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You were rewarded for being such a sweet, amazing saleswoman.  Way to go.  I hope you frame that certificate.  Hope you made it to the beach, sorry missed talking to you tonight, went out for dinner with a girl from work.  It’s nice being footloose and fancy free, lol.  Deb

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Tried to call and am guessing you’re out for dinner or at your brother’s.  Hope you’re feeling better.  Luv ya, Deb

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A year can certainly make a difference, good or bad.  I was a bit more optimistic a year ago regarding my relationship, but I was also gambling heavily, so I definitely wasn’t looking at my situation through "sane" eyes.  Anyways, I think that you are doing so well, you’ve actually left the country TWICE this year and taken time for yourself.  Perhaps the next trip should be somewhere exotic or European.  Hope you have a good weekend and get to enjoy your Sunday.  Debbie

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Congrats on your 3 year clean anniversary Larry and thanks for the inspiration found in your story.  Debbie

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Looking forward to the rest of your story.  Thank you for your honesty and your continued support and faith in me.  Deb

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Aha, is that where you’re moonlighting as a part-time job Bettie?

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Welcome to the roommate club Lizbeth.  I’ve been living that way for a long time now.  It takes some getting used to but I’ve found that when you recognize the fact that the love and desire is gone it also takes away a bit of the anger and I’m able to cope better.  I didn’t realize that school was starting already, I thought it didn’t start until the first week of September.  You and I are in like situations since we’re both living with someone who has their own addictions.  Just remember to keep taking care of yourself.  Debbie

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So these people stay awake all night just to bang on the walls and annoy you and keep you awake?  They must be crazy.  It’s a shame that you have to move but it sounds like it might be the best thing for you and your kids.  Are these young people that live there?

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Actually, Nelly, Carole lives in Canada.  There are no coyotes in the part of Canada I live in.  My vacation week is over and though I didn’t go anywhere special I had a good week.  I spent time with my kids and time on myself.  I’m actually looking forward to getting back to work and the next week I take vacation will be due to the fact that my little granddaughter has decided to make her debute appearance.  I anticipate that should be around the second week of September.  The b/f’s parents are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary tonight and we will be going to dinner at a local restaurant with his family.  He told his mother a few days ago that he would be unable to attend since he has no money to pay for a meal (hmmmmm, wonder how he’s going to pay for his meals and gas for his 5 day trip to Montreal in two weeks?) so I’m going to pay for him and I since I really do want to go.  His birthday is in a few weeks so I told him he can consider that his gift from me and that’s it.  I like his mom and dad very much and they have been good to me.  Going to this meal tonight is about me and what I want.  His mom was so hurt when he told her that and his brother called shortly afterwards to offer to pay for our meal.  The b/f actually did feel a bit ashamed when that happened, but not ashamed enough to turn me down when I offered to pay.  Anyways, it’s all good as far as I’m concerned and I’m looking forward to a dinner out with good people.  Have a good weekend everyone.  Deb

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I agree with you, it’s funny how dependant you become on something.  I didn’t realize just how many times a day I checked in here and then when it wasn’t available I was a bit lost.  Glad you are enjoying yourself, you’ll have to get used to home cooked meals again soon, lol.  Safe trip back and I’ll talk to you soon.  Deb

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I want at this time to type out an excerpt from a book I’m reading that had great meaning for me so that I can go back and read it again and again:
Unmanageability can creep into our recoveries, no matter how long we’ve been recovering.  It happens whenever we try to control something we cannot control.  It happens when we allow our fear and panic to control us.  It happens when we allow others’ expectations, demands, agendas, problems, and addictions to control us.
It happens when we neglect our responsibility to take care of ourselves lovingly.  It happens when we try to exert power where we have none, then continue trying ferociously, even though what we’re doing isn’t working.  Whenever we try to have power where we have none, we forfeit our personal power.  Our real power is to think, feel, make choices, live our own lives, and take care of ourselves.
Unmanageability occurs when we stop owning our power and start believing that we do not have choices about how we want to act, regardless of what another person is or isn’t doing.
Perhaps the relationship most affected by our attempts to control or change what we cannot is our relationship with ourselves.  We become frustrated, confused, and often immersed in negativity, self-hatred, repression, and depression.  We stop loving and caring about ourselves because we have cared about others too much or in ways that don’t work for them, for us, or for the benefit of the relationship.
We may have developed a life pattern of self-neglect.  If so, we can now learn how to take care of ourselves in a loving, gentle manner that feeds our soul and makes life worthwhile.
 

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Now that you have everyone’s attention, Jayson, what are you going to do with it?

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I’m right here with arms and ears open wide.  Anytime you’re ready……..  Deb

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Nelly are you absolutely sure you’re not being paranoid?  I really think you need to go next door and talk to them.  Find out exactly why they are being agressive.  If you take the initiative they might back down.  Deb

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I actually did make a good choice today Iris and it’s making me happy.  Hope your daughter is healing okay and is out of her cast by now.  I too have had a lifetime of failed attempts to stop gambling, but it only takes once for it to kick in and be firm in our recovery and then all those failed attempts will be forgettable and behind us.  Good luck to you and hang in there.  Debbie

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