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Dear Bettie –
I hope you are looking at how many people love and support you on this site. I have been struggling with gaining weight the last 3 years, after a lifetime of being thin, must be my age. Believe me when I tell you that thinner people endure comments about their weight all the time, and judgement too. Being thinner than normal seems to give people permission to lable you as ill, frail, anorectic, and vain !!
I would never comment on anyone’s weight issues no matter what their size, and if you would never call anyone fat then don’t call yourself that either. Please treat yourself with the same love and understanding you show to others. I can recall other hurtful comments from my childhood but with the perspective of age, realize that the problem lies with the commenter, not the commentee. Think of the damage they are doing to their characters, and how people will remember them for years for their negativity.
I worked once with a lifeguard who taught a group that included a special needs child. When the rest of the class mocked that child’s efforts, she sat them out on the pool deck where they shivered while she pinned their ears back and told them how wrong they were. The parents of those children demanded an apology and she refused to give it. Special and rare are those who stand up for what is right, but she will always be one of my heroes.
Everyone is struggling with something Bettie, you are not alone. Take good care of yoursef, you are a special lady and I can’t wait to meet you. I feel very fortunate to have that opportunity, although a rotten spring cold has me feeling very ill right now. Please send healing vibes my way ..
redsHappy Birthday Bettie.
Have a great day .Hi Bettie –
Yes, deep dish pizza sounds like a plan. I went and picked up my passport yesterday, I’m good to go. Can’t wait to meet you, and Larry, and Carole. .Just for today, I will not gamble away my time, freedom or peace of mind.Dear Bettie – Sorry to hear about your diabetes, but with monitoring and insulin your blood sugar levels will be better controlled, and the treatment options have certainly improved. You may even feel better. Yes, it is a hard thing to accept a chronic disease, I know that. But good news about the car. I, like Carole, had older vehicles because they kept working for us, so I didn’t care what they looked like. Our kids did ask us not to drive by their schools, tho.
No more scrimping and saving just to send the casino owners on holiday for us !!
By workouts, do you mean like at a gym or something ?? I’m impressed !! Some day I hope to get there too.Hi Bettie –
Well, I took your advice and went to see The Vow. It was the first night out I’ve had in a long time, so glad you suggested it. We drove to Jasper which is stunningly beautiful, about 1 hour away because they have a theatre. The movie was enjoyable and your city looks beautiful. One thing kind of puzzled me, ask me when I see you. Have been reading a little bit about city history… fascinating place .
I will be getting some new furniture when the living room is finished, today painting the upstairs hallway and down the stairs. Change is good, been staring at the same old furniture for 25 years, when we moved most of it went to the dump.
Hope you enjoy your new big-screen TV. All the guys will want to be there on game day. See ya in a bit.
reds.HI Bettie – good on you for not buying smokes. The urges will pass, as you know and as the months go by the habit of non-smoking will become your new habit. You did it before and you can do it again, you deserve the freedom and good health. Hang in there, it will get better.
I’m going out for brekkie now, did a nice long walk ending with 99 stairs yesterday and I’ll do it again today. That ice better be gone by the time Carole and I get there, I will check out that movie, maybe can get it online ? No theatre in my home town !!Just for today, I will not gamble away my time, freedom or peace of mind.Hi Bettie – Flowers !! How lovely. I’m sure I won’t get any, got them three times, one for each baby and one for an operation !! You have to be in hospital to qualify around here. LOL. I got breakfast in bed for my first Mother’s Day too, but I was in the hospital !! Haha. Delivered by a very nice nurse.
I’m looking forward sooo much to meeting you, from your writings I expect we have a lot in common. My struggle with weight continues, did well until last weekend when we had company, fell off the wagon and gained 7 pounds in seven days !! How does that happen ? Every day is a new opportunity, though and I did well last night. Snacked on snap peas and oranges. Too bad I can’t ban myself at the grocery store !!
I worry that my clothes are not nice enough for Chicago, no opportunity to shop here and being underemployed means every penny counts. But I’m coming anyhow, wouldn’t give up the chance to meet with someone as wonderful as you. You hang in there, be kind to yourself as you are to all others, and don’t listen to people who downplay your achievements. Just because you have slipped doesn’t make your recovery less valid. Progress, not perfection as our friend Carole says !!
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Thanks bettie – I’m looking into flites now, this should be fun. But I have nothing to wear and only a WalMart in my hometown. You will haveto excuse my wardrobe !! Could you give me an idea of what kind of weather we are looking at ? And yes, I’m trying to trim those last 10 pounds, Christmas was a disaster. Can’t wait to meet you.
hi (( Bettie )) –
thanks for your reply to my post. I know you have been very busy with caring for your daughter, we will catch up later, no worries. I have been thinking about you. Yes, I am planning to come to Chicago with Carole, looking for the link to the conference so I can book flights, hotels, etc. It is going to be great to finally meet you, Carole, Larrry and all the other GT people who can make it. If you can pass along the conference info, would appreciate it !! thanks so muchxxx.Just for today, I will not gamble away my time, freedom or peace of mind.dear (( bettie ))-
My thoughts and prayers are with you , I’m sorry for your loss. Just for today, I will not gamble away my time, freedom or peace of mind.Is there a rule against laughing ?
Is there a rule against laughing ?
Hi RD –
Here’s something to think about – put some barriers in place until you are a little further along in your recovery. Don’t keep a lot of money in an accessible place. I opened an online account to store my " extra " cash that is linked to my home bank account. It takes me 3 business days to withdraw any money. This helps to limit any impulse purchases or gambling. ING direct or Ally Canada are 2 of my favorites. If they send you a debit card for the account, cut it up. Stop the bleeding now.
People are not as impressed as you might think by external shows of wealth. Many multimillionaires live well below their means. Working in the tax business taught me that. It’s not what you spend that ******, it’s what you keep.
I found when I was ready to stop gambling I had to take some really tough steps. If we could do it on our own, there wouldn’t be 10 thousand gamblers and family members registered here. Keep reading our posts and you will find the answers you are looking for.
redsJust for today, I will not gamble away my time, freedom or peace of mind.