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  • sam.sam
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    Привет, хорошо приехали и молодцы, начав тему на форуме. Я сам занимаюсь восстановлением компьютерной графики и использую форум как отправную точку на пути к выздоровлению. Читая вашу ветку, можно увидеть, что вы много пережили в своей жизни. Я уверен, что благодаря вашей решимости и заботе здесь вы найдете все инструменты, необходимые для преодоления азартных игр. Я лично считаю, что отказ от азартных игр – это первый шаг к выздоровлению, и что консультирование может сыграть большую роль в процессе выздоровления. Как вы упомянули, что собираетесь поехать в Австралию, я нашел несколько веб-адресов, которые могут быть вам полезны в процессе самоисключения. Всего наилучшего, Сэм. https://www.austgamingcouncil.org.au/self-exclusion-programs?field_program_ways_tid=All http://www.mgv.org.au/self_exclusion_program http://www.gamblinghelponline.org.au/accessing-support/ самоисключение /

    in reply to: My Life #24525
    sam.sam
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    Thank You very much P. It was a good day, gambling free, and met with my friends.
    I hope you had a good day as well and now having a good rest.
    See you soon my friend. One day at a time.

    in reply to: My Life #24523
    sam.sam
    Participant

    Hi Sad. As yo said we are stronger people now. And we will not let new opportunities for a more constructive future get away unnoticed. We will look back just to make sure we do not make the same mistakes, but we do not let the past stop us from stepping to a better future. Now being here between people who had the same problem, we have got the key to open the doors and step in and never fall into the same trap.
    You are one great person Sad. I hope every day will be a brighter day for you. God bless you.
    Sam

    in reply to: My Life #24521
    sam.sam
    Participant

    We do not realize the affect of our gambling on other people until we are stopped and in recovery. We all have stories to tell if look closer into our lives.
    It was in 1997, when I was going to my class in uni, where I met a beautiful young lady on the way. We met and got into the best relationship that I have ever had in my life. I still go and watch the bench that we sat on the first time we met.
    What did I do to destroy our relationship? Nothing really, I was in love with gambling behind her back. I even took her to meet her in casino.
    To make the long story short, she left me. Last thing she said was: I wanted to build my life with you next to me, climbing the mountains hand to hand with you…..
    This is what we are when in gambling activity, not that we do not care but we always think that we get them back, when we have a big win… And as you all know by now, the big win is never big enough.
    While I was gambling there were so many occasions that members of family were in need and I could easily help them big time in their life, but I was telling myself, the big win comes and then I will do that…you know that it never came…it never comes.
    while gambling, there are things that we do, and there some that we do not do, and both might have big effects on our close family or friends. It is not all about us, it is about people around us.

    in reply to: A thread for all… What was good in my day today? #24364
    sam.sam
    Participant

    well done P. That is all we need from a day. As long as we do not gamble it is a progress.
    Have a good day P.

    in reply to: My Life #24520
    sam.sam
    Participant

    Thanks Monique,
    I think it is a good place to start from. One of the reason is that they deal with different part of recovery.
    I can talk to them and see what help is available. I have taken the first step to help myself. That is making me happy.
    Thank Monique for your support.
    Sam.

    in reply to: My Life #24519
    sam.sam
    Participant

    Thank you P. Yes it is really good to meet some times in real time and have a chat about our progress and recovery.
    I will let you know how my appointment goes and how I feel after that.
    You take a good care of yourself P.
    Wish you the best.

    in reply to: My Life #24518
    sam.sam
    Participant

    Thanks sad.
    Yes I am looking forward to the appointment. I do not have a close relative to involve in my recovery. But I have all the people here to share my experience with. I am glad that life without gambling started for you and that you are still coming here as a part of your recovery plan.
    I hope that you always keep positive and strong. All the best Sad.

    in reply to: Want to know how to help more effectively! #3215
    sam.sam
    Participant

    Hi ali,
    It was nice to see you in the group today. I am sure by attending the chat room today, you would have a better understanding of your position in relation to the person you are supporting.
    I am a CG myself and in recovery and have used this site to challenge the problem I was and am facing. I just want to say you are in good hands.
    All the best in your journey. Sam

    in reply to: My Life #24514
    sam.sam
    Participant

    The email I received from soho the National Problem Gambling Clinic consist of few part. I am leaving a copy here, so I can see that when i come here, and thinking it may also help some one who want to get help from them, to have clear understanding of the process involved. I hope it is not against the policy and rules in here.
    WHAT IS AN ASSESSMENT?

    Your assessment will consist of an in-depth look at different aspects of your gambling and any contributing factors which may have led to the problem or be maintaining it. This will involve asking you about your gambling behaviour, and other areas of your life. Included in the assessment will be questionnaires and measures which will give us useful information regarding your lived experience.

    The assessment is designed to help the National Problem Gambling Clinic team work out the best possible treatment for you, and this will be based on the information you have provided. Usually, all of the information that we need to decide on treatment can be obtained in a single meeting. However, there are occasions where this may not be possible and we may ask you to come in again for a second assessment meeting.

    We will be able to provide you with some information regarding the type of treatment that we offer at the NPGC. We may also provide you with some suggestions for ways in which you can immediately start reducing problem gambling.

    Following the assessment the information provided will be discussed within the team the following week, where a plan of care will be confirmed. This will include the type of treatment we think would benefit you, and whether any additional support is needed to help you at the present time.

    You may find that there are a lot of questions asked during the assessment. However, this will help us to gain an understanding of the severity of your gambling, and help the team to consider what factors we should take into account before determining the type of treatment suitable for you. Please be assured that the information you provide will be treated confidentially.

    When a decision has been made by the team, you will be sent a letter notifying you of your treatment plan. You will then be placed on our waitlist and an appointment sent out to as soon as we are able to see you.

    If at any point during the assessment you feel uncomfortable about sharing information please let the assessor know and we can discuss your concerns.
    Is it only you that needs support?

    Here at the CNWL National Problem Gambling Clinic we believe that your gambling treatment is likely to be better supported if those close to you are supported too. For some people that may mean including loved ones directly (for example in a one off or more regular meetings here with you), or for others it may be more useful for them to receive help independently (for example, by attending a support group for family members).

    Questions that may help your decision:

    • Do you have a close relationship with anyone who may be struggling with the changes you are making?

    • Are there those close to you who seem not to understand or who are unaware of your gambling behaviour?

    • Is there someone who could help you with your goals but may not know how?

    We will wait a week before we contact those named below to give you the opportunity to explain that you have given their details to us.

    Details:

    Name:

    Address:

    Telephone Number

    Relationship?

    Date to contact:

    If there are additional people please provide details on reverse.

    Please note that we take confidentiality very seriously and no information about you or your treatment will be discussed without your permission.

    I am pleased to confirm an appointment has been made for you here at the National Problem Gambling Clinic on:

    Monday 3rd February 2014 at 2.00pm

    This initial assessment will last approximately one hour and 30 minutes. There, you will get an opportunity to discuss your current situation, your intended outcome(s) and agree on a treatment plan. If you are unable to attend, please do contact us before the appointment to reschedule.

    During your interaction with the Trust we will keep a record of your contact details and your care. For more information about record-keeping visit our website (http://www.cnwl.nhs.uk/your_information.html) or pick up a copy of the Your Information booklet when you attend the Gambling Clinic.

    We have enclosed a form regarding our Family & Friends Service at the clinic. We will ask you when you attend whether there is anyone who may be interested in accessing the service either to support you with the changes you are making and/or who may be interested in getting support for themselves. Please have a think and either complete the form or let us know when you attend your assessment appointment.

    Should you require any further information on the clinic or the services we offer, do not hesitate to contact us on the above telephone numbers.

    Looking forward to seeing you there.

    Yours sincerely,

    The Gambling Clinic Team
    So I am looking forward to the 3rd of February. All I have is because of this site, people in here, who helped me reach to this stage to ask for help openly and without fear or shame. being involve in here, talking and reading and listening to others, made me feel, that I am ill and need to get help. We started with stopping the gambling but for sure If we want it to stay that way we need to change the way we think about our self and change the way we react to changes and pressures in our day to day life. That is why I have decided to get help. So much to deal with. I am positive in getting help. If I was able to do that alone I would have done it before. Thanks to all of you here. All the best.

    in reply to: The journey of change #20551
    sam.sam
    Participant

    Hi P. I came back again today to your page to see if you have written any thing today. If I may say ” I miss you ” and hope that every thing is good with you. I hope that if you are not here, you are some where that makes you happy. It is a good feeling, that even I do not know people in here I feel very interested and connected with them. One like yourself, when is not writing, is missed by me.
    Energy and hope that your words carry and pass to me and others, help us to carry on in our recovery.
    All the best P.

    in reply to: My Life #24513
    sam.sam
    Participant

    Hi dazza. It was nice to see you in the room. I was always curious to see more experience people in here dealing with their daily challenges of life. I am sure having the opportunity to be in a room with you, helps a lot.
    Have a good week. See you next week.

    in reply to: My Life #24511
    sam.sam
    Participant

    Sad I think all of us are very sensitive people, more than others that never become compulsive in doing some thing. Of course we feel bad If some one bully us, and we want to answer them in a smart ways. For me is almost all the time looking for a reason in them to explain their behaviors. And when I do it makes me feel that is the way they are dealing with their problems. As you said we can decide to ignore them, unless it is becoming a problem(repeatedly happening), then we need to deal with that and make them stop once for all. You mentioned Casino and safety!? you did not say gambling? I just want you to think about it. do you feel safe in the casino environment? It was once for me, the only place I could dress up and go was casino, people respected me, may be for a wrong reason, but I liked that at the beginning. That is why I am interested to know which one is that makes you feel safe, the casino or the disconnection from yourself while gambling.
    Sad if you feel down try to talk about it now, with people who understand. Like in here. I hope you are better by now. take care happy. One day at a time.

    in reply to: My Life #24509
    sam.sam
    Participant

    Sad, I think I have met all of them some times in the past but mainly I would say I am seeing a lot of worrier and critic in myself. We need to get the balance between them I guess. As long as we know that these are in existence and they may effect our behavior, we should be able to control them with practice.
    I am glad You like the subject.
    Have a good time Happy.

    in reply to: My Life #24506
    sam.sam
    Participant

    We will need to learn how to recognise our negative self talk in order to begin to control our anxiety and emotional reactions to our particular anxiety provoking situation. To do this we will need to monitor and write down what our sub personalities(the worrier, the critic, the victim, and the perfectionist) are telling us for at least a week. We need to pay attention specially to occations when we are feeling anxious(panicky), depressed, self -critical, and ashamed, or otherwise upset. Look for the thoughts that were going through your mind that led you to feel the way you did. Try to be specific to what you were actually saying to yourself. eg. ” what if I panic while giving my talk today?” is specific whereas “I felt scared” is not specific example of self talk because it does not indicate what you were thinking or saying to yourself.

    Ask yourself the following question in situation when you have an urge:
    What am I telling myself that is making me feel this way? or
    what automatic thought went trough my mind?
    Notice /catch yourself in the act, be aware of situation that are likely to be aggravated by self talk.

    That is it for tonight. One day at a time and concentrating on today is the best I have ever done.

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