[PaulT]

Thanks Vera and Velvet for the response. We live in a city with only one family member, her sister. She is her gambling partner. I have only told my brother and he said I had too much invested in the marriage and to let her have her times at the casino. 

We got in anohter fight last night and she tells me that I worry too much about money. After we went to bed I got to thinking, I do worry about money and her losing it in a slot machine. That’s my worry. Next month we will be married 34 years, if we make it that far. I will always love her, but right now I am ready to call it quits. Split everything down the middle and walk away. I am tired of all the stress and auguring.

Thanks again for listening and allowing me to vent.

 

[PaulT]

Thanks for the reply. 

We have had arguments to the point we went weeks without speaking. We connected with a marriage counseler for a few weeks. It ended when the counselor said it’s up to me if I can accept her behavior. I thought we were on the road to recovery but last night was a sign we are in trouble again. 

She wanted to take a “girls” trip with her sisters and they would be going to a town that has a casino close by. When I suggested I would tag along to go see my family it did not sit well with her. so my guess is she is casino bound. 

I am just tired of it and ready to jump ship. I feel if she loved me she would quit. I don’t think that will ever happen. 

Im scared because right now she is in charge of paying the bills and I’m scared to look at a bank statement for fear of what I will find. 

[PaulT]

She does not go to the casino every week, but it is getting to the point where I don’t want to give her an excuse to go. She tried to say that it is no different then me playing golf. For her to go to the casino and sit for six hours, I just dont think it is the same. Please tell me if I am wrong. I so want to be wrong. The other thing is she plays the slots on her computer for hours every day. I don’t think she is playing with real money but still just clicking and spinning the slots.
The other issue is she does all the books for our house hold so I don’t really know what is going out. I can almost say that we are living paycheck to paycheck from what I see from our savings and checking account.
I think most people on average go to the casino once or twice a year. She tries to go or suggest we go to a concernt so she can play a little.
If I am wrong I think I have really pissed her off. She is not talked to me much this weekend.

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