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I know you said you ‘are not going there today" but I haven’t had a chance to post for awhile. I think Fester should be cut out of the picture. Sasha should text your husband not Fester. Sasha is old enough to visit your family alone. …of course, that is assuming the DNA matches. Fester should not be involved in any way. It would be different if Sasha was younger but she is old enough that she doesn’t need her mother beside her all the time. My first husband had been married and he had a son. Everytime we picked him up his ex-wife would have to come out and talk. She called the house whenever my step son was there. He decided to live with us his last few years of High School. I felt like she was always trying to interfer in our family life but didn’t want to cause any waves so I tolerated it. After I filed for divorce, she thought she had a chance with my ex-husband (her ex-husband too), so I guess she always had alterior motives besides the interest of her son…but even being single, the ex tried to stay as far away from her as possible. If Fester tries to be connected to your husband or your family, your husband needs to set the boundaries. The attention should be on your family and Sasha and none on Fester. That’s my 2cents.
Kathryn, you must be a wonderful daughter in law if you can snap at your mother-in-law and she thinks you’re joking. That’s a gift to say what you feel and not offend anyone! Wish I had that gift.
Congrats on your 71 days! I just saw something on the news about Australia. Can’t remember if the story was about a water creature that they couldn’t identify or if the Australia story was the one about people honking their car horns and interferring with frogs fertility. Anyway, when I hear something on the news from a country where a GT friend is from I think of them. So, you were on my mind today.
Kathryn, glad you didn’t do the online gambling!!! I’ve never gambled online but I think that is riskier than casino gambling…and look where that has gotten us! Good idea to install a gambling block just in case. You’re doing great.
Hi Larry, I also stopped check cashing approvals. The local Indian Casino in town does not honor self exclusion but their check cashing vendor does honor a request to not accept checks. I don’t have a debit card either. Not being able to get cash at a casino has been a great road block. Just want your to know that I also use the ‘no checks’ trick.
SherryGreat job Kathryn! If you can make it through 63 days with all the Fester turmoil, you are one strong woman! BTW, I smile everytime you mention ‘Fester’. A famous political figure had an affair and maybe a child with his affair…and his wife (Elizabeth Edwards) was on Oprah under the condition the other woman’s name wasn’t mentioned. She didn’t want to give that woman any notoriaty or importance. I think she should have taken your lead and just called her Fester/Festus or some unflattering name. I’m sure she has called her many other unflattering names…just not in public. Hopefully, after the results, Fester will fade into the sunset and the daughter will settle back into her own life after the novelty wears off.
Enjoy your daily gamble-free milestones. I enjoy reading your accompishments too.
SherryKathryn, thanks for sharing so much of your gambling life. It’s important to remember who we were when we gambled and writing it down makes it so much clearer. I’m sorry you and your family had to go through all of that. I am sorry for all our families. Gambling is a terrible addiction but at least we found our way here and we are doing everything we can to change.
You’re coming up on a 2 month milestone. That’s fantastic! Keep adding up those day.
SherryKathryn, your evening with Jodi sounds wonderful. I am picturing those cream cakes as I type! That’s wonderful that you have wholesome events to look forward to. So much better and enjoyable than gambling.
Thank you for your support on my slip yesterday. It means a lot to me. I am back on tract. Thanks, SherryMaybe it’s the economy. All businesses are trying to stretch the profits with less employees, more work and less pay. Guess that is the times we are living in. Hope it isn’t as bad as you are expecting.
Have a safe trip…and lots of fun.
SherryHave a wonderful time in Sydney! I’ve never been there…haven’t been to many places. Went to the Bahamas once. Other than that, Canada is the only other country I’ve been to. Someday maybe.
Hope you are so busy and having fun that gambling isn’t even an issue. Can you tell your husband your worries and ask for his help? Always remember, if you don’t place that first bet, you can’t place the next hundred after that. Don’t allow yourself even one spin. I think you will be just fine Kathryn. Have fun!Another worry for you Kathryn…and you still didn’t gamble. Good for you! Too much stress is a trigger for me but so is calm and boredom. I’m proud of you for not running to the casino.
7 years ago my son and his girlfriend of 6 months announced she was pregnant. I was upset but hid it. I hugged them both and my first beautiful granddaughter was born. I witnessed her birth…and was present at the birth of my next 3 granddaughters too. Beautiful (and scary) experiences.
After 2 little girls, my son’s wife wanted a divorce. My son was devestated but started dating after about a month. His first girlfriend was a very pretty young lady with two little kids. My son told me she was pregnant. I went through the roof. No hugs, no congratulations only ‘are you stupid?’ I think my son was trying to re-create his prior life but the young lady was an opportunist. Thankfully, my son found out she was lying about being pregnant before she actually did get pregnant…and she stole money from him so that relationship ended. I think he learned his lesson that it takes a while to know someone and, most importantly, to use of birth control.
Maybe your nephew’s ex is lying about being pregnant. Whether she is pregnant or not, it’s not to be taken lightly and hopefully your nephew learns a lesson that sticks with him the rest of his life.
Keep caring and sharing. Your posts are very inspirational.
SherryGood for you Kathryn, making your money count for something. Sounds like you had a good time too. I know what you mean about blowing that much at the casino without much of a thought but thinking twice about spending it on things you need or want. Our perspective of money was sure distorted for a while! At least we are working our way back to reality.
You’re doing great with 33 gamble free days behind you! …especially with all you’ve been through.
I’m sore too. Didn’t walk but did roll 80 pound hay bales out of the way while my husband was baling. I’m so out of shape that I can’t lift the bales but my husband looked so full of pride (maybe it was a look of humor. I was not very graceful) as I rolled bale after bale out of his way so he could get done faster. I am sore today but expect to get out of bed even slower tomorrow. I wish I could get myself on an exercise routine and stick with it.
Hope you got your afternoon energy and had a great day.
Sherry
Kathryn, it sounds like you and your husband have built a very strong relationship and that will get your through all of this. Stay strong my friend.
SherryWow Kathryn, what a bombshell! You are very wise to have a DNA test done before you do anything else. I know a couple of guys that found out they had a kid 15-16 years later. Both had daughter’s that wanted to meet them. I think girls are looking for acceptance and love. At first it was a big family scandal and then a novalty as everyone got to know each other, took family pictures and talked about the past 15 years…but the ‘honeymoon’ stage ran it’s course and both send Christmas Cards but only see their new daughters occaisionally. Guess after not seeing each other for 15 years, going 1 or more years between visits isn’t a big deal. I feel so sorry that you have to go through this. And Vera is right when she says …’for God’s sake…DON’T GAMBLE!’
Who knows, maybe the new daughter will be a God sent gift to your family?