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hey courage
I’ve been hoping you would have joined the last chat so we could talk
Your not totally useless at this life you are totally useless at gambling,,, we all are.
your down and by the sounds of it at your lowest, you need to pick yourself up man, brush yourself off and start again.
We’ve all been there, but your here, your seeking help your going to GA, don’t beat yourself up too much dude, you can do this, but it won’t be easy you need to fight get that old spirit inside you,How did you gamble today ? on the internet ? ban yourself,, NOW
at the bookies ? – go to sainsburys get your mug shot taken and take it to the bookies and say you want to self exclude FOR LIFE, DO IT FIRST THING TOMORROW MORNINGYOU CAN DO IT just have a little belief in yourself
before you go and sort all your shit out and help yourself take a good look in the mirror and tell yourself out loud,
Just for today I will not gamble
Keep the faithSorry for it being so long, I didn’t realize I had written that much !
Well done for reaching day 25 !
In answer to your statement/question
“I feel a very similar buzz from hard work so maybe not a bad thing?”
I think this is worrying, This is what I meant in you are replacing one addiction with another and not getting to the root cause, so although you are trying to put things right by working and earning extra money (which can’t be a bad thing) you are only feeding the void left by gambling/buzz and not getting to the root problem, and only filling the hole of gambling and for how long ?
Please don’t think I am trying to be problematic, everyone who reads this post can see how hard your trying and you are doing the right things, I personally think that you don’t want to be gaining that buzz from other places like work but trying to suppress those feelings.
You can try and put everything into your work but if you gamble again you will be back to square one and maybe lose everything you have earned in the last 100 days, whilst not really learning anything about yourself
But
If you put that time which you always found to gamble (and are now filling with work) into actually trying to
suppress the gambling then you will have a much better chance of refraining from gambling and understanding why you gamble.
Cold turkey is so far serving you well I just think adding more weapons to your armour will help you fight against this addiction,
Do you or have you ever been to G.A ? have you ever sought counselling ? would it be something you would entertain ?The reason I say this
I was going to G.A and doing well I put my all into it and was reaping the rewards of not gambling and making myself stronger at the same time.
Then last year I started up a removal business, it went amazingly well and was instantly making profit, within 8 months I had 10 people working for me. I had put my heart and soul to get it where it was, working all hours of the day and night, with working all these hours I had less time for myself and with that meant I had less time for my recovery (although I thought I had beaten the addiction) so I had more less stopped going,
As the stress built up of working all the hours coupled with more money in my pocket, the time lapse between me not working on my recovery and not going to my meetings,,,,, all this led me to a relapse, and losing everything I had built whilst letting people down on the way,
Although I have tried many times of chucking myself into work it hasn’t fill that void yet of gambling yet.
This is why I have came to the conclusion that I need real help and by getting that I will have to put my recovery before anything else, let’s face it we’ve been doing it for years with our gambling.I think everyone has a different way of dealing/fighting with the addiction and I am not saying that what I am saying is right, It is just my views but it is coming from someone who has tried alot of ways to beat the addiction and has picked up little tips on the way.
Speak soon and hope you have had a good day
Firstly well done – loving your posts
I just want to warn you that you need to be fully on guard, I have recently done 18 months of being gamble free and like you threw myself into my work and hated the bookies with a passion, although this was good, looking back I feel I was replacing my gambling addiction with a working addiction thus not dealing with my addictive personality, in the end I am back to square one as inevitably that one gamble led to multiple gambles and hitting the self destruct button,
all I am saying is be aware and give yourself some time and reward yourself for the progress you are making, it isn’t a race as you will always have the urge to gamble, as time goes on your mind will play tricks on you telling you you are stronger and may be able to have that gamble and not be addicted like you was before,
one day at a time, one thing that helped me was to look in the mirror every morning and tell myself out load just for today I will not gamble
keep up the good work and will look forward to reading your progressOlá, tenho uma pergunta sobre o ambiente residencial, candidatei-me a uma vaga numa das casas, está numa fase inicial e à espera de uma entrevista por telefone, a pergunta que tenho é, tenho uma filha que embora não moro com ela, vejo e converso com ela todas as semanas, estou um pouco preocupado se eu conseguisse um lugar, não seria capaz de falar / ter contato com ela, alguém poderia ajudar a responder qual é o protocolo, uma vez que você é um residente? Acho que li em algum lugar que você não pode levar telefones celulares? se for esse o caso, você tem permissão para fazer contato / telefone / visita com a família? Muito obrigado antecipadamente Tony
Hi
I have a question regarding the residential setting, I have applied for a place at one of the houses, it is in the early stages and waiting for a phone interview, the question I have is,
I have a daughter which although I don’t live with her I see and talk to every week, I am a bit concerned that if I did get a place I wouldn’t be able to talk/have contact with her, could anyone help answer what the protocol is once you are a resident ? I think I read somewhere that you can’t take mobile phones ? if this is the case are you allowed to make contact /phone/visit with family ?
Many Thanks in advance
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Merhaba, yerleşim yeri ile ilgili bir sorum var, evlerden birine yer için başvurdum, erken aşamada ve bir telefon görüşmesi bekliyorum, sorum şu ki, bir kızım var, ama yok' Onunla yaşıyorum ve her hafta görüşüyorum ve konuşuyorum, eğer bir yer alırsam onunla konuşamayacağım/iletişim kuramayacağımdan biraz endişeliyim. ikamet eden kişi ? Sanırım cep telefonu alamayacağınız bir yerde okudum? Bu durumda, ailenizle iletişim kurmanıza/telefon etmenize/ziyaret etmenize izin veriliyor mu? şimdiden çok teşekkürler Tony
Hola tengo una pregunta sobre el entorno residencial, he solicitado un lugar en una de las casas, está en las primeras etapas y esperando una entrevista telefónica, la pregunta que tengo es, tengo una hija que aunque no tengo Si vivo con ella, la veo y hablo todas las semanas, me preocupa un poco que si consigo un lugar no podría hablar / tener contacto con ella, ¿alguien podría ayudarme a responder cuál es el protocolo una vez que seas un residente? Creo que leí en alguna parte que no se pueden llevar teléfonos móviles. si este es el caso, ¿se le permite hacer contacto / teléfono / visitar a la familia? Muchas gracias de antemano Tony
Sveiki, man ir jautājums par dzīvojamo vidi, esmu pieteicies uz vietu vienā no mājām, tas ir agrīnā stadijā un gaida interviju pa tālruni. Jautājums man ir tāds, ka man ir meita, kas, lai gan man nav Es nedzīvoju kopā ar viņu, es katru nedēļu redzu un runāju ar viņu, esmu mazliet nobažījies, ka, ja es dabūtu vietu, es nevarētu ar viņu runāt/sazināties, vai kāds varētu palīdzēt atbildēt, kāds ir protokols, kad jūs esat iedzīvotājs ? Es domāju, ka es kaut kur lasīju, ka jūs nevarat ņemt mobilos tālruņus? ja tas tā ir, vai jums ir atļauts sazināties /pa tālruni /apmeklēt ģimeni? Liels paldies jau iepriekš Tonij
Salut, j'ai une question concernant le cadre résidentiel, j'ai postulé pour une place dans l'une des maisons, c'est dans les premiers stades et j'attends un entretien téléphonique, la question que j'ai est, j'ai une fille qui, bien que je ne Je ne vis pas avec elle, je la vois et je lui parle chaque semaine, je crains un peu que si j'obtenais une place, je ne pourrais pas parler/avoir de contact avec elle, quelqu'un pourrait-il m'aider à répondre à quel est le protocole une fois que vous êtes un résident ? Je crois avoir lu quelque part qu'on ne peut pas prendre les portables ? si tel est le cas, êtes-vous autorisé à prendre contact/téléphone/visite avec la famille ? Merci beaucoup d'avance Tony
Bună, am o întrebare cu privire la cadrul rezidențial, am aplicat pentru un loc la una dintre case, este în primele etape și așteaptă un interviu telefonic, întrebarea pe care o am este, am o fiică pe care, deși nu o am Nu locuiesc cu ea, văd și vorbesc în fiecare săptămână, sunt puțin îngrijorat că dacă aș obține un loc nu aș putea să vorbesc / să am contact cu ea, cineva ar putea ajuta să răspundă la ce este protocolul odată ce ești un rezident? Cred că am citit undeva că nu poți lua telefoane mobile? dacă acesta este cazul, aveți voie să luați legătura / telefonul / vizita cu familia? Mulțumesc anticipat Tony
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Здравейте, имам въпрос относно жилищната обстановка, кандидатствах за място в една от къщите, то е в ранен етап и чакам телефонно интервю, въпросът, който имам е, имам дъщеря, която въпреки че нямам не живея с нея, виждам се и говоря всяка седмица, малко съм притеснен, че ако все пак намеря място, няма да мога да говоря/да имам контакт с нея, може ли някой да ми отговори какъв е протоколът, след като сте жител? Мисля, че прочетох някъде, че не можете да вземете мобилни телефони? ако това е така, имате ли право да осъществите контакт /телефон /посещение със семейството? Много благодаря предварително Тони
Tere, mul on küsimus seoses elukeskkonnaga, olen taotlenud kohta ühele majale, see on algusjärgus ja ootan telefoniintervjuud. Küsimus on mul, et mul on tütar, keda ma küll ei tee Elan temaga koos, näen ja räägin iga nädal, olen natuke mures, et kui ma saaksin endale koha, ei saaks ma temaga rääkida/suhelda, kas keegi aitaks vastata, mis protokoll on, kui olete elanik? Ma vist lugesin kuskilt, et mobiiltelefoni ei saa võtta? kas sel juhul on teil lubatud perega ühendust võtta /telefonitsi külastada? Suur tänu ette Tony