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Hi Bettie

That is wonderful news about your pay out and also you are there typing on your new computer.. well done.
Glad to see you post and still waiting to one day see you in chat again. Happy things are looking up for you , really good to see

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HI peacegirl

Wow well done on your barriers already in place that is just fantastic. Its good you have come here. There are a lot of great benefits to being here. People to chat to in chat, one on one with an advisor on the helpline, forums, posting, reading, its a wonderful little world here, very helpful for your days in this journey. Its good you have found it and taken the first steps needed in reaching out for help. Its the hardest thing sometimes asking for help. Also if you have a look online in your area for any gamblers anonymous meetings they can be of great benefit too.

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Hi Nancy
So glad to see you posting again. I know those games for me dont work but if you find they help you then i guess its good, its good you didnt lose money, just be careful it doesnt keep that feeling of will i win alive.. But well done for getting through your urges and not going to gamble.
Are the games on Facebook gambling or are they fun games?
I once many moons ago tried to play free pokies on line, pokies are slots here. It was the same machine as i went to play in the casino however the next week i was back out there. So for me they dont work but i did find an awesome game on line called word solitaire where you make words out of letters on cards instead of numbers.. was very good and had lovely background music while i was playing.
Anyway i am so glad that you are posting, it is good you are still coming here, you helped me years ago with your kindness.
Keep posting. Keep coming here. Im glad you share these things it gives me thoughts too of what does and doesnt work for me and i know everyones different and i respect everyones journey for what it is.. whatever works..
Just so glad to see you again

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Today i had a strong urge to gamble, today i made a decision that no matter how i feel or think today i dont need to do that
Today i need to go by my history. My history tells me that i tried to control my gambling for years on end and never could. it only got worse and always will regardless of the time off gambling.
Once i start i can’t stop so the point is not to start. If i start i set off a craving that i have no control over, i do have control over the occasional urge i get. I won’t start.
Just for today i will not gamble

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Having a delicious smoothie
A recovery chat this morning in group with Charles and co..
A decision not to gamble today
A decision to watch my reactions to things today
A decision to watch a movie today and treat myself

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Hi Carole
It was good to see you in the chat… put up those barriers with money again as soon as you can.. do all you can to help yourself this addiction is progressive and it just gets worse and worse, i have lived that for sure..
Glad you told us and came back.
Re the cats, can you give your mums cat to someone else, it is likely they won’t get used to each other. Some cats cant adjust.
Can you give it to a friend, relative, pet shop, anyone?
Can Danny take her? I understand your stress at the moment and things being up in the air. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. The thing that helped me the most is making recovery my number one priority. Putting it above other things. You have to want it badly though. I guess for me it took pain and lots of it to really really accept gambling is something i can’t do. Everyone is different, I’ve been here years and years relapsing, the most important thing is to come back and keep getting up and trying which you are.
We are here for you Carole. Reach out for help and you will find a hand. Keep coming to the chats even if you dont feel like talking much. Keep posting, stay connected to people who dont want to gamble and understand what its like.

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Hi Kin

i was just wondering how you are doing, was just thinking of you and hoping all is good in your world at the moment..

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Hi Cat

I hope that you are having a good week.. i miss seeing your posts when you dont post but i also understand sometimes you just dont feel like it.. do whats good for you and do something nice for yourself too.. you deserve it you have done a great job of this recovery..its ongoing, it goes through phases, happy to hear about all of the phases, positive, negative its all part of the process.. sometimes it helps to get it out

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Hi Laura
I like how you said you do the biggest job first, that actually really helped me as i have a list of things to do and i seem to leave that big one till last when i need to put it first, then the rest that follow will be easier.. good thinking.. hope you are having a good week

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Hi Bettie

It was good seeing that change again in you from the beginning of your recovery to now there is just no comparison is there, such a huge huge difference, you’ve done really well.
I always love to read your posts.. glad things are becoming a little more positive..

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Hi Sam

I hope that things are going well for you today, i haven’t seen you around as often but i also understand that sometimes we need to take a step back from it all…

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Hi Carole

Thanks for your post.. i am glad you decided against doing another donation, it sounds like what you did was well enough. its good you donated at all..
As for the cats, thats what my vet was talking about to me, as i wanted another and he said some will never get used to each other. I wonder if you have any friends or family who want a cat and they could perhaps take on your mums cat or it could be quite stressful for you and the kitties..
Hope you are keeping well and i love how you section your food into portion sizes, i am not good with portions, i love my food and struggle to not overeat. I hope that things work out financially, i must say i didnt like the sound of you having to wait Five years for payment.. hmmmm. Not something that would sit well with me either, a lot could happen in Five years.
You need that money to establish your new life. Sounds like you have tested the waters over and over with Danny and you have made the most positive choice, i am sure if the issues were there for so many years they would continue.. but you need to do what brings you contentment and peace too.. if it would bring you happiness being back with Danny there is nothing wrong with that, or if it makes you happy being single nothing wrong with that either, gotta do whats the best and healthiest choice for you.. you are not gambling which is wonderful, throw that into the mix and things will get a whole lot worse.

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Hi Liz
Thanks for your post.. I dont know that there is a time frame for grief and i am sure that a part of you will always miss your hubby for the rest of your life.. you spent so many years together, it is only natural your loss.
Your lucky grandson.. a captains bed. Wow he is going to have lovely memories of you for his life. I just hope you do enough nice things for yourself too.
I am amazed you go to the gym and look after your grandson, supportive to your daughter etc.. and your mum.
I love to hear of your days. I feel so close to everyone here. Though we are far away i feel i know you. Though we have never met. I still feel you are a friend as i do all here.. its wonderful..
Look forward to your next post

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Lorraine i am so pleased to hear of your daughters speedy recovery, what a wonderful feeling for a mum to see the daughter asking for food and drink… that feeling of hope, that relief.. so happy for you Lorraine

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I am P from the cg forums and i want to thank you for stopping by in support on my thread… i dont frequent these pages but was told to come here once as i have family members who are cg.
At the moment though i am just concentrating on my recovery from gambling addiction and i am glad that you dropped by to say hi, i appreciate it.

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