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Could only find one Melody Beattie book at the library, it’s called The New Codependency. I can order other books by her from the other libraries so I’ll do that after reading this one. Just watched an excellent movie and am going to crash pretty soon. Thinking of you, and liking what you’re saying. Stay strong, Deb
Thinking of you gf, call anytime. I wish you could see yourself the way I see you. Debbie
Doesn’t mean it still can’t happen in the future. Perhaps there’s a really good reason why he can’t make it tomorrow. Did he suggest getting together another night? Did you? Sorry your knee is still hurting. I’m not looking forward to the next two work days – alot of stuff closing so alot of paperwork. My numbers are bad this week too. I have a GA meeting tonight too but I’m working the late shift, till 6pm. As long as I don’t have to stay past closing I can make it. Talk to you soon and rest that knee. Debbie
All I can say is WOW. Alot of food for thought there and truisms. I really like the part about staying with someone because of the investment. I have alot of time invested in my relationship and no, I don’t want to admit defeat or prove to myself that I’ve lowered my values. I also think along the lines that I deserve what he dishes out, kind of like self-punishment. Anyways, thank you for posting that. I looked for her books at the library and they didn’t have any, so may have to break down and buy one.
Glad your MRI is scheduled. Why not let your friend from GA take you and you can buy him breakfast? Work was hectic for me yesterday, alot of stuff closing. I’m hoping for a quieter day today but doubt I’m going to get it. Sure hope your knee is feeling a bit better today. Take care of yourself twin girl, I’ll talk to you soon. DebGlad you’re out and about on your vacation time. I went out for dinner last night too. I decided to be bad so ended up at MacDonald’s. The cravings for a quarter pounder with cheese did me in so I treated myself. No more pity party for this girl, I’m tired of being a victim – it’s time for me now. If someone doesn’t want to take me out for a planned dinner then I’ll be darned if I’m going to beg – I’m just going to take myself. When someone says to me that people can’t change it just makes me laugh. I have changed sooooooo much in the last few months that I don’t even know myself. Anyways, enough about me – have a great last weekend off before returning to work (sorry, didn’t mean to remind you) and I’ll talk to you soon. Debbie
Sorry to hear you’re not having a great day. I’m home from work today too, emotional stress and I’m brain dead. Hope you get some rest and stay off your feet for a bit. You are a lovely lady, inside and out – and don’t you forget it!! Deb
Larry congratulations on your strong will and clear thinking. Abstinence from gambling allows rationalization which, when caught up in the addiction and active gambling, is not there. The longer I stay away from the casino the more I am able to "bargain" with myself when the urges become strong. This site and GA become useless if we don’t use them to our advantage. Thanks for your honesty Larry and for showing us that this is an ongoing battle and that we can never let our guard down, no matter how much gamble free time has passed. You are such an inspiration to me and I appreciate your posts and insight more than you know. Debbie
So glad you had a fun weekend. I know that I’ve got to start thinking about what I’m going to do with my week off at the end of June. I’m having a fireworks party on the 25th, we live downtown right near where the largest fireworks display in North America is set off every year. I invite everybody I know over for hamburgs, hotdogs and beer that night. Usually get 30-40 people and it’s alot of fun. Anyways, not all of us can sleep in today, so it’s off to work. Deb
Hey twin gf. Have never had black eye peas. I’ve had mushy peas in England and they are so awesome. Glad you’re going to try a different meeting, you will meet a whole new crew of people who probably live closer to you. I know what you mean about vacations, I’ve got a week off at the end of June and no idea what to do with it. I was thinking about making all my dr. and dentist appts. during that time. I lead such an exciting life, would rather get blood tests than lay on a beach somewhere, go figure. Anyways, finally got all the dishes done and now it’s time to crash. Have a great day tomorrow. Deb
Hey Bettie, did you get a response back from the email you sent your sponser? Hopefully the next one will be better. Deb
Yet another "twin" parallel. At my meeting Thursday night 4 of the regular women were discussing how they enjoyed getting together for dinner before the meetings, one of them was my sponser. It didn’t bother me at that time because I figured they had probably been doing that together for years. After the meeting some of us gathererd outside and a "newbie" mentioned to me that they had invited her for dinner the next Thursday. Yes, it hurt, especially when she asked me if I was invited and I had to say no. My sponser was standing right there and didn’t say a word. Then the newbie looked right at me and said, hey why don’t you join us, I’ll pick you up when you get off work. It took me a second to think about it, did I want to go to dinner with these people who obviously didn’t want me there? The answer was, hell yeah. I really like the newbie and I want to get out more and meet people right now. So I said yes, and I’m looking forward to it. I’ll judge things afterwards and if they are all cool to me at dinner or if I didn’t have a good time then I won’t go again. I’m not going to let this spoil my meetings, that’s for sure. I need those meetings and there are more than those 4 ladies that attend, there are alot of other nice people there. I’m not going to GA for a social hour, I’m going to share and aid in my recovery. Are there others at your meeting that you could be friendly with or fit in with Bettie, or are you just focussing on the ones who don’t matter? You have been an immense help to me over the past few months and I feel a connection with you. You are special and important. Don’t you ever forget that. I wish you lived closer, I would be hangin with you all the time. Debbie
My heart goes out to you Bettie. I lost my dad on Christmas Eve 12 years ago and every year on that day I think of him. It’s good to focus on the happy memories and last year I made sure I had my family around me that night and I was so busy feeding them and celebrating the holiday that there was no time to be sad. Thinking of you – Debbie
We get secret shopped too. I haven’t yet, but sure it will come. We even get tested by telephone, so I try not to answer the main line, lol. it’s hard to be on top of your game every single minute and if it’s any consolation I’m sure that if you give the same warm loving care to your customers that I see here, then they must all love you. I had many urges over the weekend too and didn’t act on them, came close a few times though. I went to my friend’s 60th party tonight and only had one beer and one pina coloda and WHEW, I don’t even remember the ride home. Thank goodness the bf didn’t drink much and was able to drive. That must be why my nickname is Two Beer. Back to work tomorrow for me, I hope the twin thing doesn’t apply here and I don’t get shopped tomorrow. Would be a bad day for it since I may be nursing a slight hangover. Talk soon and keep hangin in there. Deb
I certainly understand being a mama bear Bettie. There’s nothing I wouldn’t do if it was within my power to help my kids. When it comes to their health and well-being I would always be there for them. Glad you are starting to reap the rewards of your work-outs. I need to start pushing myself and going beyond my daily walks to work. I’ve gotten lazy the past few days and accepted a ride home from a co-worker. Just looking forward to having the next 3 days off, my weekend is already planned out and my schedule is full. Just realized I didn’t plan any time in there for house cleaning, darn. Oh well, I refuse to change my schedule it will just have to wait. Have a good one twin girl. Deb
Good for you for keeping up with the workouts. I walk to and from work each day so it’s almost an hour of walking. I know that I’ll have to push myself eventually and do more exercise, but it’s a good start. I’m not a gardener, even my house plants suffer under my lack of a green thumb. I somehow managed to kill a silk plant last year, lol. I’m going to my first work rally tonight after work. I guess they provide a really nice dinner and everyone from the branches in the district attend. I’ve been told that attendance isn’t mandatory, but it’s frowned upon if you don’t go. I need all the goody points I can get, so I’ll go and have the free meal anyways. Thanks for your post, I appreciate it so much. I read over some stuff last night and I fit the co dependancy bill to a tee. It’s no wonder my self esteem has been in the toilet for so long. Something to work at. Deb