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I saw the photo of your handsome little boy, Alison. I sincerely hope things go well for your family.
A life without gambling will be the best gift you can give him.Have you stopped posting, Liberty?
I loved your two recent poems,
Charles will be chuffed with his “Welcome Home “.
‘Hope things are going well for you?Hi Alison and welcome to GT.
You will get lots of help and support here to overcome your gambling problem but one thing you will not get is money.
As Recovering CGs most people here are struggling to pay off huge debts. “Lending”to other CGs could be seen as enabling.
I wish you all the best with your Fund Raiser for your baby and for a G free life for you and his dad, one day at a time.
God bless!Tough Love paid off, Lizbeth.
Now you know your daughter came to see you and spend time with you, not to manipulate you for “favours”.
It’s a good sign that she still comes home.
Never give up hope.
I will keep her in my prayers.
Love conquers all fear.July is going well, Micky
My next physio appointment will be in 3 weeks That will be the middle of August!
Scary how fast the time flies.
Delighted to see you are feeling upbeat!So sorry to hear your circumstances have dis improved, Bettie.
We know the question we need ask ourselves when things start to go belly up.
What can I do differently?
There are things that worked for you before B. Can you start all over again and put those tools to better use? Does Jen know you gambled? Does anyone know? Would you have kept the secret much longer or would you have come back to GT for help?
All the questions I ask, I have asked myself every time I gamble.
Back to the drawing board, B.
Step One.
I admit I am powerless.
Next move is yours….I guess that’s what Support Groups are for, Angie! To pass on what we learn so that others can use the same essential tools that we find helpful. When we stop using those aids we fall down.
Awareness is the key.
Lots of GT users post regularly on their own threads and others’. Even though I’ve been coming here a long time, I still love seeing a post in my “box”!
‘Nice to be remembered!It is scary when we notice Savings dwindling, Lizbeth and once we “dip in”, whether it’s for gambling or other purposes, the money vanishes . Of course gambling is the fastest way to wipe ourselves out, but as you describe reckless spending can be costly too.
Would you consider having a few counselling sessions to talk this out? Maybe your security feels threatened? You seem to be a bit less confident in your posts lately. Not judging of course but you used to sound very upbeat.
The thought of the child getting sunburned up set me!! Years ago that happened to the child of someone I knew. Left her with a friend for a weekend and she got 2nd degree burns from being left unattended in the sun. I hope he is much better now. It is so painful. Natural yogurt gives instant relief if applied immediately.What a lovely word picture you created on Happy’s Thread of you and your darling son sitting near Hyde Park, Maverick.
As I close my eyes I can visualize you both. The angelic baby on the verge of becoming a boy. The loving daddy gazing at his own image and projecting his dreams, hopes and worries on to an uncertain future in a world that is fragile and unpredictable and I thought of the Heavenly Father and how he must be gazing at each of His sons and daughters , shielding and protecting us from every harm and danger, yet allowing us the freedom to stray if we choose to disregard His Will.
This is what the “Higher Power” means to me Maverick. A Loving Father always there to welcome us back when we stray. ‘
‘Hope the weather in London is better than it is in Ireland. It’s more like November than July here!Great reflection , Kin.
Sometimes , when things are going well, we forget our need for God. In our need, we come to Him.
The Good News is…..
He never forgets us!! He holds us in the palm of His Hand.Just wrote about my “Plan” on my own thread, Angie. Great minds think alike!
“Failing to prepare is preparing to fail!”Half way through July already Micky. I think we’re on a speedboat!
‘Hope your son is getting used to the plaster. Won’t be long for him now.
I get the feeling some days that “today might be my ‘lucky day'”! Then I look back on all the other ‘lucky’ days and the feelings soon change.
Not having too much money certainly keeps me grounded.Great to see a post from you Cat. Sorry to hear of your “ups and downs”. I pray for you a lot. When you finally decide to retire , things will improve. Work is rewarding but it can bring a lot of stress and pressure. When you enter a new phase of your life you will be surprised at how more relaxed you will feel. Acceptance and gratitude go a long way in keep us focused and balanced. True joy comes from being at peace with our Maker.
“If you worry why pray; if you pray why worry”!A line from your post struck me Angie. “It will take a couple of years to clear the debts”.
I went back to work after a 19 year career break ( not an easy move. I was 52!). IF I had followed the advice I was given then I would have been debt free in a couple of years. Suffice to say I did it “my way”. It back fired big time. Fast forward and I find myself years later having taken early retirement on ill health grounds and in very deep *hit.
The ONLY thing I can do now is STOP GAMBLING.
The irony of it all makes me laugh but it’s not a happy laugh….
Stop NOW, Angie when you have the chance. If I had put as much effort into not gambling as I did into gambling I would not only be debt free but I can say honestly that my health would be a hell of a lot better than it is. Gambling betrays us when we betray ourselves.
Why are you self destructing?Hi Smee,
I read what you wrote on Angie’s thread. I also read about your losses on this thread. The one thing we need to lock into our brain, is that CGs NEVER win. I have lost scary amounts trying to “win back” a few hundred. You really need to realize that you will never never win. I tried until I was almost at Death’s Door and I’m not being melodramatic when I say that. Gambling comes with a high price tag. The first thing notice is that we are losing money recklessly. Serious amounts of money. Then we being to lose or self esteem, confidence,friends, sense of worth, hope, relationships, family, interests, hobbies, concentration, sleep, focus, sense of time, health…..the list of losses is endless, and money , albeit a huge issue is the least of our losses.
Gambling is a progressive disease. It will get worse and worse. You will “bleed to death” if you don’t take serious steps to arrest that “hemorrhage” NOW.
I am old enough to be your mother. If you were my son, I would prefer to know what’s happening in your life. There is a lot of help available , Smee , so don’t suffer in silence.
Nothing good ever comes from gambling. You will not regret it if you surrender today and admit that you are powerless over this addiction. Only when we accept that it has us knocked to the floor, can we begin to drag ourselves up again.
You CAN stop Smee. You will never get the money back that you lost. Sad but true.
Keep posting.