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Hope pay day went well Micky.
Missed you in the chat Liberty. You still around?
How many daughters doing A Levels? Two?
Great they are studying. Mine never applied themselves. My sister has 7 now grown up kids She “did” the exams wit every one of them All worked their butts off and did brilliantly!Got booted Lib 23:00hrs
missed you by 2 mins in the Open Group Liberty
Sometimes its good not to carry a box of matches Seri.
Nice when things light up but we know where all that leads for a CG?
Gloomy mood here too.
The urge to be FREE is probably my greatest urge.Thanks Ican!
Eating is about the only “normal” thing I do. Compulsive eating is not all that normal though , is it?
I do count my many many blessings daily.
I just wish I could do more. Stop the clock and catch up with the so many people and things I have missed out on when I was in my own world gambling.
When I went back to work after a 19 year career break I was 52. I was totally exhausted. The basic work was the same but there were so many new policies and protocols we were expected to know. After a while I got sense. I just noted which file these huge books were stored in’ in case I had to refer to them in a hurry and I left it up to the two managers who sat in the office all day to deal with them. I was a foot soldier and its all I ever wanted to be. The course I would have followed if I pursued my profession without taking a career break, would have been the legal or teaching areas of nursing , but we got plenty opportunities to teach students on the wards and had to re learn the domains they study under in Uni (a lot of it is BULL)and fill in their reports daily and write an overall feedback at the end of their placement. They were passed or failed on that placement as a result of the report they got. The main area was drug administration but you would brief your student before hand on the 5 Rs. Some were more receptive than others. Makes me wonder if all the mentoring has made any real improvements in the health Service. God be with the days we learned on the hoof and depended on nurses six months your senior to show you the ropes. For and against allowing students to take risks, of course. Its the opposite now. Lots of spoon feeding these days and when it comes to making quick decisions some fall down.
My advice Ican, is to get a clear job description and don’t act outside your remit. In my experience the work horse is always left carrying the heavy load.I enjoyed the company for the last few weeks Micky. Life gets lonely sometimes.
‘Hope you won’t jump ship when your life boat comes in!
Monday is an unusual day to be paid isn’t it? I that to do with SEPA? Maybe not. I don’t think the UK is ruled by Europe yet. We were “sold down the swanny years ago”.
I felt like going to the slots today . Fed up cooking and baking especially when no one turned up to eat any of the food. I’m stuffing myself with mars bars and kitkat instead now. To put the tin hat on it, the priest spoke about GAMBLING in his sermon. I can’t escape even in the church!
Bet you’ll be lickin’ your lips after a feed of steak and onions tomorrow evening. No beer allowed!It’s not easy for you trying to deal with your mum if she refuses to co operate, Lizbeth. Maybe she would respond better to outside help. Was there a Care Plan drawn up when she left hospital? Time to go back to the drawing board from what you describe. I know you need to care for yourself too but when it’s your mother you can’t of course walk away.
Very stressful for all concerned. Good that you enjoyed your vacation.“When I change, everything changes”.
As you say Andrea, the bills will still have to be paid, the food cupboards filled, the feelings of regret, anxiety and shame for what has been done will still linger and will have to be dealt with. No magic wand will be supplied but the way you look on all those things from now on will be different. Everything fell into place for you just when you needed the bit of hurdle help. Well done on grasping the Lifeline. We don’t always get a second chance.
I agree with Micky. YOU did it Andrea! You really did!
Stay in touch with your new friends. I’m sure there is a special bond between you that will never fade.Well done, JD, on putting that 100 days to good use!
Great to look back with a big smile on your face.
It takes a bit longer to see a healthy bank balance, but peace of mind is priceless.
Knowing you don’t need gambling in your life brings that peace.True, Lizbeth.
Nobody has the power to annoy us.
Unless we give them that power.
Nobody has the power to make us gamble.
Gambling is always OUR choice.
Situations and people can however, provide the stimulus.Four eggs today, Liberty!
Hubby is recording the output and has changed one of his silly names to “Harriet”. I wouldn’t call a hen Harriet. I like that name too much but I won’t crush his imagination. After all he is the one who cleans up after them.
I helped him in the garden today. Clearing bushes, cutting down trees etc. I do the easy bits. Thinking about you cleaning an out house. We have a few sheds that are FULL of junk. Bikes that need to be repaired . ( I think Santa must have brought a bike every year) Outdoor toys . The remains of swings and slides etc. Not to mention the attic!
I forgot about all those areas when I was gambling. Life would be so much easier now if I had acted responsibly in the past.
I need to start working really hard from now on. As Casper said on another thread, as CGs we wasted a lot of time.How is your job at the University going Ican? Have you settled in? I hope you are enjoying it and not too tired.
I just read on your other thread that you are paying hubby back. I always make a point of paying every cent I borrow from my husband. Otherwise I would feel terribly guilty. I feel like a beggar borrowing from him. He forgets that he gives me money. Same with our grown up children. They take advantage of him but I rattle their cages to make them pay up when they can. If I know they can’t I don’t mention it. They know its not about the money . Its about integrity and trust. I feel badly about my debts but because they are “faceless” creditors I can cope but I hear you about owing money to your brother. Could you set up a direct debit to pay him even a small amount every month? It will relieve the burden.
I agree that instead of saying “I will use my money and my time for other purposes” is better than saying “I won’t gamble”. Focusing on the negative can pull us down.Great news Andrea!
Looking forward to reading your update.
Be good!