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I love reading your thread, Liberty. And thank you for posting to mine.
Strangely, all my worries about money, debt. loans, gambling etc etc just came to a standstill for a short while on Friday when that crazy woman sent me flying into what could have been kingdom come!
I found your “cupboard” story very interesting. When we were children I remember playing in the wardrobe. I think it was the CS Lewis influence. I thought if I got behind all those heavy coats and tweed skirts, I would be in Narnia….Maybe that could be at the root of my gambling too. Escape from Real Life.
Like you, I tend to put off dealing with things. Another CG trait maybe. I avoid dealing with financial and medical matters especially. Call it cowardice!
Well done on getting a Payment Plan in place. Let the experts do the worrying. Liberty. It really is outside your control. You know for years, I thought I was the Managing Director of the Human Race. Now I know I’m not. Really not!!
There are many many things outside my control. And yes, I do admit that I am totally powerless over gambling. It would be like jumping off a tall building and hoping to fly. (Maybe that explains your flying dream!)
As for the other dreams and the wakening with urges to gamble, I think these things are all par for the rocky course. I often woke and dressed myself and lay in the bed like a tense cat waiting to spring on a timid mouse, waiting to make the hour’s journey to be outside the casino when it opened with not a minute to spare. I would play games madly on my mobile phone as I drove (I’m very ashamed to say) and would have 50 euro in my hand ready to insert in the machine on arrival.
CRAZY crazy c r a z y…
If anyone told me that story I would say they should be locked up for their own safety.
Enough thread hogging. Charles will bawl me off!!
Gambling is for losers Liberty.
We are winners!
I hope you depression lifts.
Health is wealth but sometimes we just have to ride the storm.If I were to use one word to sum up my impression of you, Charlster, I would say “CALM”!
Yet you have written that you suffer(ed?) from stress, anxiety and depression .
Your resilience and determination have lead to to where you are today and to the future road to recovery.
Good luck with your GP visit. I hope it’s just routine. Personally, I go by my body but the best advice is probably to follow what your GP says!!!?? So they tell me!
On a practical level, can you get the Post Office to hold on to, or divert your mail while you are away ?
I’m sure GMA have dealt with clients who have similar concerns. Can you you ask them in advance if you can use their online facilities to pay utility bills or inquire in your local CAB or Social Welfare office to find out what services are available?
Strange how these things never seemed to bother us when we were in the throes of gambling.
I need to go to my GP tomorrow for a medical report for insurance purposes following a car crash. I feel like a criminal. Yet, I had no bother arranging HUGE loans to gamble.
Life is strange ! We only see the reality when we throw down our crutches!
Keep fighting the good fight!Catholics were never asked to “tithe”, Happy. The 3rd Precept of the Church tells us to “contribute to the support of our pastors”. All distorted and diluted now as you know (Sorry for hogging your thread, Pat)
I agree kPat. Nothing compares to the “buzz”. Equally nothing compares to the hangover, the stress, the grief, the loss or the terror etc etc etc.
AND
We can’t have one without the other.
As for your son…my gut reaction is to SHAKE the truth out of him but that day is gone, I’m told.
I would hide the car keys forever.
My son stole my husband’s jeep at 3am one Saturday night, while under the influence of alcohol when he was 17, crashed it and nearly killed himself. Did serious damage and of course never paid back a penny. The good thing was he told the truth. (He could have crawled home to bed and it would have appeared the jeep was stolen and crashed) Water under the bridge now, but I blamed his father for allowing him to bring his friends to the house (which he was forbidden to do when I was on night duty )and allowing them to drink alcohol. They were underage. For getting drunk himself . Going to bed and leaving 5 or 6 youngsters unsupervised. With car keys left available. To this day when that “boyo” comes home, I hide the car keys under the pillow and will do forever more.
I would prefer my children told me the truth kPat but parents need to lead by example too.
Maybe I should have hidden the keys on myself yesterday
My neck is killing me from yesterday’s impact.
A bit like a gambling hangover. Thank God I wasn’t in the wrong!Yes, Happy!
“Tithe” is an old word for “tenth”!You are doing GREAT Seri!
Keep it up!17 straight days Adam?
In 2015?
At the expense of your health?
No way!!!!
Are you in a Union????
Cellulitis is an extremely painful condition that requires REST!
Congrats on all your G free time but remember there is more to life than money. Why not get a sick cert from your GP and let the boss sort out the staff problems!
In my experience employees are only numbers. Mind yourself!The best birthday present you will ever get, Charlster!
Well worth waiting for and very well deserved!
Exciting!A very complex situation indeed, Geordie!
I hate it when somebody steals from me. It was so ingrained in us as children NEVER to take what is not ours , that I would be terrified to put my hand in anyone’s pocket. We were also trained to hand up money we found. However, nobody “trained” me not to take illicit loans from the Bank for gambling, (lol!) BUT the difference is, I will be paying back on the double for the rest of my “natural” and so will you G, so why should your mate have the right to “rob” you of your hard earned money? It is such a mean thing to do to a fellow worker. I “lost” €200 at work a few years ago. It was only after a colleague mentioned the word “stolen” that I realized it wasn’t “lost”. I was shattered to think somebody would be so light fingered.
The person who stole from me in the past was a relation. I still feel SICK whenever I think of it. The reason if affects me so badly still, is because it was never resolved.I still can’t believe it happened.
Let your boss sort it out.
You need to give that guy a wide berth now for fear of repercussions!
How could you ever trust him again?
(did you get my e mail?)“Seek ye first the Kingdom of God…..and all else shall be added on to you”.
I could give several similar examples , of how God provides for us, KPat when we put Him first..
Unfortunately, I have thrown back His generosity too often…
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(Happy, I don’t mean to contradict you, but it is The Commandments of the Catholic Church that we are “Bound to contribute to the support of our pastors”)
kPat, you and your family are blessed in many ways!Praying for your mam’s full recovery, Lizbeth!
She has been through a lot.
You are a wonderful daughter to her.
Take care of yourself too.Do not borrow another penny ( It will end up where the last lot went)
Walk away empty handed
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Tell your mam.
(Of course she’ll go ballistic , but a mother’s love is even stronger than her instincts. (Don’t be surprised if she suspects your bad news already)Betty, you are STILL my idol. Always have been. Always will be….Will e mail you…That boss sounds like my last boss. Mentally unstable. Everyone had to cover for her blunders , but she would show no loyalty in return. The fact that nine staff left when I moved on tells its own story.
It was like playing a part in a carry on film at times but it wasnt funny.
CGS often gamble to escape such situations.Compulsive Gamblers CANNOT control gambling.
No win will ever be big enough.
The more a CGs wins, the more he/she gambles.
The problem is progressive.
Losses increase quickly when we lose control.
The fun ends when we lose everything we could have called our own.
Once we cross the line into compulsive gambling, we can never gamble normally again.
We are only as sick as our secrets.
Lies and deceit are the tools a CG uses.
Money loses it’s real value and becomes ammunition to gamble.
Truth and honesty (with yourself and with significant others)
Are the tools we need in Recovery.
Gamblers cannot/should not handle money.
All access to money must be blocked off.
Lots of help available.
Start by postponing your next bet, one day at a time.
It IS possible to stop and to stay stopped.
Action speaks far louder than words.
I learned all this the hard way.
I am putting it into action at last.Wishing you all the best with your presentation.
Well done on your G Free time!Hope this day will be better than yesterday, Viper!