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When we expose our secrets, it limits our chances to gamble.
We are told “gambling is a game of chance” but for a Compulsive Gambler, this does not apply because our chances of winning are zilch.
The compulsive nature of the disease means we will “fight to the kill” and always end up walking away empty in more ways than one.
We have to accept that we CANNOT gamble.
It ALWAYS ends in tears.
Stay focused.Every time I gambled in casinos, I planned it in advance.
I covered my tracks in advance by lying as to my whereabouts, by making sure I had money/cards with me and by justifying reasons/excuses to myself .
It was always a SECRET PLAN.
The way to blow the lid on this plan is to be accountable.
Tell some other person what you are planning or even thinking about.
Lock down all access to cash/cards .
Post the cards to yourself and you will receive them in a couple of days , when the thoughts will have subsided.
Remove every opportunity.
“Don’t test or tempt yourself”
Be accountable.
Make it IMPOSSIBLE to gamble.
Switch to “non gambling” mode
It works when we know we CANNOT gamble.
(I speak these words to myself, too)…..applies to “CGs”
“He who loves the danger, perishes therein”!Well done on reaching month two, Jen.
I think of you every day but when I’m off the radar I feel like a fake, posting to people.
Update as you please. This is your journal, your recovery.
I will try to catch up and follow your example.
I’m a fool when it comes to gambling!Well done, Sherrie!
Steev, I think gambling exacerbates every underlying condition.
The stress of gambling is a killer . We neglect our health when we gamble. Indeed, I used gambling to avoid dealing with health issues. Feeling numb is easier than facing reality but as we get older , these issues rear their ugly heads.
Enjoy your break back in UK.
Health is wealth!I agree, Megna.
When I c ount my losses I always feel “I have to “win” my money back”!
Gambling sites keep “wins” pending, knowing the weakess of the gambling mind. Most gamblers reverse and lose their “wins”.
In GA, mentioning sums of money is discouraged. I guess one reason for that is to prevent CGs dwelling on losses as it prevents us from letting go.
MURR, I AM STOPPED GAMBLING NOW.
I’m not c ounting the hours since my last binge. I will focus on normal life and gradually get back to reality.
I hope and pray you will do likewise.
I am so sorry to hear of the torture you have put yourself through, again, Murr.
Believe me, I know EXACTLY what it feels like.
The good news is, we CAN STOP.
Think of people who are terminally ill, who have no chance of recovery and no say in their future and DECIDE TODAY that you have a choice and another chance to live a better life.
I speak these words to myself too.
Time and money mean nothing, absolutely nothing when we are gambling so really there is no point in looking back and second guessing.
I know how difficult it is to let go but we have to surrender at some point.
Gambling has nothing to offer us, Murr.
You know that.
I know that.
One thing I have learned and firmly believe, is that CGs cannot handle money.
Next time you go on vacation, please give your cards/cash to your pals and let them do the paying for you.
Not judging you, Murr, but do you think you need to attend AA?
Lots of GA members benefit from both fellowships.
Back to the drawing board Murr.
One day at a time!So easily done, Megna.
Every time I gambled, my ” slip” was preempted by incessant “Snake” playing on my phone.
Some GA members related to this.
Hard lesson for you.
All you can do is get back to the proverbial drawing board.Just touching base, Lizbeth (last post for tonight) Isn’t it amazing how fast our debts reduce when we stop gambling.Saving a little as well as repaying debts, creates balance.
I’m so happy for you. I am voting you in as my role model. I really have to get my act together.
At my age and with my medical hx, I know I am at high risk of popping my clogs from stress (God forbid) and I ain’t ready to meet my Maker yet. Gotta make amends first.
Keep moving along in a straight line, Liz, You are an extraordinary person.
God bless you and yours.
I feel like a scrambled egg right now. The cracked shells need to be discarded. Nite nite!
Well done, Sherrie.
I am sick as a pig since I jumped off that wagon.
I won’t fool myself into believing I fell off it.
I took a flying leap.
Do enjoy the ride and hold tightly to the reins.
The road below is rough.
I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.We think we want to gamble, I won, but do we want the after gamble misery?
Believe me it’s not worth it.
I am suffering right now.
I wanted my thrill .
Got it.
Hangover time now.
Thrills and hangovers go hand in hand.
we can’t have one without the other.