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Hello Flic
Thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy friends and family forum. This forum will provide you with warmth and understanding from your peers.
Feel free to use the friends and family group, youll find the times for these if you click on the Group times box on our Home page. Now that you have introduced yourself youll find that many of the people you meet here have already read your initial introduction and theyll welcome you in like an old friend 🙂
If youre the friend or family member of someone who is either in, or has been through, the GMA residential programme please take extra care to make sure that nothing you say in groups, or on our forums, inadvertently identifies that person. Even if your loved one isnt connected with GMA, please dont identify them either directly or indirectly just in case they decide to use the site themselves.
Youll find a lot of advice on this site, some of which youll follow, some you wont…but thats ok because only you fully understand your
situation and whats best for you and the people you love. So, take the support you need and leave the advice you dont because it all comes from a caring, nurturing place 🙂We look forward to hearing all about you!
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at ourprivacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Dear San
I hope that your health is good and your partner is doing well. It was so good to hear from you again with such a positive post.
San I am going to take a deep breath and hope that you have ‘known’ me long to enough to know that I am not judging when I say that you have said similar words before.
My favourite line was “I’ve contacted him once a week to have a mother/son chat about life in general and no mention of money. It’s so good to have a normal conversation with him” – but I feel I would be failing you if I did not stress the importance of not relaxing too comfortably into ‘normal conversation’. Until your son has controlled his addiction, his mind will not allow such undemanding communication to continue for long. I am glad that you are making the calls because you are controlling when they take place, allowing you to ensure you are in a good frame of mind but please keep those barriers up.
You could do no more for your son than what you have been doing. Your sanity is precious and could not be more-so than when your son turns the corner. I hope your other children are continuing to give you the happiness you deserve.
Speak soon
VelvetHi Cbrig
Welcome from me
It would help if you could give more details about your boyfriend so that we can support you better.
For instance, is he in debt, does he tell lies about things that don’t matter, is he difficult to live with and in what way.
Playing cards 4 times a week is not necessarily pointing to an addiction, even if he lied to you about the amount of times he plays. If this is a problem to him then undoubtedly it could become a full-blown addiction but there is not enough flesh on your post to guide me.
What is it, apart from playing cards 2 or 4 time a week that is disturbing you because it appears to me that something obviously is causing you real concern? You can see from worriedmama’s reply to you that there will be no judgement, just understanding.
I run a Friends and Family group on Tuesdays between 20.00 and 21.00 hour UK time. The group is private and nothing said in it appears on the forum – if you do not want to say too much in a forum that can be read by anyone, maybe you would like to talk then – I promise you that you will be understood.
Speak soon
Velvet
