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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hello IRock and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hello Pie and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hi Darcy
I am sorry to hear that you feel you have had a roller coaster ride since your husband came home. I know how difficult it is for the loved one at home when they have not been able to off-load their worries, however, you write that your husband is gamble-free and that sounds good to me.
Your fear is understandable but your husband will have discussed his future behaviour in rehab and it is quite possible that he has been told that he can watch sport, that he has not gambled on in the past, with no ill-effects – maybe you could ask him if this is the case.
Imagine, if you will, that you are someone who has always been late for work – one morning you make a special effort and arrive on time but instead of being treated normally you receive cat-calls and comments such as ‘what’s the matter, couldn’t you sleep’ or ‘what happened to you, did you wet the bed’ – it could be enough to undermine your effort and make you wonder why you bothered. Your husband is gamble-free and that is what you wanted – working on your relationship takes two of you and communication is all important. It is important that your husband trusts you to recognise his effort.
I think it would be good if you asked him what you could do to support him – sitting down and talking calmly is so much better than hitting the roof when you have ‘possibly’ misunderstood your husband’s behaviour. I know it is hard and I know you will possibly think I am off my head suggesting that you ask him for advice on how to support him but he will be more aware of himself then he was before rehab as a result of counselling. In my opinion, your husband is less likely to slip if he can talk to you calmly about making decisions to watch some sport, or to share with you his hopes and worries about his recovery, without fear of a row
It was never going to be easy Darcy but I have heard many success stories now and so I know a good life can be enjoyed with trust on both sides, tentative trust at first but gradually improving thanks to open, calm, discussions.
Well done so far to both of you
Keep posting
VelvetHi Dilea
Have you decided not to get married, at this moment in time, or are you still wavering?
I know what it is like to think you have tried everything but I suggest to you that you have just tried something different by writing here and I hope it is going to be the difference that gives you the glimpse of hope and a little light, for you, for your future.
The man you love can control his gambling, it takes dedication, determination and courage but I wouldn’t be here writing to you if I didn’t know he could do it. I cannot tell you what to do Dilea because important decisions about ‘your’ life must be yours but fixing himself does take time and there is no way he will, or could, be fixed in 8 weeks.
The man you love didn’t ask for or want to be, a compulsive gambler but sadly if it is so then it is important that you protect yourself. It isn’t stupidity that makes people blind to the signs of a gambling addition, it is an understandable unawareness because the addiction is secretive and is very often hard to detect. You are no longer unaware and therefore you can look after yourself and make decision that are right for you and probably right for him.
The tunnel may be long Dilea but thankfully you do not own an addiction and therefore you can move on and live your life free from it.
I will leave this reply here and wait to hear from you again as to whether you want to continue supporting the man in your life until he accepts his addiction, seeks treatment and determines to live gamble-free – or you decide on a different outcome for yourself. I will be pleased to walk with you through this difficult and lonely time regardless of your decision, I will understand completely whatever you decide to do.
Velvet
Hello Jester and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hi Poppy
The best treatment for the addiction to gamble is a holistic approach which often resolves other issues that loved ones have been concerned about.
You mention that your son might see a GP with a view to trying SRIs. My experience of the regular family doctor’s understanding of the addiction to gamble has not been good. I believe that the addiction is best tackled by those who have dedicated themselves to the subject and /or those who have owned the addiction themselves and learned to control it.
Has your son considered the Gordon Moody programme? It is a brilliant project for those who want to take control of their gambling addiction and we can give you lots of information about it on this site if you so wish. There is a forum about it further down on the forum page and our Helpline would be happy to give you any more information. Many years ago, the compulsive gambler in my family did the programme and changed his life; nearly 13 years later he is living a wonderful, normal, gamble-free life as a result of the expertise offered on this project.
I appreciate that a lot of what I say is tough but I believe that it is better to know what it is that you are facing so that you can decide on the best way for you to cope. I cannot tell you what to do, I can only support you.
What makes a compulsive gambler decide to face his addiction and seek a true recovery is impossible to pigeon-hole – in my view offering good support in the form of withholding enablement but at the same time showing support by keeping communication open is invaluable – as is directing the addict to good treatment. I mentioned the Gordon Moody project once to the addict in my life and within three weeks he was on the programme ending 25 years of compulsive gambling.
I think that mindfulness if a wonderful way for you to cope and I wish you well.
Please keep posting. I have no idea whether or not the F&F groups will be ok next week but I will be opening them anyway. Please keep seeking support for yourself – your son can learn to control his addiction and live a fantastic life.
VelvetHi Poppy
Many compulsive gamblers take time to learn how to use the tools of recovery. It would of course be wonderful if there was a magic pill that would immediately take away the triggers that stimulate the compulsive gambler’s mind but no such pill exists.
It is so important that you and your husband look after yourselves and keep your own lives under control. It is sadly too easy to get wrapped up in a child’s addiction and in doing so render yourself unable to support in the right way. Your son does not want to be a compulsive gambler, he never asked to be so. It is equally important that you realise that you are not to blame for your son’s addiction.
Unfortunately clearing the debts of a compulsive gambler only allows him to gamble again. Your son is doing well if he is telling his friends he has an addiction but maybe he needs to be telling them more clearly. If he borrows from friends and then you pay the friends back, that is enabling his addiction. In my opinion, his friends possibly have to learn the hard way – if they lend him money, they will not get it back from you. The addiction to gamble is not about money Poppy, the addiction is about ‘the gamble’. Your son’s relationship with his own and anybody else’s money is not healthy – money is his means to an end only and that end is ‘the gamble’.
I appreciate that you are trying to understand how he is feeling but he is not logical or rational like you – feeling sorry for him is leaving you vulnerable to his addiction and although he won’t want to hurt you his addiction will not hold back. For instance, you believe that your son is disgusted with himself when he cannot pay his friends back but it is far more likely that his feelings are more selfish – he is probably sickened that he is not able to gamble because he has lost all his money.
There is a lot to say Poppy and a lot to learn – it is hard but if your son could not control his gambling, I would not be here writing to you.
I will have to close this first reply to you here because it is late but I will write to you again asap. In the meantime if you have any questions or you don’t agree with anything I say, or you don’t understand what I mean, please come back to me.
Once again, I apologise for this evening’s group
VelvetHow relieved I am to see you here.
I am still battling away trying to keep a group open just in case but I will support you here
VelvetHallo en bedankt voor het starten van een thread op de Gambling Therapy-forums
Hier bij Gambling Therapy zijn we er trots op een zorgzame en diverse online gemeenschap te zijn die je kan helpen en ondersteunen bij de problemen waarmee je momenteel wordt geconfronteerd. We begrijpen dat dit een moeilijke tijd voor je kan zijn, vooral als je nieuw bent in herstel, dus kom hier zo vaak als je wilt en neem deel aan de forums, ga naar online groepen en maak verbinding met de live advieshulplijn als je er een nodig hebt tot één steun. We zitten in hetzelfde schuitje!
Hier op het forum kun je je ervaringen delen in een veilige, ondersteunende en accepterende omgeving. Het mooie van alles opschrijven is dat je er de tijd voor kunt nemen en dat je een verslag van je voortgang maakt waar je op terug kunt kijken als het ooit voelt alsof je niet vooruit gaat. Dus, deel zo veel of zo weinig als je wilt, maar probeer het bij één thread op dit forum te houden, zodat mensen weten waar ze je kunnen vinden als ze op de hoogte willen worden gehouden van je voortgang of iets met je willen delen.
Evenals de forums worden nieuwe leden uitgenodigd om zich bij Charles aan te sluiten in de New Members Practical Advice Group op maandag om 21:00 (VK) en donderdag om 19:00 (VK)
En op dat punt….
Ik ga je overdragen aan onze community, want ik weet zeker dat ze wat wijze woorden voor je zullen hebben 🙂
Wees voorzichtig
Het team voor goktherapie
PS: Ik wil je eraan herinneren dat je ons privacybeleid en onze algemene voorwaarden eens moet bekijken, zodat je weet hoe het allemaal werkt!
Привет и спасибо, что начали тему на форумах Gambling Therapy
Здесь, в Gambling Therapy, мы гордимся тем, что являемся заботливым и разнообразным онлайн-сообществом, которое может помочь и поддержать вас в трудностях, с которыми вы сейчас сталкиваетесь. Мы понимаем, что это может быть тяжелое время для вас, особенно если вы новичок в выздоровлении, поэтому приходите сюда так часто, как вам нужно, и участвуйте в форумах, заходите в онлайн-группы и подключайтесь к горячей линии помощи в режиме реального времени, если вам это нужно. к одной опоре. Мы вместе!
Здесь, на форуме, вы можете поделиться своим опытом в безопасной, благоприятной и приемлемой обстановке. Прелесть записи всего этого в том, что вы можете не торопиться, и вы будете создавать записи о своем прогрессе, на которые вы можете оглянуться, если когда-нибудь почувствуете, что вы не двигаетесь вперед. Итак, делитесь столько или меньше, сколько хотите, но старайтесь придерживаться только одной темы на этом форуме, чтобы люди знали, где вас найти, если они хотят быть в курсе вашего прогресса или поделиться с вами чем-то.
Помимо форумов, новых членов приглашают присоединиться к Чарльзу в Группе практических советов для новых членов по понедельникам в 21:00 (Великобритания) и в четверг в 19:00 (Великобритания).
И на этой ноте ….
Я передам вас нашему сообществу, потому что я уверен, что они подскажут вам несколько мудрых слов 🙂
Заботиться
Команда игровой терапии
PS: Позвольте мне просто напомнить вам ознакомиться с нашей политикой конфиденциальности и условиями, чтобы вы знали, как все это работает!
Здравейте и благодаря, че стартирахте тема във форумите за терапия с хазарт
Тук, в „Хазартна терапия“ се гордеем с това, че сме грижовна и разнообразна онлайн общност, която може да ви помогне и подкрепи с трудностите, с които се сблъсквате в момента. Разбираме, че това може да е труден момент за вас, особено ако сте нов за възстановяване, затова идвайте тук толкова често, колкото е необходимо и участвайте във форумите, влизайте в онлайн групи и се свързвайте с линията за помощ на живо, ако имате нужда към една опора. В това сме заедно!
Тук във форума можете да споделите своя опит в безопасна, подкрепяща и приемаща среда. Красотата на това да запишете всичко е, че можете да отделите време и ще създадете запис за напредъка си, на който можете да погледнете назад, ако някога ви се струва, че не вървите напред. Така че, споделяйте колкото искате или малко, но се опитайте да се придържате към запазването само на една нишка във този форум, така че хората да знаят къде да ви намерят, ако искат да бъдат информирани за напредъка ви или да споделят нещо с вас.
Освен форумите, новите членове са поканени да се присъединят към Чарлз в групата за практически съвети за нови членове в понеделник в 21:00 (Великобритания) и четвъртък в 19:00 (Великобритания)
И в тази бележка ….
Ще ви предам на нашата общност, защото съм сигурен, че те ще имат някои мъдри думи за вас 🙂
Пази се
Екипът по хазартна терапия
PS: Нека просто ви напомня да разгледате нашата политика за поверителност и условия, за да знаете как работи всичко!
Bonjour et merci d'avoir lancé un fil sur les forums Gambling Therapy
Chez Gambling Therapy, nous sommes fiers d'être une communauté en ligne bienveillante et diversifiée qui peut vous aider et vous soutenir dans les difficultés auxquelles vous êtes actuellement confronté. Nous comprenons que cela pourrait être une période difficile pour vous, en particulier si vous débutez dans la récupération, alors venez ici aussi souvent que vous en avez besoin et participez aux forums, accédez à des groupes en ligne et connectez-vous à la ligne d'assistance en direct si vous en avez besoin. à un seul support. Nous sommes dans le même bateau !
Ici, sur le forum, vous pouvez partager vos expériences dans un environnement sûr, favorable et tolérant. La beauté de tout écrire est que vous pouvez prendre votre temps et vous créerez un enregistrement de vos progrès sur lequel vous pourrez revenir si jamais vous avez l'impression que vous n'avancez pas. Alors, partagez autant ou aussi peu que vous le souhaitez, mais essayez de ne garder qu'un seul fil dans ce forum afin que les gens sachent où vous trouver s'ils veulent être informés de vos progrès ou partager quelque chose avec vous.
En plus des forums, les nouveaux membres sont invités à rejoindre Charles dans le groupe de conseils pratiques des nouveaux membres le lundi à 21h00 (Royaume-Uni) et le jeudi à 19h00 (Royaume-Uni)
Et sur cette note….
Je vais vous remettre à notre communauté car je suis sûr qu'ils auront quelques mots de sagesse pour vous 🙂
Prends soin de toi
L'équipe de thérapie du jeu
PS : Permettez-moi de vous rappeler de jeter un œil à notre politique de confidentialité et à nos conditions générales afin que vous sachiez comment tout cela fonctionne !
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!