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Personally I don’t see you as an unbearable male member. What made you say that? Tenacious maybe. That’s a positive. Knowing what you want and and how to get there without causing harm all positive stuff. Fine qualities. So What’s the down side of that?
Forget the stocks thing as we have discussed that. Wrong for me but can see others can have an element of control over it, according to the emotional shifts of the market and it does Move on emotions when we think about it, fear, dread, optimistic, certainty etc.
I am in the same line of business as you, different industry but we are both contractors. I was fully employed until about 14 months ago so now I am on the breadline and be,ow the poverty line. . Then I was a very high earner. It actually fed my gambling. If I had once ounce of sensible ness she. I worked away from home for 17mo this and not gambling but coming home and gambling, all my debts would be paid off. I am someone who even my family sees as capable of very high earning potential, if I got a six month job tomorrow at my usual rate, I would it need to go bankrupt. In 2 to 3 years all my debt would be paid off. However, I am 60 on. I day and whether I like it or not most of the employers market, it all, view me as a less attractive employment option. But what I am saying Jonny, is that I can see how you are very capable of paying off quickly according to the daily rate you earn and for me what particular tax method is used. The tax laws have chan3d here and high daily rates have been clamled down on tax wise and some jobs pay on,y half of what they used to now. So what I am saying is that Laura is one of the wisest people I have ever met! (What she says in her thread)Laura is echoing what I wanted to also,say too. I also had no doubt that geordies,original thread to you was attaching in nature. I did not understand why. But also your response was pretty dreadful, somewhat arrogant ego defence driven and pretty indefensible. So the girls here think you were both wrong…. but geordie, why did you feel,the need to attack jonny in the way that you did and call him a liar? I don’t think he is a liar at all.
So,will have a read. What I can say is that I hooted with laughter when I read your ab c question. So funny!
Very reflective and I liked reading it. And you are right, we are all different. .Personally, I like that you are getting your control over finances. For some CGs, someone may need to hold their finances for a lifetime. For some they won’t and control will gradually return. We are all individuals and rule books whether it is rigidly following GA principles or something else are meant sometimes to be broken. Even tried and tested rules will s etimes be completely wrong for an individual. That is what makes us so great and unique. There will never be another person like you or like me. How amazing is that?
I really get your stance on control of money as initially when I get any money for work I will also hand over control. I have to realise and own that I have not been good with money in my lifetime, initially because of a lack ofit and then having a lot but never spending it on some of the things that matter, ie home. I travelled a lot, gave away a lot to family, bought clothes or studied with it. I was pleased to hear that you had bought clothes and posted about it. Because as part of my recovery plan devised with idi, self esteem is one of the headers and feeling good about ourselves in some natty threads is very positive.
Sometimes I think we can be addicted to debt. I personally was bombarded some time ago by bitcoins, stocks and buying software to play with stocks. These guys never give up. . I looked at this and for me it was one hundred per cent gambling, so I chose not to have that in my life. I also see that the opposite viewpoint can also be true. I saw a programme about a young Afro Caribbean guy from humble origins who had made millions and just sits at his pc for one hour a day buying and selling stocks. I was in awe of what he had achieved. God, that would bea great life. But for me that is too like gambling. I would quickly lose control, but that is me. That is the thing about viewpoints. Two opposing viewpoints can both be right for that person holding the view. It is about respecting someone’s view but also being mindful that as Laura says, holding money may sometimes leave us a tad vulnerable if life should throw us an emotional curveball. One of the first things I learned in GA and here is that no emotional upset or pleasure, no matter what, is an excuse to go and gamble. When in action for me, it was always an excuse, the bigger the emotional upset the bigger the splurge. I used this as an excuse all the time.
Anyhoo great post jonny and hope to see you post soon. As a professional, I can see that you do self reflect, which is the part of any conscious persons emotional toolkit, and have good insight.Jonny, my post was not a criticism. Sometimes we can be challenged in our views on things and the way we express them. and that is a good thing although we may not see it at the time. Sometimes we need to reflect on things, what we say and why we say it. . Noone is nasty in here, quite the opposite and we are all equals. Those that post on here a lot really need the support as certainly for me, I am up the creek without a paddle. You are well I to your recovery and not having a daily battle for Healthfood and regaining all that was lost. You are liked and respected on this site. The forum has been a strong support and often the only one for me. I do t k ow what I would do without it.