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Hiya Carole
So wishing you are having a good time at the moment in your life and you are busy with the grandkids and work etc. A pat to your Ferris and co…
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Hi Laura i hope that you are still reading here.. I really thank you for all the times you talked to me and helped me through on here.. I still wonder how you are doing and i hope its all good in your world and its just that you are so busy enjoying life..
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Ok, where are you woman???? Where is our update on your holiday.. im sure you had a wonderful time.. miss seeing your posts.. come back and update us..
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How are you today Bettie.. i hope that things are going ok for you.. miss your posts round here, i hope you come back soon
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How are you doing Lorraine.. whats happening in your world today, hope you are well
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I hope that things are going well for you today.. cant wait to see a post to update us
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Hi nice to meet you and its great you have come here and get the ball rolliing to recovery.. if you are a compulsive gambler no time off the bet will make you better at gambling, its a progressive thing, if you think its progressing at a rapid rate now and you gamble for another year, it will be a guarantee that you will come back saying if i had stopped at that point which is now.. wow it progresses fast.. its got no mercy, it just eats us alive. Start putting things in place now. Gamblers anonymous, counselliing, this site, theres groups, one on one advice.. the addiction cant be taken lightly, it actually kills people in the end, or sends them insane or to prison.. it just continually progresses to a point thats un imaginable. Its like an alcoholic saying i will just not drink for a little while and then i wil be able to drink again in moderation because i have stopped for 3 months.. what will happen to the alcoholic, they will have one sip of that beer and think this is ok im in control, after one they will have another and another and then wind up saying.. il never do it again, then do it again, and so the cycle continues. Ive never seen a compulsive gambler that can gamble normally ever after crossing the line into compulsve gambling.. if you are not a compulsive gambler now there are all the signs of heading in that direction and once it has hold wow is it hard to stop.
Well done on coming here, on being brave, on asking questions.. questions which may help your future.. its such a massive risk to continue.. if you can get out now.. do it.P
HI Liberty, thats a great poem.. i love these things you write. Hope you are having a great gamble free time
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Hows things going today
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I know what you mean about having no choice in addiction.. i have a choice now but i dont feel i had one for many years.. the power of the addiction was actually far too strong for me to be able to listen or even find where reason or logic was.. If the choice had been there i would have stopped straight away.
Now i have a choice, only because now after putting in a massive amount of effort into recovery, attending meetings every week, counselling, getting in touch with people if the urge hits, now there is a choice but i didnt always have that.. i do now though, so for me now.. i have thinking time when i get urges, they are few now but i had the fight for years and years..
I know when i was in the middle of addiction it was the hardest thing on this earth for me to fight. I didnt get it, i couldnt, till i reached a place of pain and a relapse that was so devastating.. it kind of put me into wanting recovery more than wanting to gamble.. that switch flipped for me but only after being here since 2009. All the advice helps because it stays in our minds but its not what necessarily works at the time when we still have that insane obsession overpowering us.. i think when i found surrender then i found acceptance and i cant see how anyone would have made me find it but there were positive influences and the advice helped its just accceptance for me came via rockbottom.
Hope this makes sense.. when i say we i guess i should say me but thought i would just say how it was for me and i really get that its so easy to give advice when in recovery, it was not easy by any means in addiction..P
The clay is not set…i love that.. you are moulding your new life now.. so good, just love your posts.. you are actually very funny
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Its really hard to fight this addiction alone, its good you have come here for support its a great place, maybe talk on the one on one line or join in the groups here too.. gamblers anonymous is a wonderful place to be when we have this addiction.. can you exclude from the places you are playing at if thats possible for you.. there are blockers for your computer and there are exlusions you can put in place at land based casinos..
Congratulations on Two months gamble free that is wonderful and great to see you getting out doing things. The zoo trip for your daughters birthday sounds like a great day for the family. its so good getting into the recovery life isnt it.. well done and hope to keep seeing posts from you
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What is great is your recognize your depression and thats a start then you can do something about it.. can you talk to your doctor.. i understand depression ive had it forever and it really takes you down.. getting help early is a good thing.. thinking of you… you are a great person lizbeth and i always love seeing your posts
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It sounds like the drinking is a trigger for you.. can you maybe avoid drinking for a while if it endangers your recovery.. also there are blockers for your computer if you could install or reinstall, K9 or betfilter, netnanny. Start over and give yourself the chance to recover… just for this day dont gamble. .. can you grab onto some more support, GA meetings, excluding from places.. counselling? Keep posting, maybe attend the groups here or talk on the one on one helpline..
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