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Minulla oli juuri upea aiheistunto Charlesin kanssa, mikä toimii minulle pakkoilla, jos haluan ulos, jos en pidä sitä salassa. Lähetän tekstiviestin jokaiselle tuntemalleni GA: n jäsenelle ja kerron heille, että ajattelen tätä. Joskus en halua lähettää tuota viestiä, mutta teen sen heti, koska tämä riippuvuus on hyvin salakavala, salaisuuden pitäminen antaa sen märätä. Sen saaminen ulos näyttää heikentävän sitä jotenkin. Minulla on myös kiire! Aloitan heti tehdä jotain keskittymistä vaativaa, toisella viikolla siivosin kaikki vaatteeni, lajittelin laatikot, kaapit ja tein palapelin. Soitan ihmisille ja puhun puhelimessa. Jonkin ajan kuluttua nämä tarpeet häviävät, he eivät voi pysyä 24/7. Jos jatkan asioita ja ruokin myös toipumistani, minun on helpompi ja helpompi taistella näitä haluja vastaan. On vaikea keskellä voimakasta halua ajatella järkevästi. Muistutan tätä itsestäni, kun minulla on sellainen, ja minun on muodostettava yhteys muihin näyttääkseni minulle, kuinka järjetöntä ajattelen. Jonkin ajan kuluttua, kun olen kiireinen, ymmärrän, hei, halu on kadonnut. Silloin olen niin tyytyväinen itseeni ja tunnen oloni paljon vahvemmaksi. Ajan asettaminen halun ja toiminnan väliin on myös temppu minulle. Ei toimi heti, vaan venyttää sitä, odottaa puoli tuntia, sitten toinen, ei, menen vasta lounaan jälkeen .. en mene seuraavaan tuntiin .. vähitellen ne haalistuvat. Kannattaa odottaa. Kiitos mahtavasta aiheryhmästä tänään Charles P.

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Właśnie odbyłem wspaniałą sesję tematyczną z Charlesem, co działa na mnie z popędami, jeśli wyzbędę się popędu, jeśli nie zachowam tego w tajemnicy. Piszę do każdego członka GA, którego znam i mówię im, że tak właśnie myślę. Czasami nie chcę wysyłać tej wiadomości, ale robię to natychmiast, ponieważ to uzależnienie jest bardzo podstępne, a utrzymywanie go w tajemnicy pozwala mu się zaognić. Wydaje się, że wydostanie się na zewnątrz to jakoś je osłabia. Ja też jestem zajęty! Od razu zaczynam robić coś, co wymaga koncentracji, w innym tygodniu wyczyściłam wszystkie ubrania, posortowałam szuflady, szafki, ułożyłam puzzle. Dzwonię do ludzi i rozmawiam przez telefon. Po pewnym czasie te pragnienia zanikają, nie mogą pozostać 24 godziny na dobę. Jeśli będę dalej robił różne rzeczy, a także karmił mój powrót do zdrowia, łatwiej mi będzie walczyć z tymi popędami. W środku intensywnego pragnienia racjonalnego myślenia jest trudno. Przypominam sobie o tym, kiedy mam taki i muszę połączyć się z innymi, aby pokazać mi, jak irracjonalnie myślę. Po pewnym czasie bycia zajętym, zdaję sobie sprawę, hej, ta chęć zniknęła. Jestem wtedy z siebie bardzo zadowolony i czuję się znacznie silniejszy. Dla mnie też sztuczką jest odkładanie czasu między chęcią a działaniem. Nie działam od razu, ale rozciągam, czekam pół godziny, potem kolejne, nie, nie pójdę do obiadu.. nie pójdę przez następną godzinę.. stopniowo zanikają. Warto poczekać. Dziękuję za wspaniałą grupę tematyczną dzisiaj Charles P

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У меня только что была замечательная тематическая сессия с Чарльзом, и у меня есть побуждения, если я их не хочу, если я не буду держать это в секрете. Я отправляю сообщение каждому члену GA, которого знаю, и говорю им, что это то, о чем я думаю. Иногда я не хочу отправлять это сообщение, но делаю это немедленно, потому что эта зависимость очень коварна, и сохранение ее в секрете позволяет ей гноиться. Кажется, что его выход как-то ослабляет его. Я тоже занимаюсь! Я немедленно начинаю делать то, что требует концентрации, на прошлой неделе я вычистил всю свою одежду, рассортировал ящики, шкафы, собрал головоломку. Я звоню людям и разговариваю по телефону. Через какое-то время эти побуждения исчезают, они не могут оставаться 24 часа в сутки, 7 дней в неделю. Если я буду продолжать что-то делать, а также подпитывать свое выздоровление, мне будет легче и легче бороться с этими побуждениями. Трудно мыслить рационально посреди сильного побуждения. Я напоминаю себе об этом, когда у меня есть один и мне нужно подключиться к другим, чтобы показать мне, насколько иррационально я думаю. Через некоторое время, когда я был занят, я понимаю, что это желание прошло. Тогда я так доволен собой и чувствую себя намного сильнее. Уловить время между желанием и действием – это тоже для меня уловка. Не действовать мгновенно, а растягивать, ждать полчаса, потом еще, нет, я не пойду раньше после обеда … я не пойду в течение следующего часа … постепенно они исчезают. Ожидание того стоит. Спасибо за отличную тематическую группу сегодня Charles P

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I always love your broken pot analogy. I love the things you post they always get me thinking. Thank you for your post to me and thank you for still being here inspiring others with your thought provoking posts.. stay strong Kin.. see you soon

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Well done for coming here it is a huge step in helping yourself, you are one of the few in fact, many never reach out for help.
Although i don’t sports bet there are many here who do, what i have heard helps them too is banning from bookies, banning online from betting sites. Not looking at form guides etc, changing channels when the sports is on and finding a new hobby outside of the addiction.
There are many people who can help you and regardless of what type of gambling it is, its still the same addiction. Once we start we cant stop. If that is the case then there is a problem. Its great you are coming here to address it, stick around, there is help available. Talk to the advisors here and get into the groups here. You can click on support groups at the top of this page which will give you a timetable so long as you have set your location when you signed up and you are logged in, or click on helpline and it will show down the bottom of that page what groups are on right now. All the best and hope to see you stick around. Just for today don’t gamble.

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Well done for coming here that is quite a wonderful post you have written there and you have some awareness of your addiction.
Congratulations on your 45 days. It is the beginning. Keep going. All we can do is just don’t gamble for this day

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I often think of you.. I really miss the days we used to chat over our coffee. I always hope that one day i will see you in a group again. I hope that all is well for you and Danny and i hope that your cats are doing really well, little one eyed Ferrus.. hehe.. hope all is good.

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Its nice to see you post again i often wonder how you are doing, sounds like the cruise had a few hiccups but hope it was enjoyable most of the time.
Happy to see you are not gambling now and sounds like you are always the generous one with your family.
How is your sugar now with the insulin pump?
Im proud of you for not letting FWB in!!! Stand your ground Bettie you are worth it

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Sometimes we expect the worst and sometimes the worst doesn’t end up happening. Deal with it if it happens, if you lose your job, as its not definite yet is it?
Maybe they won’t fire you and all the worry will be for nothing, if they do i think you were hating being there too.. see what happens. I hope it all works out for the best whatever way it works out, i have loved chatting to you over the years at various sites, see what comes lorraine, just wait and see.. you are worth it

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Welcome, it sounds like you have all the right things in place. For me it takes gamblers anonymous meetings, counselling, coming to this site. Its what works for you that stops you gambling.
The greatest step is reaching out for help and knowing we cant do it alone. You are one of the rare ones who actually try to do something about their addiction, what a great start

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I also had the same thoughts as Geordie and i think those of us who have fallen a lot seem to think that too at some point. I am seeing it as a good thing now though, i think its just seeing in reality how it was and how it can be if we keep going back. Whatever happens we are getting back up.. i think thats the point and it takes someone with strength to keep rebuilding.
EVeryoes journey is different i realise and also some people come in to recovery at differing stages, some may have come in at rockbottom some may not till they find rock bottom.
I think its individual as to where we are at in recovery. Some people have stolen others haven’t, some have been in prison others haven’t, some have lost houses, cars, relationships, others haven’t.. i think its all to that point of being absolutely flattened, when we give up the fight. Sometimes being honest and realistic is good i don’t think its ever a bad thing to look at things in reality. You are doing really well Seri, i look forward to seeing you again in groups, don’t give up.. everything is temporary and its good to work through thoughts and feelings if they are negative or positive

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Well done on your gamble free time that is wonderful. It is really a challenge but you are getting there, keep putting one foot in front of the other..

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Cant believe you kept of 20kg that is incredible.. you must really be aware of what you eat and how much etc contains what amount of calories or points etc, that is fantastic, its not often that i hear of people losing the weight and keeping it off. Your recovery is fantastic also, i was always inspired by you and i think its so great you are still here after six years gamble free, well despite one blip but oh how i would love to say i only had one blip in six years, and you moved on instantly from it. Something i could never ever do. If i start I’m gone. So very well done to you on your recovery. Im in awe of people who can stay gamble free long term.
I know you have been having props with hubby but wow what a lengthy marriage, something else I’m in awe of.. i never hear of people being married that long.
I think you’ve done many great things Kathryn and i am so pleased to see you back here. I was also here when Marilee and Nancy and Andrea were all here. Our paths have been very very different yours and mine but the good thing is we are both back. Sort of wish i could say I’ve been gamble free six years too but ummm not the way my journey has gone but think i found a rock bottom that i cant even describe my previous relapse. Very proud of you our K.. thanks for coming back i missed you

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Hey Geordie

I so relate to you i always have and thank god you are here to tell the tale. Geordie we have fallen down so many times but we keep getting back up. Even though i feel over it, i think its a good thing as today i started looking at it differently again.
So we have had to start over a LOT, maybe more than some others. But, we could be out there all the time, we could never try and where would we be. Maybe this is our journey Geordie and we need to just keep trying if its 10 times or 100 i guess we don’t know if the 30th time we fall we may get back up for good.. i started looking at it is better to still try despite whats happened, despite what could come. Its better than giving in to gambling and letting it win and control..
All the best to you geordie, keep posting , so miss your posts.. lovely to see you again here.
Thank god you are ok.. we miss you 🙂

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Come to the groups again when you can, love to see you there and its an awesome way if you have urges to quieten them down.
Well done for posting instead of gambling. Keep going

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