[Tiredspouse.]

The eldest child knows he has a problem…she is 14.

[Tiredspouse.]

Thanks for responding

He was in rehab . He did go to GA in the beginning but hasn’t been in months because he had it ‘under control’

We have a 17month old baby and I’m a stay at home mom…I mentioned to him I need some time with friends …maybe a dinner and he flipped…he first said no…then he said I don’t have real friends….then he said it’s like he doesn’t even know me anymore because he thought I was happy with a quiet life….I think this is what triggered it…his own anxiety about me needing time away. He completely twisted my need for a few hours for myself…which I haven’t had since baby was born…into me being unhappy and unsatisfied with my life.

He has been ignoring me in everyway. I have made attempts to make amends but he has brutally rejected me.

We recently cleared his hundreds of thousands of gambling debt so that too could be a reason he felt he could go back to old ways.

I am done with trying to help him or understand his condition…as a devoted wife I have done the research…right now I am questioning if it’s something I can deal with again…

The evil things he has said to me hurt. And when he has had his fill he is very apologetic…same thing all over again.

Much respect for spouse’s that stick through it again and again…5 years of hell might be my limit.

I know I sound bitter. I’m actually a wreck. This is not love…it’s abuse.

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