotional blackmail.
Maybe being stranded and feeling the consequences of her actions is what your daughter needs.
I suppose us mothers will always feel protective towards our children but I think there might also be an element of control in mother/child relationships. We need to be aware of our reasons for doing what we do. I made many mistakes with my sons. One in particular. He is not too slow to blame me for the mess he now finds himself in!
Your grandson seems like a very loving boy! Hope his arm heals!
I have no grandchildren but I love my nieces’/nephews’ children.You are caught up in an awful situation, Lorraine. Is there ANY way you can live separately from your sister and her son? It really is pulling you down. Can you even insist she gives you the rent BEFORE she leaves for the casino? Not easy to focus on your own recovery when you have to deal with her problems too….
How did pay day go C?
Its great that you have your sister “onside!”
Sounds as if you haven’t time for GA! A good sign! Recovery is more important than anything . ONE DAY AT A TIME. You are doing well. Keep it up.
Gambling will spoil your life! Walk away when you have the chance.Sorry to hear you are feeling “down”, Lorraine.
Gambling, at times like this could call you to a “better” place, but as we both know GAMBLING IS NOT THE ANSWER….to anything!
When we read each others’ stories here in this Forum, none of us know what is REALLY going on in the other person’s life. That’s where “live contact” comes in. Sometimes it helps. Sometimes it doesn’t . In my experience lots of people say “How are you?” If you begin to tell them they run a mile and we never hear from them again. Family members especially, and if you try to explain , you suddenly become a “drama queen” or a” trouble maker”…..maybe I’m projecting my experience on to yours, Lorraine but look around and you will see this happens to many.
I think it’s best to try to get by alone one day at a time. Build up your inner reserves. You have a lot! Share what we can with the few who ARE receptive and in the meantime, enjoy or mourn our own ups and downs .
It is often in reaching out to others that we find solace.
Glad you took the time to “vent” here. More people read than we realize!
“Two men looked through prison bars;
One saw mud, the other saw stars!”
KEEP YOUR EYE ON THE STARS, Lorraine.Everything changes!
Having ready cash is not WHY you gambled, Carole, but it sure made gambling possible.
I have been living on a shoestring budget since my last day of fun 4 weeks ago….
I’m beginning to wonder if being “poor” IS the answer.
Every time we gamble the consequences will be the same.
We know them too well…
You need to ask Danny to help you out here. Leaving cash under a CG’s nose is very tempting.Just saw7** beside your thread Lizbeth . Your number of posts. Have to move those sevens fast…..I just cannot fathom how you keep up with all the activities! Your daughters and grandson are blessed to have you. Take a rest Liz. Gambling thoughts come when we are tired. deep down somewhere in the CG psyche it seems a visit to the casino will bring some relief….IT WON’T! I can guarantee you it will bring the very opposite. No need to elaborate! I hear you about your youngest daughter. My son has vanished into thin air again. I just stopped chasing him. It causes more stress. Up to them to sort themselves out Liz. When they do, they know where their mothers live!