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Hi Babz,
Wow, alot has happened and it is disheartening to read how your father in law is trying to shift the blame on you. He is obviously in denial about his son’s gambling and basically is enabling. HE should be telling his son to get his act together or he will lose his family. YOU are not responsible for your cg gambling. He did that all by himself and he will continue to be pulled down by the addiction if he doesn’t seek treatment for his gambling. Yet, he has to want it more than anything, otherwise he will just gamble again.
I am a child of a cg, though I may have a different perspective of how gambling has effected me. I also saw how it effected my mother. She lived with it for so many years, covering up for his gambling and basically turned the other way when it was so obvious that he was gambling. Now that I have seeked recovery for myself. My mother has started to recover too. I guess my point here is that if don’t put your foot down with his gambling. It will keep on growing and getting stronger, doing more damge and before you know it your daughters will be older and they will suffer. They will see what it is doing to you. In some way they will suffer.
Time will tell what your next steps will be. If you feel like kicking him out then do it and don’t look back. Don’t be manipulated by him wanting to throw himself in the sea. You know this is all a game. He just wants you to feel guilty.
Your cg has gone some serious damage with your finances and I would not accept it just because he has a gambling problem. He ***** to make right for gambling family money as careless as he did. I would tell him that he ***** to get another job and replace all the money he took. How will he learn what he did was wrong? If he is truly remorseful he will do this. Regardless if your parents have money believed me even the richest person in the world would go broke bailing out a cg.
Just remember that you are the one who has control of what happens with your cg. You can either live with it or not. You have every reason to feel the way you do and your cg should know how you feel. THis is not something that can be brushed away like it is not big deal. If your cg really wants to stop gambling he will. It can be done but that means no gambling period.
I wish you support and comfort in this time in your life. I don’t think you are stupid for taking him back but now that you know he has a gambling addiction. What are you going to do for you and your girls? Remember, too, that no amount of screaming will get a cg in check. You must focus on you and your girls.
Twilight(I believe we get our greatest strength from the hardest obstacles)– 1/6/2012 12:06:59 AM: post edited by Twilight16.Hi Linda, I also have been wondering how you were doing. Don’t want to burst your bubble about the engagement but as long as your cg gambles this will happen over and over again. Your cg hasn’t had the proper support/treatment for his gambling addiction. Cg live in a vicious cycle with their gambling. They stop when something bad happens to them and they promise to whomever has been enabling them they will stop gambling, but their promises are short lived and they gamble agin thinking they can control it. If I were you I would go back and read all your past posts. How long have you been struggling with your cg’s gambling. See the pattern reliving again and again. Your cg has had more slips than you care to remember. It is important to learn from the past because if we don’t how do we expect any changes in our life. Live is blind. We overlook what is important to us. We give excuses when we shouldn’t. Again you only can make your own decision knowing that it will effect our lives. Don’t marry him. You would be setting yourself for more pain and disappointment. If you do just know you are marrying his gambling too.
All the best, TwilightDear Kathryn,
I cried again when I read your reply to my post. I am amazed that even through the nightmare I had lived for so many years, especially the last three, I would be able to be where I am now. I finally realized that I cannot change anyone and I have let go even thinking I can. I accept what I cannot change.
I somehow woke up Sat with a new way of thinking about my father knowing he usually calls me on this day. As I have said in my post, I told myself I will not acknowledge his gamblling again. I wil lnot mention it and instead I will just enjoy my father as just my father. It was something I never did before yet it was what I needed to make peace with how things truly are. I cannot hold grudges because of his gambling. It doesn’t matter anymore as long as it doesn’t effect my life. My position of no enablement will always stand but again I am trying to not even think of that.
I do remember when you posted about your father and it touches me now as you mentioned it as it did then. You have always be such an inspiratiom to everyone here. I believe your father is watching you, proud as he could be, seeing what a wonderful daughter he has.
Love,
Twilight
(I believe we get our greatest strength from the hardest obstacles)Dear Kathryn,
What a great feeling it is when we stand up for ourselves especially when it is our spouses 🙂 BRAVO to you for doing this!
I am sure now your dh will never bring up what you have worked so hard to remove from your life and he shouldn’t. He knows what a wonderful and beautiful wife he has. It wouldn’t surprise me if he had a few insecurties of his own and he just wanted to avoid them. Either way, always remember you deserve the best and you are incredible. You have many many friends here who love you for who you are xoxo.
peace out 😉
Twilight
(I believe we get our greatest strength from the hardest obstacles)Hi Kathryn,
You are a blessing to everyone here. Your have helped so many just by your honesty and kind heartiness.
Happy Belated Birthday! Two years free of gambling is just awesome!
I wrote a little something to your reply on F & F forum 🙂 take a peak when you can.
Have a wonderful weekend.
Twilight(I believe we get our greatest strength from the hardest obstacles)Dear Geordie,
Great uplifting post!
There was always something special about you and your posts. I believe because you are so honest in your writing and I can read within the lines how you do want to overcome this awful addiction. I so admire the way you have been able to pick yourself up and start your recovery. I have learned from you and others on this site that slips are ok if you get yourself together again and get on the wagon again. I know we all have slips in ourlives not just cg or people with addictins. Everyday many of us say we are going to do this and that but we don’t. We do something that is not exactly good for us. So I see this now and I am not so quick to judge when the person is really trying.
I wish the best health news for both of your parents. Just reading about them in your posts I see how special they are and how much they do love you. I know they are estactic that you have been there for them. There is nothing more special than being loved by the ones you love the most. You are doing so well Geordie!
You have been most helpful in regards to my father. I saw him yesterday for a brief moment. It was actually a chance situation. I was driving home with my girls and he was walking on the road. I pulled over to say ***** and to see if he needed a lift. He was walking to church so I drove him there. It was nice for those few moments. I don’t think I could of done that if I didn’t understandt the addiction in him.
So have a wonderful time at your parents and know so many people are here for you!
Take care,
Twilight(I believe we get our greatest strength from the hardest obstacles)Dear Lobby Loo,
I was in a similar situation with my father as you know and I knew the ***** when I thought clearly and became strongest against my father ‘s gambling addiction was when I had no contact with him. I had to get myself together and let my father be. No contact PERIOD! No little talks, no texts.
I learned this only gave the addiction false hope and would only torment me because I really didn’t just want a little chat here and there. Of course I had my moments where I wanted to have some contact but I told myself it was not an option and I would only being taking steps back in my recovery. I could not emotionally afford to do this to myself or my little girls.
Yes, I am in contact with my father after two years of estrangement but it is very different. I am immune to the addiction still within him and unfortunately our relationship is not the same but I also realize it could never return to my long ago memories. However, the greatest joy from the craziness I endured with my father and his addiction is that now I am really free of it. I really have no tolerance for it. I know now it is OK for him to side with it but it will never have its grips on me. To me it really doesn’t exist. It has no power over me by using my father. I just laught at it.
Honestly, there is no reason for you to see him one last time and tell him what he already knows. In his state he doesn’t care he just wants to continue his life gambling. I don’t think my father reached rock bottom with all the hardships he had so waiting for it is not a good idea either.
Just know you are doing the best thing for YOU and your son now.
Much love, Twilight
(I believe we get our greatest strength from the hardest obstacles)– 6/3/2011 11:10:44 AM: post edited by Twilight16.
Għażiż Wheretonow,
Ma tistax tħares lura lejn il-passat u jiddispjaċik minn xi ħaġa li għamilt. Huwa dak li emmint li kien sew dakinhar, ovvjament meta nħarsu lura jidher li naħsbu li nafu t-tweġiba t-tajba issa u mhix vera.
Jien tifel ta 'cg u għext il-miżerja tiegħu, għalkemm ngħid li kien hemm ***** tajbin imma l-aktar niftakar il-ħażin. Jekk tħoss li titlaq allura agħmel hekk. Isma 'l-imsaren tiegħek, qed jgħidlek dan għal raġuni tajba. Hemm tant qawwa fix-xewqa u jekk ma taġixxix, bħallikieku m'intix tafda lilek innifsek.
Ir-raġel cg tiegħek mhux se jinbidel daqsxejn. Iva, jgħidlek meta jħoss li għandu, biex isalva ż-żwieġ, hu jkun l-intenzjonijiet veri tiegħu li huma biss li jsalva wiċċu. Tiddejjaqx tipprova tirrazzjonalizza xi ħaġa miegħu lanqas għax moħħu mibrum tassew, il-logħob tassew iħallas fuq kull min jgħix u jieħu n-nifs.
Il-parir li tgħallimt hawnhekk kien li nagħmel għalija u ma ninkwetax dwar x'se jagħmel is-cg, inwaqqaf l-abilitazzjoni u ngħix ħajti. Kien diffiċli imma bħal ma tibda b'xi ħaġa, huwa diffiċli imma trid tibqa 'tgħaqqad jekk trid xi bidla f'ħajtek. M'għandekx tibqa 'fiż-żwieġ għax taħseb li hija l-ħaġa t-tajba li tagħmel għax tfarrak biss fit-triq.
Awguri għalik u taf li int verament dak li għandek xi kontroll fuq kif tgħix ħajtek u jekk intix ser tkun kuntent.
GħabexCaro Wheretonow,
Você não pode olhar para o passado e se arrepender de tudo o que fez. É o que você acreditava estar certo então, é claro que quando olhamos para trás, parece que sabemos a resposta certa agora e não é verdade.
Eu sou filho de um cg e vivi a miséria disso, embora eu diga que havia bucetas boas, mas eu me lembro principalmente das más. Se você sentir vontade de ir embora, faça-o. Ouça seu instinto, ele está lhe dizendo isso por um bom motivo. Há muito poder em um desejo e se você não agir, é como se você não estivesse confiando em si mesmo.
Seu marido cg não vai mudar nem um pouco. Sim, ele lhe dirá quando sentir que tem que fazer isso, para salvar o casamento, ele será suas verdadeiras intenções são apenas salvar a face. Não se preocupe em tentar racionalizar nada com ele porque sua mente é realmente distorcida, o jogo realmente prejudica qualquer um que vive e respira isso.
O conselho que aprendi aqui foi fazer por mim e não me preocupar com o que o cg fará, parar de capacitar e viver minha vida. Foi difícil, mas assim como qualquer coisa que você começa, é difícil, mas você tem que continuar se esforçando se quiser alguma mudança em sua vida. Não permaneça em um casamento porque você pensa que é a coisa certa a fazer, porque isso apenas o destruirá no caminho.
Boa sorte para você e saiba que você é realmente aquele que tem controle sobre como você vive sua vida e se deseja ser feliz.
CrepúsculoCaro Wheretonow,
Você não pode olhar para o passado e se arrepender de tudo o que fez. É o que você acreditava estar certo então, é claro que quando olhamos para trás, parece que sabemos a resposta certa agora e não é verdade.
Eu sou filho de um cg e vivi a miséria disso, embora eu diga que havia bucetas boas, mas eu me lembro principalmente das más. Se você sentir vontade de ir embora, faça-o. Ouça seu instinto, ele está lhe dizendo isso por um bom motivo. Há muito poder em um desejo e se você não agir, é como se você não estivesse confiando em si mesmo.
Seu marido cg não vai mudar nem um pouco. Sim, ele lhe dirá quando sentir que tem que fazer isso, para salvar o casamento, ele será suas verdadeiras intenções são apenas salvar a face. Não se preocupe em tentar racionalizar nada com ele porque sua mente é realmente distorcida, o jogo realmente prejudica qualquer um que vive e respira isso.
O conselho que aprendi aqui foi fazer por mim e não me preocupar com o que o cg fará, parar de capacitar e viver minha vida. Foi difícil, mas assim como qualquer coisa que você começa, é difícil, mas você tem que continuar se esforçando se quiser alguma mudança em sua vida. Não permaneça em um casamento porque você pensa que é a coisa certa a fazer, porque isso apenas o destruirá no caminho.
Boa sorte para você e saiba que você é realmente aquele que tem controle sobre como você vive sua vida e se deseja ser feliz.
CrepúsculoHyvä Wheretonow,
Et voi katsoa taaksepäin menneeseen ja katua tekemääsi. Se oli sitä, mitä uskoit oikeaksi silloin, tietysti kun katsomme taaksepäin, näyttäisi siltä, että tiedämme nyt oikean vastauksen, eikä se ole totta.
Olen cg: n lapsi ja olen elänyt sen kurjuutta, vaikka sanon, että hyviä oli *****, mutta muistan enimmäkseen huonot. Jos haluat lähteä, tee niin. Kuuntele suolistasi, se kertoo sinulle tästä hyvästä syystä. Halussa on niin paljon voimaa, ja jos et toimi, on kuin et luottaisi itseesi.
Miehesi ei muutu yhtään. Kyllä, hän kertoo sinulle, kun hän tuntee, että hänen on pakko pelastaa avioliitto, hän on hänen todelliset aikomuksensa vain pelastaa kasvot. Älä myöskään yritä rationalisoida mitään hänen kanssaan, koska hänen mielensä on todella vääristynyt, uhkapeli todella maksaa jokaiselle, joka elää ja hengittää sitä.
Neuvo, jonka opin täältä, oli tehdä minulle ja olla välittämättä siitä, mitä cg tekee, lopettaa mahdollistamisen ja elämäni elämisen. Se oli vaikeaa, mutta aivan kuten kaikki aloittamasi asiat, se on vaikeaa, mutta sinun on jatkettava kytkemistä, jos haluat muutoksia elämääsi. Älä jää avioliittoon, koska se on mielestäsi oikein, koska se vain rikkoo sinut tiellä.
Paljon onnea sinulle ja tiedät, että olet todella se, joka voi hallita elämääsi ja oletko onnellinen.
Iltahämäräਪਿਆਰੇ ਵੇਅਰਟਨੋ,
ਤੁਸੀਂ ਅਤੀਤ ਵੱਲ ਮੁੜ ਕੇ ਨਹੀਂ ਵੇਖ ਸਕਦੇ ਅਤੇ ਜੋ ਵੀ ਤੁਸੀਂ ਕੀਤਾ ਹੈ ਉਸਦਾ ਪਛਤਾਵਾ ਨਹੀਂ ਕਰ ਸਕਦੇ. ਇਹ ਉਹੀ ਹੈ ਜਿਸਨੂੰ ਤੁਸੀਂ ਉਦੋਂ ਸਹੀ ਮੰਨਦੇ ਸੀ, ਬੇਸ਼ੱਕ ਜਦੋਂ ਅਸੀਂ ਪਿੱਛੇ ਮੁੜ ਕੇ ਵੇਖਦੇ ਹਾਂ ਤਾਂ ਸਾਨੂੰ ਲਗਦਾ ਹੈ ਕਿ ਸਾਨੂੰ ਹੁਣ ਸਹੀ ਉੱਤਰ ਪਤਾ ਹੈ ਅਤੇ ਇਹ ਸੱਚ ਨਹੀਂ ਹੈ.
ਮੈਂ ਇੱਕ ਸੀਜੀ ਦਾ ਬੱਚਾ ਹਾਂ ਅਤੇ ਮੈਂ ਇਸਦੇ ਦੁੱਖਾਂ ਨੂੰ ਜੀਉਂਦਾ ਰਿਹਾ ਹਾਂ, ਹਾਲਾਂਕਿ ਮੈਂ ਕਹਾਂਗਾ ਕਿ ਇੱਥੇ ਚੰਗੇ ***** ਸਨ ਪਰ ਮੈਨੂੰ ਜ਼ਿਆਦਾਤਰ ਮਾੜੇ ਯਾਦ ਹਨ. ਜੇ ਤੁਸੀਂ ਛੱਡਣਾ ਚਾਹੁੰਦੇ ਹੋ ਤਾਂ ਅਜਿਹਾ ਕਰੋ. ਆਪਣੇ ਪੇਟ ਨੂੰ ਸੁਣੋ, ਇਹ ਤੁਹਾਨੂੰ ਇੱਕ ਚੰਗੇ ਕਾਰਨ ਕਰਕੇ ਇਹ ਦੱਸ ਰਿਹਾ ਹੈ. ਇੱਛਾ ਵਿੱਚ ਬਹੁਤ ਜ਼ਿਆਦਾ ਸ਼ਕਤੀ ਹੁੰਦੀ ਹੈ ਅਤੇ ਜੇ ਤੁਸੀਂ ਕੰਮ ਨਹੀਂ ਕਰਦੇ, ਤਾਂ ਇਹ ਇਸ ਤਰ੍ਹਾਂ ਹੈ ਜਿਵੇਂ ਤੁਸੀਂ ਆਪਣੇ ਆਪ ਤੇ ਵਿਸ਼ਵਾਸ ਨਹੀਂ ਕਰ ਰਹੇ ਹੋ.
ਤੁਹਾਡਾ ਸੀਜੀ ਪਤੀ ਇੱਕ ਬਿੱਟ ਨਹੀਂ ਬਦਲੇਗਾ. ਹਾਂ, ਉਹ ਤੁਹਾਨੂੰ ਦੱਸੇਗਾ ਜਦੋਂ ਉਸਨੂੰ ਹੋਸ਼ ਆਵੇਗੀ, ਵਿਆਹ ਨੂੰ ਬਚਾਉਣ ਲਈ, ਉਹ ਹੋਵੇਗਾ ਉਸਦੇ ਅਸਲ ਇਰਾਦੇ ਸਿਰਫ ਚਿਹਰੇ ਨੂੰ ਬਚਾਉਣਾ ਹਨ. ਉਸਦੇ ਨਾਲ ਕਿਸੇ ਵੀ ਚੀਜ਼ ਨੂੰ ਤਰਕਸੰਗਤ ਬਣਾਉਣ ਦੀ ਕੋਸ਼ਿਸ਼ ਕਰਨ ਦੀ ਖੇਚਲ ਨਾ ਕਰੋ ਕਿਉਂਕਿ ਉਸਦਾ ਦਿਮਾਗ ਸੱਚਮੁੱਚ ਉਲਝਿਆ ਹੋਇਆ ਹੈ, ਜੂਆ ਖੇਡਣਾ ਅਸਲ ਵਿੱਚ ਕਿਸੇ ਵੀ ਵਿਅਕਤੀ ਨੂੰ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਵਤ ਕਰਦਾ ਹੈ ਜੋ ਇਸ ਵਿੱਚ ਰਹਿੰਦਾ ਹੈ ਅਤੇ ਸਾਹ ਲੈਂਦਾ ਹੈ.
ਜੋ ਸਲਾਹ ਮੈਂ ਇੱਥੇ ਸਿੱਖੀ ਉਹ ਮੇਰੇ ਲਈ ਕਰਨਾ ਸੀ ਅਤੇ ਇਸ ਬਾਰੇ ਚਿੰਤਾ ਨਾ ਕਰੋ ਕਿ ਸੀਜੀ ਕੀ ਕਰੇਗਾ, ਯੋਗ ਕਰਨਾ ਅਤੇ ਮੇਰੀ ਜ਼ਿੰਦਗੀ ਜੀਉਣਾ ਬੰਦ ਕਰੋ. ਇਹ ਮੁਸ਼ਕਲ ਸੀ ਪਰ ਜਿਵੇਂ ਤੁਸੀਂ ਕਿਸੇ ਵੀ ਚੀਜ਼ ਦੀ ਸ਼ੁਰੂਆਤ ਕਰਦੇ ਹੋ, ਇਹ ਮੁਸ਼ਕਲ ਹੈ ਪਰ ਜੇ ਤੁਸੀਂ ਆਪਣੀ ਜ਼ਿੰਦਗੀ ਵਿੱਚ ਕੋਈ ਤਬਦੀਲੀ ਚਾਹੁੰਦੇ ਹੋ ਤਾਂ ਤੁਹਾਨੂੰ ਇਸ ਨੂੰ ਜੋੜਨਾ ਜਾਰੀ ਰੱਖਣਾ ਪਏਗਾ. ਵਿਆਹ ਵਿੱਚ ਨਾ ਰਹੋ ਕਿਉਂਕਿ ਤੁਸੀਂ ਸੋਚਦੇ ਹੋ ਕਿ ਅਜਿਹਾ ਕਰਨਾ ਸਹੀ ਹੈ ਕਿਉਂਕਿ ਇਹ ਤੁਹਾਨੂੰ ਸਿਰਫ ਸੜਕ ਤੋਂ ਤੋੜ ਦੇਵੇਗਾ.
ਤੁਹਾਡੇ ਲਈ ਸ਼ੁਭਕਾਮਨਾਵਾਂ ਅਤੇ ਜਾਣੋ ਕਿ ਤੁਸੀਂ ਅਸਲ ਵਿੱਚ ਉਹ ਹੋ ਜਿਸਦਾ ਕੋਈ ਨਿਯੰਤਰਣ ਹੈ ਕਿ ਤੁਸੀਂ ਆਪਣੀ ਜ਼ਿੰਦਗੀ ਕਿਵੇਂ ਜੀਉਂਦੇ ਹੋ ਅਤੇ ਜੇ ਤੁਸੀਂ ਖੁਸ਼ ਰਹਿਣ ਜਾ ਰਹੇ ਹੋ.
ਸ਼ਾਮDear Wheretonow,
You cannot look back to the past and regret anything you have done. It is what you believed to be right then, of course when we are looking back we seem to think we know the right answer now and it isn’t true.
I am a child of a cg and I have lived the misery of it, though I will say there were good ***** but I mostly remember the bad. If you feel like leaving then do so. Listen to your gut, it is telling you this for a good reason. There is so much power in a desire and if you don’t act, it is as if you are not trusting yourself.
Your cg husband isn’t going to change one bit. Yes, he will tell you when he senses he has to, to save the marriage, he will be his true intentions are just to save face. Don’t bother trying to rational anything with him either because his mind is really twisted, the gambling really takes a toll on anyone who lives and breaths it.
The advice I learned here was to do for me and not worry about what the cg will do, stop the enabling and living my life. It was difficult but just like with anyting you start, it is hard but you have to keep on plugging if you want any change in your life. Do not stay in a marriage because you think it is the right thing to do because it will only break you down the road.
Best of luck to you and know you are really the one who has any control on how you live your life and if you are going to be happy.
TwilightLieber Wheretonow,
Sie können nicht in die Vergangenheit zurückblicken und nichts bereuen, was Sie getan haben. Es ist das, was Sie damals für richtig hielten. Wenn wir zurückblicken, denken wir natürlich, dass wir jetzt die richtige Antwort kennen, und es ist nicht wahr.
Ich bin ein Kind einer CG und ich habe das Elend erlebt, obwohl ich sagen werde, dass es gute ***** gab, aber ich erinnere mich hauptsächlich an die schlechten. Wenn Sie gehen möchten, dann tun Sie dies. Hören Sie auf Ihr Bauchgefühl, es sagt Ihnen das aus gutem Grund. In einem Verlangen steckt so viel Kraft und wenn du nicht handelst, ist es, als würdest du dir selbst nicht vertrauen.
Dein CG-Ehemann wird sich kein bisschen ändern. Ja, er wird Ihnen sagen, wenn er merkt, dass er muss, um die Ehe zu retten, er wird seine wahren Absichten nur sein, sein Gesicht zu wahren. Versuchen Sie auch nicht, mit ihm zu rationalisieren, denn sein Verstand ist wirklich verdreht, das Glücksspiel fordert wirklich jeden, der es lebt und atmet.
Der Rat, den ich hier gelernt habe, war, für mich zu tun und mir keine Sorgen darüber zu machen, was die CG tun wird, und damit aufzuhören, mein Leben zu ermöglichen und zu leben. Es war schwierig, aber wie bei allem, was Sie anfangen, ist es schwer, aber Sie müssen weitermachen, wenn Sie etwas in Ihrem Leben ändern möchten. Bleiben Sie nicht in einer Ehe, weil Sie denken, dass es das Richtige ist, weil es Sie nur auf der Straße zerbrechen wird.
Viel Glück für Sie und wissen Sie, dass Sie wirklich diejenige sind, die die Kontrolle darüber hat, wie Sie Ihr Leben leben und ob Sie glücklich sein werden.
DämmerungDrogi Gdzie,
Nie możesz spojrzeć w przeszłość i żałować wszystkiego, co zrobiłeś. To jest to, co uważałeś wtedy za słuszne, oczywiście, kiedy patrzymy wstecz, wydaje nam się, że znamy teraz właściwą odpowiedź, a to nieprawda.
Jestem dzieckiem cg i przeżyłem jego nędzę, chociaż powiem, że były dobre *****, ale głównie pamiętam złe. Jeśli masz ochotę odejść, zrób to. Posłuchaj swojego przeczucia, mówi ci to nie bez powodu. W pragnieniu jest tyle mocy, że jeśli nie działasz, to tak, jakbyś nie ufał sobie.
Twój mąż cg nie zmieni się ani trochę. Tak, powie ci, kiedy wyczuje, że musi, aby ocalić małżeństwo, będzie jego prawdziwymi intencjami jest tylko ocalenie twarzy. Nie zawracaj sobie głowy próbami racjonalizacji czegokolwiek z nim, ponieważ jego umysł jest naprawdę pokręcony, hazard naprawdę zbiera żniwo na każdym, kto żyje i oddycha nim.
Rada, której się tutaj nauczyłem, to zrobić dla mnie i nie martwić się o to, co zrobi CG, przestać umożliwiać i żyć moim życiem. To było trudne, ale tak jak wszystko, co zaczynasz, jest trudne, ale musisz dalej się podłączać, jeśli chcesz zmienić swoje życie. Nie pozostawaj w małżeństwie, ponieważ uważasz, że to słuszne, ponieważ to tylko zepsuje ci drogę.
Powodzenia i wiedz, że naprawdę masz kontrolę nad tym, jak żyjesz i czy będziesz szczęśliwy.
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