[shelly5]

Thank you for taking the time to write. I really appreciate the support and encouragement.  For the first time in a long time I feel hope.  My husband has admitted he’s a compulsive gambler.  I’m not feeling confident that he will completely quit gambling. I think he still thinks he has control over it.  I can see the cycle that we both go thru.  Mine is HURT–ANGER—Disappointment—then Hope.  I think his cycle is remorseful–then rationalizing his behavior.   I will keep trying to find ways to cope and heal.
 

[shelly5]

I can honestly say that I don’t totally understand what everyone is telling me.  Right now I don’t feel as down as I did over the weekend. I’m beginning to see a pattern though. Right now I’m in the hopeful stage.  I’m hoping that this is the time he will really change, but not really believing it.  I have heard so many broken promises over the years. 

[shelly5]

I appreciate all the advice.  I know that I need help.  I don’t feel as depressed as I did on Saturday.  My husband has admitted that he thinks he’s got gambling problem.  I still live in fear that things will not change.  I know that I can’t look into a crystal ball and know what the future holds.  I base all of this on the broken promises that I have heard over and over again.   

[shelly5]

I’m not the best person to give advice.  I am dealing with a problem gambler myself.  My heart truly goes out to you.   It definitely sounds like your being abused.  I hope that you can find happiness.  Hugs!!!!!

[shelly5]

I’m so sorry that you are going thru this. 

[shelly5]

Adele my Motto is, "Take life day at a time."  I need to read and re-read all the advice on this forum.  Please hang in there with me.  I had a conversation with my husband today.  I asked if he thought he was a compulsive gambler, and he answered yes.  I asked if he wanted to change, and he said yes.  I asked if that meant forever, and he answered no.  He still thinks he can control it.  I then asked him do you think that a recovering ********* or **** addict could still drink and do ****s.  He said no, but the difference is that’s a chemical dependency.  I don’t think he’s ready to quit.  I think he still thinks he can control it. 
 I asked him if he thinks a separation would be a good idea.  I thinks that I just want an excuse to leave.  I told him I want to give him some space to think about what he really wants in life.  He doesn’t think he ***** that.  I have to admit I have threatened to leave him before.  There are ***** when I think just walking away would be easier.  I do love him.  I just feel like we don’t have anything in common anymore.  
 I’m emotionally and physically drained right now.  I will keep coming here to vent and to get advice.  I can only hope that with time get stronger and understand things better.  I  will try to take this journey one day at time. 
 

[shelly5]

Kathryn what made you decide to stop gambling?  I think my husband realizes that he has a problem.  I don’t think he believes that he’s a CG. I will keep coming here, and I will try to heal.  Thank you for caring.

[shelly5]

I really need some advice.  I understand that I can’t change him.  Trust me I have tried.  When he does gamble how I am supposed to react?  The way I react now is to just get mad. We have had many fights over this.  He mainly just listens, and obviously it doesn’t help. 

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