[rose26]

Me again..
He can’t seem to get past the fact that I’ve spoken to other people about it. He doesn’t really get the whole opening up and sharing problems, and says I should have kept it between us.
Still don’t think he’s accepted we’re no longer getting married either, and blames me for telling people and not being able to ‘turn back’

[rose26]

Had a conversation about it with him. He’s not keen on going back to GA and says he “knows what happens there” and I can help him with it..
He keeps telling me I have a shopping addiction (I can be obsessive about things and have recently come into some money and got a bit carried away, whenever I do have money I do tend to spend too much on the boys clothes etc)
But I feel like this is him deflecting it onto me?
But I don’t lie about it, and know I could be better with money too..
I’m not sure I’ll be able to make this Tuesday’s live chat, but hopefully one in the future 🙂

[rose26]

Think I might be done. Although my feelings change constantly from day to day, hour to hour. I just can’t get past the fact he’s taken our special day, our future away from us..
I think I will habour that resentment for a long time, and all the trust we had built back up has been knocked back down again.
After all these years, and he’s still doing the same thing? I can’t think what will stop him?
We’ve split before and got back together on the basis that he would get help, change his lifestyle etc and its all gone back to the way it was.
As for looking after the money, I already have 3 children, I don’t want a fourth; I want to feel looked after, not like I’m looking after him! As selfish as that sounds..

[rose26]

Hi velvet,
Thank you very much for replying. Its a great comfort knowing someone is listening, and understands!
He has acknowledged he has a problem, but I’m not sure if he really believes it; he carries on gambling and doesn’t do anything about it, but does say its a problem, doesn’t know why he does it, plays catch up etc.. Says “he slipped up”
He has lost a house in the past and has old debts, mainly due to gambling or just generally being bad with money..
I have a very supportive family, they are still young and have families of their own so I don’t get to see them loads but they’re always there to listen (something my partner finds hard to understand; that I go to them when things like this happen) I think this is the last straw for my mum, she has had enough as far as the gambling is concerned.
We were due to get married this year and I can’t help bit feel so hurt and angry that he could do this again behind my back on the run up to our wedding, I’ve had to cancel it now.
He did give up for. A while, then started dabbling in poker stars and now he’s gone back to the bookies (as far as I know)

[rose26]

Ty for listening x

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