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Oh ((Bettie)). When we begin to love ourselves is when it all starts to fall in place. You are lovely, special lady never forget that my friend. Oh and house cleaning IS excersise lol Pumkin
Originally posted by bettie
I expect people to know that I am lonely, hurting, depressed and that i need to connect. Easier to feel sorry for myself
Great insight bettie! I can so relate to this. Pumkin
Thinking of you bettie — keeping you in my prayers girlfriend. Pumkin
BETTIE!!!!!!! WTG!!!!! I TOO CRIED READING YOUR POST — SUCH AN ACHIEVEMENT. WTG MY FRIEND. pumkin
So happy for you Bettie! So glad u r here 🙂 Pumkin
Hope you’re feeling well soon bettie. pumkin
Hey Bettie — I missed you on GT. There’s a group over at SH so come over there if you want! I’m just directing traffic at GT lol. Pumkin
Hi Bettie — So sorry your holiday plans are falling through for you. I know it’s so dissappointing to have been looking forward to something and have it pulled out from under you. Keep you head up though Bettie! You still have some time here to enjoy. Your original plans may not have worked out but that doesn’t mean you can’t come up with some new plans that will. Think entirely about you and what special thing you might enjoying treating yourself to. You deserve it! And STOP those thoughts that this has anything to do with you my friend. All of us tend to get wrapped up in a world that revolves around ourselves — its natural — but almost all of the time when we think we know what others feel or think it is totally off base. Take care. Pumkin
Phillip — I thought a lot about those same things — how at one time I looked forward to and was happy going shopping or out to eat or just visiting friends. Keep thinking about that Phillip because you CAN get it back. Yes we have to grow up but that doesn’t mean we still can’t enjoy really ****** food at the state fair or going to a rock concert. One day at a time Phillip — you’re doing great! Pumkin
Phillip you’re mind is used to just one kind of stimulation — its confused. Someone here used an analogy of a glass of water — your brain has been filled with only gambling for a long time and then you start trying to put other things in your brain so you have to dump out some in order to fill it with other activities — you keep doing this until the glass is filled with your new life. It is not a fast process — its gradual change as you start to be able to enjoy doing something other than the one and only activity that has consumed so much of your life for so long. I can tell you that if you don’t give up you WILL begin to feel enjoyment from other things and it will be an eye opener. At first it will be just a little and not for long and then you just keep trying to grow it until you find you’re waking up one day and sitting outside enjoying a cup a coffee or just watching the grass grow in the first time in years. There is really nothing like it. Pumkin
WTG Diva!!!! Thanks for your post. I think you’re right and banning is such a great move and relief! Helps with the recovery process so much. Best to you Diva! Pumkin
I know how you feel hoops. Yesterday I hit a wall too. After trying and trying and trying to quit I was at a casino blowing my money not wanting to ever leave until I hit the "big one". Becoming more and more desperate at all of the promises made and broken I finally had it with myself and self banned. It is the best decision I could have made. I know I will still have urges but so far they are not as bad because I’m banned so its just a not possible and I can dismiss the urges. The second thing I noticed is that now my mind is thinking of things that ARE NOT gambling to spend money on. I’m no longer being consumed to save and save and save just to gamble it away. How freeing! Hoops you sound like a great person — caring and with good priorities. Keep reaching out because you can beat this. You can have a life where the all comsuming obsession is quieted and you can go on and enjoy life as it is meant be.
PumkinHey Lizbeth! Thanks so much for your post. Youre an inspiration to all 🙂 Pumkin
Hi Cat — Bravo for coming here and for seeking the help and taking the steps you need to regain your life. This is a great place to help you on your journey to recovery. Hope I get to meet you in chat soon! Pumkin113b
Hi Geordie — You are doing a stupendous job! You are right where you need to be at this time! WTG. Pumkin113b