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Hi -did-it,

I have tried giving it up a couple times now over the last few months and those times have been where my wife and I have fought the most. The times when she was unaware of my gambling were the times when we seemed the happiest. Certainly happier than we are now. I have been telling myself if she just accepts it we can get back to being happy and  can still have fun and make money for us. My goal isn’t too get rich. my hope is that I can have some fun and win a coupe hundred dollars a week to pay for all our day to day items we might need. Yes it is on my mind a lot but it was when i wasn’t gambling either. at least this way i feel i can be happy and win some money vs not gambling and being forever reminded that i have some problem that i cant control

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thank you dark energy. in regards to number 2 if i set a limit for the month, then i would have to wait a month before the limit officially changes and can deposit more. i hope that would be a sufficent cooling down period. in regards to number 3 yes i really am up quite a bit. i do have online records and tax return statements to show this. number 4 is what scares me because i know the thoughts of contnuing to gamble pervade my brain even when i dont want them too. is there no way to control this? maybe i am trying to have my cake and eat it too and maybe i can’t do that but that is what is tearing me up inside. i don’t want my loved ones worrying about me but i feel that if tweaks can be made and barriers in place (harm reduction) then maybe i can use it for some entertainment and make some money because the money i have won has helped us. I guess that’s my struggle. Too me someone who is addicted to drugs, i don’t see how there can be a positive from that. but for my addiction to gambling, while it has some negative effects, it can also have some positive effects of giving my family extra money. 

I am not trying to be a jerk but just explaining my thought process in hopes that my mind can be changed

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Hi Steev,

I read your post/comment and am lookig for help. Long story short I have been gambling for only one year. Despite it only being a year I know I’ve been completely consumed by online blackjack and sportsbetting. My wife and family recognize this and I know it too. Recently I sufferred a big loss and broke down to my wife. The problem is that even with that loss I am still in the positive on gambling. Part of me thinks that I am lucky for that and to get out while still ahead as reading some people’s posts show me how fortunate of a position i am in. However another part just won’t let these thoughts about gambling die down. Even though big picture I am up, I can’t help but feel like I’m down after my recent loss and I just want to get it back before stopping. another part of me just wants to go back to the fun/recreational way of gambling which is how it was when i first started. Reading these forums I know that most likely I wont be able to just go the recreational way and that it would be a gateway towards the all consuming gambling that i had been doing and that if that contnued, i can end up in a similarly unfortunate position as many others on this forum. However, its been about three weeks since that loss and i have gambled and i I just can’t seem to kick these thoughts and the feeling that I am down (even though I’m not) or that I will be able to restart and control myself this time. Any advice would be appreciated

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i suffered a big loss that wiped out my savings. I won it all back and about 4k more only to lose the extra bit and a little more. After that second loss I was back to having recovered about 85% of my initial savings. I self excluded and told myself to stop. The first couple of days were tough but it got better. It’s been about three weeks now and for some reason today was extremely tough. I found myself looking up different casino accounts to set up. The only thing that stopped me was not being able to figure out a way to withdraw my potential winnings without my wife seeing it on our bank accounts (my wife has access to my statements now). I am nervous that I am going to find a way and am really dissapointed that these thoughts have reentered my mind. Part of me says I just want to get back the last little bit that I lost. anther part just says that if i did restart i would just start from “0” and just play for fun like it was intended.

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Hi everyone,

I find myself in a similar position. Similar to inafalsetto i suffered a big loss that wiped out my savings. I won it all back and about 4k more only to lose the extra bit and a little more. After that second loss I was back to having recovered about 85% of my initial savings. I self excluded and told myself to stop. The first couple of days were tough but it got better. It’s been about three weeks now and for some reason today was extremely tough. I found myself looking up different casino accounts to set up. The only thing that stopped me was not being able to figure out a way to withdraw my potential winnings without my wife seeing it on our bank accounts (my wife has access to my statements now). I am nervous that I am going to find a way and am really dissapointed that these thoughts have reentered my mind. Part of me says I just want to get back the last little bit that I lost. anther part just says that if i did restart i would just start from “0” and just play for fun like it was intended.

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Merhaba Fonthill, Paylaşım için teşekkürler. Sitede yeniyim ve son birkaç aydır bu kumar bağımlılığını kırmaya çalışmakla mücadele ediyorum. Bir yıldan fazla bir süredir kumar oynuyorum ve bu kısa sürede üzerimde bıraktığı etkiye inanamıyorum. Birkaç hafta öncesine kadar dürüst bir şekilde durmaya çalıştığım ve mücadele ettiğim zamana kadar ne kadar güçlü olduğunun farkında değildim. Kumarın ailem üzerindeki olumsuz sonuçlarını biliyorum ve buna son vermek istiyorum ama bu düşüncelerden bir türlü kurtulamıyorum. Ben de senin spor bahisleriyle başlamanı ve online blackjack'e geçmeni seviyorum. Eskiden sadece spor bahisleri yapardım ve bazı kötü molalarla kötü bir güne kadar bundan para kazanıyordum ve kendimi spor bahisleriyle kendimi çekemeyeceğimi düşündüğüm bir bütünün içinde buldum. Bu yüzden kaybettiğimi geri kazanmak için blackjack'e döndüm ve yaptım. Bundan sonraki birkaç ay içinde, kaybettiğim tüm spor bahislerini kapatmak için blackjack oynamaya başladım. Bir spor bahsi koyar ve sonra kaybedersem, kaybettiğim bahsi geri kazanmak için doğruca blackjack'e giderdim. Ve kötü bir esneme yapana ve blackjack'te spiralleşene kadar bir süre çalıştı. Bu spiraller bana neredeyse tüm kazançlarıma mal olacaktı. Uzun lafın kısası, son birkaç aydır, pozitif paramın büyük bir yüzdesini tekrar kaybettiğimde geçen haftaya kadar kaybettiğim her şeyi geri kazanmak için "çok savaştım". En kötü yanı, bunun bir aile toplantısında olması ve herkes sarmalımı gördü. Çok utandım ve duracağıma yemin ettim. Ancak son birkaç gündür dürtüye direnmeye devam etmek için bazı ciddi şeytanlarla uğraşıyorum ve ne yapacağımı bilmiyorum. Mutlu hissetmiyorum ve hayatımda blackjack olmadan eğlence için spor bahisleri oynadığım günlere geri dönmek istiyorum. Kimse bunun mümkün olduğunu veya denemenin iyi bir fikir olduğunu ve spor bahislerinin beni çevrimiçi blackjack masalarına bir geçit olarak geri götüreceğini düşünmüyor gibi görünüyor. Herhangi bir tavsiye veya yardım takdir edilecektir

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Oi Fonthill, Obrigado por compartilhar. Eu sou novo no site e tenho lutado para tentar quebrar esse vício do jogo nos últimos meses. Tenho jogado há pouco mais de um ano e não posso acreditar o impacto que isso teve sobre mim neste curto período. Eu não percebi o quão forte era até algumas semanas atrás, quando tentei fazer uma parada honesta e comecei a lutar. Sei das consequências negativas que o jogo teve para minha família e quero parar, mas simplesmente não consigo me livrar desses pensamentos. Também gosto de você que começou com as apostas esportivas e progrediu para o blackjack online. Eu costumava fazer apostas esportivas e estava ganhando dinheiro com isso até um dia ruim com algumas oportunidades ruins e me encontrei em um todo que eu achava que não conseguiria me livrar com apostas esportivas. Então, recorri ao blackjack para reconquistar o que perdi e ganhei. Nos meses seguintes, comecei a jogar blackjack para cobrir quaisquer apostas esportivas que perdesse. Se eu fizesse uma aposta esportiva e perdesse, iria direto para o blackjack para ganhar de volta a aposta perdida. E funcionou por um tempo até que cheguei a um ponto ruim e entrei no blackjack. Essas espirais me custariam quase todos os meus ganhos. Resumindo a história nos últimos meses, eu "lutei muito" para reconquistar quase tudo o que havia perdido até a semana passada, quando perdi novamente uma grande porcentagem de meu saldo positivo. O pior é que isso aconteceu em uma reunião de família e todos viram minha espiral. Eu me senti tão envergonhado e jurei que iria parar. No entanto, nos últimos dias, tenho lidado com alguns demônios sérios para continuar a resistir ao impulso e simplesmente não sei o que fazer. Não me sinto feliz e quero voltar aos dias em que apenas colocava algumas apostas esportivas para me divertir sem o blackjack na minha vida. Ninguém parece pensar que isso é possível ou uma boa ideia tentar e que as apostas esportivas me levarão de volta como uma porta de entrada para as mesas de blackjack online. Qualquer conselho ou ajuda seria apreciada

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Zdravo Fonthill, hvala ti na dijeljenju. Nov sam na web mjestu i posljednjih nekoliko mjeseci borim se s pokušajem da se riješi ove ovisnosti o kockanju. Kockam se već nešto više od godinu dana i ne mogu vjerovati kako me to zadesilo u ovom kratkom razdoblju. Nisam shvaćao koliko je snažan sve do prije nekoliko tjedana kada sam pokušao iskreno stati na tome i borio se. Znam negativne posljedice koje je kockanje imalo na moju obitelj i želim prestati, ali jednostavno se ne mogu otresti ovih misli. I meni se sviđa što ste započeli sa sportskim klađenjem, a napredovalo je do online blackjacka. Nekad sam se bavio samo sportskim klađenjem i zarađivao na tome sve do jednog lošeg dana s lošim pauzama, a našao sam se u cjelini iz koje nisam mislio da se mogu izvući sportskim okladama. Pa sam se okrenuo blackjacku kako bih povratio ono što sam izgubio i učinio. Sljedećih nekoliko mjeseci nakon toga počeo sam igrati blackjack kako bih pokrio sve sportske oklade koje sam izgubio. Da sam stavio sportsku okladu, a zatim izgubio, otišao bih pravo u blackjack kako bih vratio izgubljenu okladu. I to je djelovalo neko vrijeme dok nisam pogodio tešku dionicu i spiralirao u blackjacku. Ove bi me spirale koštale gotovo svih dobitaka. Ukratko, posljednjih nekoliko mjeseci "žestoko sam se borio" da vratim gotovo sve što sam izgubio do prošlog tjedna kada sam opet izgubio veliki postotak svog pozitivnog novca. Najgore je to što se to dogodilo na obiteljskom okupljanju i svi su vidjeli moju spiralu. Osjećao sam se toliko posramljeno i zarekao sam se da ću prestati. Međutim, u posljednjih nekoliko dana imao sam posla s nekim ozbiljnim demonima koji su se nastavili oduprijeti porivu i jednostavno ne znam što učiniti. Ne osjećam se sretno i želim se vratiti u dane samo stavljanja sportske oklade za zabavu bez blackjacka u svom životu. Čini se da nitko ne misli da je ovo moguće ili nije dobra ideja isprobati te da će me sportske oklade samo odvesti natrag kao ulazna vrata do online stolova za blackjack. Svaki savjet ili pomoć bili bi zahvalni

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Привет Fonthill, Спасибо, что поделились. Я новичок на сайте и последние несколько месяцев изо всех сил пытаюсь избавиться от этой игровой зависимости. Я играю в азартные игры чуть больше года, и я не могу поверить, что это удержало меня за это короткое время. Я не осознавал, насколько он силен, до тех пор, пока пару недель назад я не попытался честно остановиться на нем, и мне было трудно. Я знаю о негативных последствиях азартных игр для моей семьи, и я хочу бросить, но я просто не могу избавиться от этих мыслей. Мне тоже нравится, что ты начинал со ставок на спорт, а потом перешел в онлайн-блэкджек. Раньше я делал только спортивные ставки и зарабатывал на этом деньги, пока в один плохой день с несколькими плохими перерывами я не обнаружил себя в целом, из которого я не думал, что смогу выбраться с помощью ставок на спорт. Поэтому я обратился к блэкджеку, чтобы отыграть то, что я проиграл, и я сделал. В течение следующих нескольких месяцев после этого я начал играть в блэкджек, чтобы покрыть все проигранные мной ставки на спорт. Если бы я сделал спортивную ставку, а затем проиграл, я бы сразу пошел в блэкджек, чтобы отыграть проигранную ставку. И это работало какое-то время, пока я не потерпел неудачу и не стал играть в блэкджек. Эти спирали стоили мне почти всего моего выигрыша. Короче говоря, последние пару месяцев я «упорно боролся», чтобы отыграть почти все, что я потерял, до прошлой недели, когда я снова потерял большой процент своего положительного банкролла. Хуже всего то, что это произошло на семейном сборе, и все видели мою спираль. Мне было так стыдно, и я поклялся, что остановлюсь. Однако в последние пару дней я имел дело с некоторыми серьезными демонами, которые продолжали сопротивляться побуждению, и я просто не знаю, что делать. Я не чувствую себя счастливым, и я хочу вернуться в те дни, когда я просто делал ставки на спорт для развлечения без блэкджека в своей жизни. Кажется, никто не думает, что это возможно или хорошая идея, и что спортивные ставки просто вернут меня в качестве шлюза к столам для онлайн-блэкджека. Любой совет или помощь будут оценены

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Hi Fonthill,

Thank you for sharing. I am new to the site and have been struggling with trying to break this gambling addiction for the last several months. I have been gambling for just over a year now and I can’t believe the hold it has got on me just in this short period. I didn’t realize how strong it was until a couple of weeks ago when I tried to make an honest stop at it and have been struggling. I know the negative consequences that gambling has had on my family and I want to stop, but I just can’t shake these thoughts.

I too like you started with sports betting and it has progressed to online blackjack. I only used to do sports betting and was making money off of it until one bad day with some bad breaks and I found myself in a whole that i didn’t think i could pull myself out of with sports bets. So I turned to blackjack to win back what i lost and i did. Over the next couple of months after that I started playing blackjack to cover any sports bets that i lost. If i placed a sports bet and then lost, I would go right to blackjack to win back the lost bet. And it worked for a while until I hit a bad stretch and spiralled in blackjack. These spirals would cost me almost all my winnings. Long story short the last couple of months I’ve “fought hard” to win back almost all that I had lost about until last week when I lost a large percentage again of my positive bankroll. The worst part is that this happened at a family gathering and everyone saw my spiral. I felt so ashamed and vowed that I would stop. However in the last couple of days I have been dealing with some serious demons to continue to resist the urge and I just don’t know what to do. I don’t feel happy and I want to go back to the days of just placing some sports bet for entertainment without blackjack in my life. No one seems to think this is possible or a good idea to try and that the sports bets will just lead me back as a gateway to the online blackjack tables. Any advice or help would be appreciated

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