[Ryan123678]

Hi Fritz you can do it again 3 years is a long time. Try to remember what helped you stop last time and what barriers you can put in place. I think we forget over time how painful it is losing everything and it drags us back in. Stay strong and keep checking back in here.

[Ryan123678]

Sounds like a good bond you have. Good friends are hard to come by especially ones you can share problems with. Congrats on still being gamble free

[Ryan123678]

Wrote an update in Sean’s thread and thought I would put it in here for anybody interested.
Its been about 3 months now and it has got easier I’m not as focused as I was on the losses in the early weeks. I try to just see it as an expensive lesson learnt. Things going on in the world and to people I know brings things into perspective and I’m lucky to be alive and need to live in the present as I can not change what has already happened.

[Ryan123678]

Its been about 3 months now and it has got easier I’m not as focused as I was on the losses in the early weeks. I try to just see it as an expensive lesson learnt. Things going on in the world and to people I know brings things into perspective and I’m lucky to be alive and need to live in the present as I can not change what has already happened

[Ryan123678]

Keep going you can do it. You are doing great. I’m at nearly 3 months and it has got easier only pops in my head now and then where as I was thinking and feeling sick about the losses every moment I was awake for a few weeks. Good luck keep strong.

[Ryan123678]

Congratulations on your new job hope it is going well and it sounds like it’s keeping you occupied and keeping you on the right path. Have a great day.

[Ryan123678]

Hi Sean glad to hear you are doing well. I’ve not been posting as much as I was but I am still gf. I still read the posts on the forum everyday and find your positivity the most helpful. Hope you have a good day.

[Ryan123678]

Hi welcome to the forum. You say you don’t need support but you probably do I think when we feel we don’t need support anymore is when we are more vulnerable.
You have given up for long periods before so go for it again but keep visiting this site and read other people’s threads. I have lost all my savings, others have lost homes family’s partners.
Leave barriers in place even after long periods like giving your partner control of finance. Exclude from wherever you gamble.
If you put barriers in place it will give you time to stop and remember how sickening it feels losing hard earned money.
Stick around read others stories I’m sure you will find people who have been in your situation.

[Ryan123678]

Hi. It might be embarrassing but asked to be banned from the betting shops. Only take money out that you will need no extra or bank cards. Try to find something else to occupy your time and mind. There are always people here to talk to if you get the urge to gamble post on here or read other people’s threads. Good luck keep us updated

[Ryan123678]

You are doing amazing. Your positivity on this and other people’s threads is inspiring and I’m sure helps others especially new members. Keep it up bro and have a good day.

[Ryan123678]

I felt the same for about a week. Be kind to yourself maybe do something small each day and build up. It gets easier as time passes. I was obsessed with losses thinking about it every minute I wasn’t occupied. After about a month I am just having occasional thoughts. Like steev said if it continues or you get worried about it seek medical help. There is always people to talk to on here aswell.

[Ryan123678]

Keep going strong. It’s awesome you are thinking about the future building a new home. Sounds like you and your son are really close from this and previous posts. Quality time with close ones is what we need to keep occupied.

[Ryan123678]

I’ve been gamble free for about 6 weeks now.
Before this year I would only bet small on sports but this year I got carried away on online slots. I’m struggling at the moment but I’m hoping the turn of the year I can put this year behind me and start to improve my life moving forward.

[Ryan123678]

It’s a very difficult situation and it sounds like your son needs you and moving to a different country although it could be a fresh start might be tough on him if he is really close to you. Does your wife have family in SA.
Maybe talk to your wife about staying in the country you are in and explain your thoughts on wanting to be there and guide your son.
Its hard to say what you should do with regards to custody but you sound like a great dad and I’m sure you will make the right decision

[Ryan123678]

Take that last chance and use the support of your loved ones to give you the motivation to carry on a gamble free life.
Take one day at a time and try to find new hobbies to fill the spare time and keep the mind occupied. Good luck moving forward.

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