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Acabo de tener una maravillosa sesión de temas con Charles, lo que me funciona con los impulsos es si salgo del impulso, si no lo mantengo en secreto. Le envío un mensaje de texto a todos los miembros de GA que conozco y les digo que esto es lo que estoy pensando. A veces no quiero enviar ese mensaje, pero lo hago de inmediato porque esta adicción es muy furtiva, mantenerlo en secreto hace que se agrave. Sacarlo parece debilitarlo de alguna manera. ¡Yo también estoy ocupado! Inmediatamente comencé a hacer algo que requiere concentración, la otra semana limpié toda mi ropa, clasifiqué cajones, armarios, hice un rompecabezas. Llamo a la gente y hablo por teléfono. Después de un tiempo, esos impulsos se desvanecen, no pueden quedarse las 24 horas del día, los 7 días de la semana. Si sigo haciendo cosas y también alimentando mi recuperación, es cada vez más fácil para mí luchar contra estos impulsos. Es difícil en medio de una intensa necesidad de pensar racionalmente. Me recuerdo esto cuando tengo uno y necesito conectarme con otros para mostrarme lo irracional que estoy pensando. Después de un tiempo, de estar ocupado, me doy cuenta de que ese impulso se ha ido. Entonces estoy tan complacido conmigo mismo y me siento mucho más fuerte. Poner tiempo entre el impulso y la acción es el truco para mí también. No actuar instantáneamente, sino alargarlo, esperar media hora, luego otra, no, no iré hasta después del almuerzo … no iré durante la próxima hora … gradualmente se desvanecen. Vale la pena esperar. Gracias por un gran grupo de temas hoy Charles P

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私はチャールズと素晴らしいトピックセッションをしました。私が衝動を持って私のために働くのは、私が衝動を外した場合、それを秘密にしない場合です。私は知っているGAのすべてのメンバーにテキストメッセージを送信し、これが私が考えていることだと伝えます。私は時々そのメッセージを送りたくないのですが、この中毒は非常に卑劣なので、私はすぐにそれを送ります。そこにそれを出すことはそれをどういうわけか弱めるようです。私も忙しいです！私はすぐに集中力のあることを始めました。先週、私はすべての服を片付け、引き出し、食器棚を分類し、ジグソーパズルをしました。私は人に電話して電話で話します。しばらくすると、それらの衝動は薄れ、24時間年中無休で滞在することはできません。私が物事を続け、また私の回復を養うならば、私はこれらの衝動と戦うことがより簡単になります。強い衝動の真っ只中で合理的に考えることは難しい。私はこれを持っていて、他の人とつながり、自分がどれほど不合理だと思っているかを示す必要があるときに、これを思い出します。しばらくして、忙しいので、私は気づきました、ちょっとその衝動はなくなった。それで私は自分自身にとても満足し、ずっと強く感じます。衝動と行動の間に時間を置くことは私にとってもトリックです。すぐに行動するのではなく、伸ばして30分待ってから、もう1つ、昼食後まで行かない。次の1時間は行かない。徐々に消えていく。待つ価値があります。今日は素晴らしいトピックグループをありがとうチャールズP

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Man tikko bija brīnišķīga tēmu sesija ar Čārlzu, kas man noder ar mudinājumiem, ja es izslēdzu vēlmi, ja es to neslēpšu. Es sūtu īsziņu katram man zināmam GA loceklim un saku, ka es domāju tieši to. Dažreiz es nevēlos nosūtīt šo ziņu, bet es to daru nekavējoties, jo šī atkarība ir ļoti viltīga, tās slepenības saglabāšana ļauj tai nožūt. Šķiet, ka tā iegūšana kaut kā vājina. Es arī kļūstu aizņemts! Es uzreiz sāku darīt kaut ko tādu, kas prasa koncentrēšanos, otro nedēļu es iztīrīju visas drēbes, sakārtoju atvilktnes, skapjus, uztaisīju mozaīkmīklu. Es zvanu cilvēkiem un runāju pa tālruni. Pēc kāda laika šīs vēlmes izgaist, viņi nevar palikt visu diennakti. Ja es turpinu darīt lietas un baroju savu atveseļošanos, man ir vieglāk un vieglāk cīnīties ar šīm vēlmēm. Intensīvas vēlmes vidū racionāli domāt ir grūti. Es to atgādinu sev, kad man tāds ir, un man ir nepieciešams izveidot savienojumu ar citiem, lai parādītu, cik neracionāli es domāju. Pēc kāda laika, būdams aizņemts, es saprotu, hei, šī vēlme ir pazudusi. Tad es esmu tik apmierināta ar sevi un jūtos daudz stiprāka. Laika novirzīšana starp vēlmi un darbību ir arī triks man. Nerīkojoties uzreiz, bet izstiepjot, gaidot pusstundu, tad vēl vienu, nē, es neiešu līdz pusdienām .. es neiešu nākamo stundu .. pamazām tie izgaist. Ir vērts gaidīt. Paldies par lielisko tēmu grupu šodien Charles P.

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I always love your broken pot analogy. I love the things you post they always get me thinking. Thank you for your post to me and thank you for still being here inspiring others with your thought provoking posts.. stay strong Kin.. see you soon

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Well done for coming here it is a huge step in helping yourself, you are one of the few in fact, many never reach out for help.
Although i don’t sports bet there are many here who do, what i have heard helps them too is banning from bookies, banning online from betting sites. Not looking at form guides etc, changing channels when the sports is on and finding a new hobby outside of the addiction.
There are many people who can help you and regardless of what type of gambling it is, its still the same addiction. Once we start we cant stop. If that is the case then there is a problem. Its great you are coming here to address it, stick around, there is help available. Talk to the advisors here and get into the groups here. You can click on support groups at the top of this page which will give you a timetable so long as you have set your location when you signed up and you are logged in, or click on helpline and it will show down the bottom of that page what groups are on right now. All the best and hope to see you stick around. Just for today don’t gamble.

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Well done for coming here that is quite a wonderful post you have written there and you have some awareness of your addiction.
Congratulations on your 45 days. It is the beginning. Keep going. All we can do is just don’t gamble for this day

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I often think of you.. I really miss the days we used to chat over our coffee. I always hope that one day i will see you in a group again. I hope that all is well for you and Danny and i hope that your cats are doing really well, little one eyed Ferrus.. hehe.. hope all is good.

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Its nice to see you post again i often wonder how you are doing, sounds like the cruise had a few hiccups but hope it was enjoyable most of the time.
Happy to see you are not gambling now and sounds like you are always the generous one with your family.
How is your sugar now with the insulin pump?
Im proud of you for not letting FWB in!!! Stand your ground Bettie you are worth it

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Sometimes we expect the worst and sometimes the worst doesn’t end up happening. Deal with it if it happens, if you lose your job, as its not definite yet is it?
Maybe they won’t fire you and all the worry will be for nothing, if they do i think you were hating being there too.. see what happens. I hope it all works out for the best whatever way it works out, i have loved chatting to you over the years at various sites, see what comes lorraine, just wait and see.. you are worth it

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Welcome, it sounds like you have all the right things in place. For me it takes gamblers anonymous meetings, counselling, coming to this site. Its what works for you that stops you gambling.
The greatest step is reaching out for help and knowing we cant do it alone. You are one of the rare ones who actually try to do something about their addiction, what a great start

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I also had the same thoughts as Geordie and i think those of us who have fallen a lot seem to think that too at some point. I am seeing it as a good thing now though, i think its just seeing in reality how it was and how it can be if we keep going back. Whatever happens we are getting back up.. i think thats the point and it takes someone with strength to keep rebuilding.
EVeryoes journey is different i realise and also some people come in to recovery at differing stages, some may have come in at rockbottom some may not till they find rock bottom.
I think its individual as to where we are at in recovery. Some people have stolen others haven’t, some have been in prison others haven’t, some have lost houses, cars, relationships, others haven’t.. i think its all to that point of being absolutely flattened, when we give up the fight. Sometimes being honest and realistic is good i don’t think its ever a bad thing to look at things in reality. You are doing really well Seri, i look forward to seeing you again in groups, don’t give up.. everything is temporary and its good to work through thoughts and feelings if they are negative or positive

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Well done on your gamble free time that is wonderful. It is really a challenge but you are getting there, keep putting one foot in front of the other..

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Cant believe you kept of 20kg that is incredible.. you must really be aware of what you eat and how much etc contains what amount of calories or points etc, that is fantastic, its not often that i hear of people losing the weight and keeping it off. Your recovery is fantastic also, i was always inspired by you and i think its so great you are still here after six years gamble free, well despite one blip but oh how i would love to say i only had one blip in six years, and you moved on instantly from it. Something i could never ever do. If i start I’m gone. So very well done to you on your recovery. Im in awe of people who can stay gamble free long term.
I know you have been having props with hubby but wow what a lengthy marriage, something else I’m in awe of.. i never hear of people being married that long.
I think you’ve done many great things Kathryn and i am so pleased to see you back here. I was also here when Marilee and Nancy and Andrea were all here. Our paths have been very very different yours and mine but the good thing is we are both back. Sort of wish i could say I’ve been gamble free six years too but ummm not the way my journey has gone but think i found a rock bottom that i cant even describe my previous relapse. Very proud of you our K.. thanks for coming back i missed you

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Hey Geordie

I so relate to you i always have and thank god you are here to tell the tale. Geordie we have fallen down so many times but we keep getting back up. Even though i feel over it, i think its a good thing as today i started looking at it differently again.
So we have had to start over a LOT, maybe more than some others. But, we could be out there all the time, we could never try and where would we be. Maybe this is our journey Geordie and we need to just keep trying if its 10 times or 100 i guess we don’t know if the 30th time we fall we may get back up for good.. i started looking at it is better to still try despite whats happened, despite what could come. Its better than giving in to gambling and letting it win and control..
All the best to you geordie, keep posting , so miss your posts.. lovely to see you again here.
Thank god you are ok.. we miss you 🙂

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Come to the groups again when you can, love to see you there and its an awesome way if you have urges to quieten them down.
Well done for posting instead of gambling. Keep going

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