[Northerner]

It’s great to hear such positive stuff here thank you.no we had already decided handing money over us not an option. The plan is he pays us his rent money then in order to protect it we hand it over on payment date. At least that should keep a roof over his head. However if he goes back on that he’s on his own. I think I worry that he will end up without a place to stay and no mobile phone and contact will be lost.

He has always been head in the clouds about saving money and things he will do – lots of grand plans. However I’m trying to get him to achieve things just one day at a time. Think if I keep to my plan of not giving money where will he end up. Thanks

[Northerner]

Thanks for that I am trying to see some positives in his situation. He has an older sister who achieves with sheer hard work. They both lost their dad age 9 and 7. We got through it despite his existing difficult nature – the world owes him! But I remarried and had another daughter he loves. The relationship with me and his step dad has never been easy and he was hard work as a teen. But he got to uni in Newcastle has got a degree and works hard at a job that is doing for now but isn’t the aim. I feel worse as he’s not nearby but we only often rubbed along when he was home. I think he’s lonely and bored which I am sure doesn’t help. I know I may have to cut loose at some point but fear how things will go for him. He says he feels depressed and worthless. Just unsure how to help from here if/when his plans with us fail. Wish I could scoop him up and drop him somewhere remote where only food and shelter are provided and he could learn how to love life. Thanks

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