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Hei Mumbles n Aloita oma viestiketju, jotta voit saada vastauksia, jotka ovat ainutlaatuisia vain sinulle. ei ole reilua yrittää tukea sinua toisen jäsenen ketjussa. Jos vierität sivun alareunaan ja napsautat 'uusi aihe', voit antaa omalle viestiketjallesi otsikon, kirjoittaa viestisi ruutuun, napsauttaa ja lähettää. Sitten saat tukea, joka on juuri sinua varten nVelvet

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Hallo Mumbles nStart alstublieft uw eigen draad zodat u antwoorden kunt krijgen die uniek zijn voor u. het is niet eerlijk om te proberen je te steunen in de thread van een ander lid. als je naar de onderkant van de pagina scrolt en op 'nieuw onderwerp' klikt, kun je je eigen draadje een titel geven, je bericht in de box schrijven, klikken en verzenden. Je krijgt dan ondersteuning die helemaal bij jou past nVelvet

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Salut Mumbles nVeuillez créer votre propre fil de discussion afin que vous puissiez avoir des réponses qui vous sont propres. il n'est pas juste d'essayer de vous soutenir sur le fil d'un autre membre. n si vous faites défiler la page jusqu'en bas et cliquez sur « nouveau sujet », vous pouvez donner un titre à votre propre fil, écrire votre message dans la case, cliquer et envoyer. Vous bénéficierez alors d'un accompagnement rien que pour vous nVelvet

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Hi Mumbles nPor favor, comece seu próprio tópico para que você possa ter respostas que são exclusivas para você. não é justo tentar apoiá-lo no tópico de outro membro. Se você rolar até o final da página e clicar em 'novo tópico', poderá dar um título ao seu tópico, escrever sua postagem na caixa, clicar e enviar. Você receberá suporte exclusivo para você nVelvet

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Ciao Mumbles nPer favore apri il tuo thread in modo da poter avere risposte che sono uniche per te. non è giusto cercare di supportarti nel thread di un altro membro. Se scorri fino in fondo alla pagina e fai clic su "nuovo argomento", puoi dare un titolo al tuo thread, scrivere il tuo post nella casella, fare clic e inviare. Riceverai quindi il supporto che è solo per te nVelvet

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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Bettie’s thread title grabbed attention but her writing showed a determination to overcome her problems that never wavered.

She had more than her fair share of pain but she faced it with unswerving bravery. I am so pleased that I ‘met’ her even if it was only in cyber space.

I will remember her

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Hi Liz
Well done writing your first post, I would imagine it was difficult to write but I agree with you that venting to actual people, especially ones who understand what you are saying, is often a relief.
You are not any sort of fool, typical or otherwise. You suddenly found the addiction to gamble in your life and you had no way of knowing what the hell had hit you, or what to do about it. You are far from dumb, you have sought support and I hope I can help you never to feel stupid again about the situation you have found yourself in through no fault of you own.
Don’t bang your head against a wall wondering whether or not he meant it when he said kind, loving words. A person can indeed say terrible and wonderful things when the addiction to gamble scrambles their thinking – I prefer to think that the terrible words are not meant and the wonderful words are meant because the truth is unknown and there is no point losing sleep over something that may or may not be true. I believed that the CG in my life could not possibly love me but when he turned his life around and took control of his crippling addiction, I discovered the opposite was true.
All the energy expended in trying to make sense of a senseless addiction does not make any difference to the outcome, so please just take of yourself and your children. I do not have a crystal ball, so I cannot say whether your actions will make him accountable any quicker or not; I do know that he can control his addiction or I wouldn’t be writing to you but it takes courage and determination to do so and at the moment, it appears, your husband has not shown himself to be ready to take that leap.
You say that you still care about your husband but I wonder if you think you have fallen out of love with him – I know it happens and I also know that it is understandable.
I hope you will keep posting, I know that the early days of such momentous decisions are painful and filled with conflicting emotions. I do admire you making a stand because whatever comes of it, you have determined ‘your’ life and your children will need you to be in control while their father is not. You made a brave decision and nobody should judge you on that.
Speak soon
Velvet

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Hello Liz

Thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy friends and family forum. This forum will provide you with warmth and understanding from your peers.

Feel free to use the friends and family group, you’ll find the times for these if you click on the “Group times” box on our Home page

Read about the friends and Family Online Groups

Now that you have introduced yourself you’ll find that many of the people you meet here have already read your initial introduction and they’ll welcome you in like an old friend 🙂

If you’re the friend or family member of someone who is either in, or has been through, the GMA residential programme please take extra care to make sure that nothing you say in groups, or on our forums, inadvertently identifies that person. Even if your loved one isn’t connected with GMA, please don’t identify them either directly or indirectly just in case they decide to use the site themselves.

You’ll find a lot of advice on this site, some of which you’ll follow, some you won’t…but that’s ok because only you fully understand your situation and what’s best for you and the people you love. So, take the support you need and leave the advice you don’t because it all comes from a caring, nurturing place 🙂

We look forward to hearing all about you!

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Hello Helle and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Dear Momo
How good to hear from you, I experienced both immense sadness and heart-warming hope reading your post. That feeling of hope is now at the forefront of my mind.
I hope you will be able to speak to a domestic violence counsellor; I think it would help you and yes, you have been and are, emotionally abused and the wounds are deep.
I am so pleased that you have found a friend; I found a friend at a similar point in my life too and our very special friendship lasted for years, although sadly he died a few years ago. I think we need friends to help us kick open the door and let the light in on our darkness, allowing us to see a future we had forgotten to believe in
I hope that you get the job that you want and that you are soon free to enjoy your life again. Your health is so important to the well-being of your children. Your children sound great, I think they often see and hear more than they are given credit for.
I look forward to hearing from you again soon as you move upward and onward – I will leave this post with something I learned after my divorce and that is that, once you have plumbed the depths of despair, you can really know the heights of happiness.
I think, you are beginning to believe that you are stronger than this man’s addiction and manipulation and that is as it should be.
As Ever Momo and this time, more than ever, with a burgeoning feeling of hope
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Hi Momo
I am not sure you are still reading the forum but in the hope that you are, I am sending this message across the ocean to say that you might be out of sight, but you are not out of mind.
Please update
I am hoping upon hope that things have improved for you
As Ever
Velvet

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Hi Sunflower
Cycles go round and round but they can be broken and true recoveries do start or I wouldn’t be here. It is impossible to tell a true recovery for a long time and I know it is exhausting waiting to know if this is the true one.
I cannot tell if your boyfriend is into a true recovery, or not, even he cannot tell you. It takes love, strength, determination and a lot of faith to carry on, it will sometimes feel impossible but I cannot tell you to give up or to carry on – the decision has to be yours because this is your life.
I don’t understand what his therapist is supposed to have said about him ‘not being able to do it all’ but that is possibly his perception of what was said. It is possible that the taxes and his bonus came at the wrong time for him if he was really trying – early recoveries are hard and the temptations and triggers can still overwhelm but he can do it.
You can protect yourself by sharing on this forum, by keeping a journal to remind yourself or how far you have come and by living in the centre of ‘your’ life and not on the periphery of his. Keep up with your friends, enjoy hobbies and interests that please you, never clear his debts or ‘lend’ him any money. Maybe you could ask him what you can do to support him, it is ok to let him know that you are struggling too.
Please keep posting.
Velvet

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Sveiki, Cindy Manau, kad tai, kad turite paklausti, ar turite priklausomybę, rodo, kad jau žinote, kad turite problemų, bet norėtumėte, kad šis forumas nesutiktų su jumis. Sunku suteikti jums reikalingą paramą kito asmens gijoje, todėl pradėkite savo temą. Galbūt galėtumėte iškirpti ir įklijuoti savo parašytą įrašą, kurį, įsivaizduočiau, jums buvo labai sunku parašyti. Šioje svetainėje yra daug palaikymo, Cindy-mes turime puikią pagalbos liniją, kurioje galite bendrauti asmeniškai, sudarėme grupes ir, žinoma, forumus. Viskas anonimiška ir būsite laukiami. Rašau jums, nes žinau, kad galite iš naujo kontroliuoti savo gyvenimą, todėl prašome dar kartą susisiekti. Šį atsakymą paliksiu jums su viena iš mano mėgstamiausių citatų: Galbūt niekada nežinote, kokie jūsų veiksmų rezultatai, bet jei nieko nedarysite, rezultatų nebus – Mahatma Gandi Greitai vėl kalbėk Velvet

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Hei Cindy Minusta tuntuu, että se, että sinun on kysyttävä riippumatta siitä, onko sinulla riippuvuus, viittaa siihen, että tiedät jo, että sinulla on ongelma, mutta että haluat tämän foorumin olevan eri mieltä kanssasi. On vaikea antaa sinulle tukea, jota tarvitset jonkun toisen viestiketjussa, joten aloita oma lanka. Ehkä voit leikata ja liittää kirjoittamasi viestin, jonka kuvittelisin olevan erittäin vaikea kirjoittaa. Tällä sivustolla on paljon tukea sinulle Cindy-meillä on loistava neuvontapuhelin, jossa voit kommunikoida henkilökohtaisesti, olemme avustaneet ryhmiä ja tietysti foorumeita. Kaikki on anonyymiä ja olet tervetullut. Kirjoitan sinulle, koska tiedän, että voit hallita elämääsi uudelleen, joten ota yhteyttä uudelleen. Jätän tämän vastauksen sinulle yhdellä suosikkilainauksistani: Et ehkä koskaan tiedä, mitä tuloksistasi tulee, mutta jos et tee mitään, tuloksia ei tule – Mahatma Gandi Puhu uudelleen pian Velvet

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