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  • in reply to: Ne odustajem! #131539
    Monica1
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    Da, gubimo pojam o tome koliko smo potrošili, učinili to toliko puta i upoznati s osjećajem da se ne želimo ni probuditi. Koliko ste savjetovanja imali i je li u tome bilo nešto što je pokrenulo zadnju sesiju? Ako seanse ne rade, možete li promijeniti savjetnika? Imala sam dvije sjednice savjetovanja koje uopće nisu uspjele i trebala sam tražiti promjenu savjetnika, ali bila sam previše zabrinuta zbog osjećaja savjetnika. Ponekad jednostavno ne rade i vrte se u krug. Ponekad savjetnik nema životno iskustvo Da bi nas shvatio ili ne razumio, osim ako savjetnik za kockanje ili ovisnosti nije obučio savjetnika. Svaka čast što ste bili uz svoju unuku i nadam se da će joj uskoro biti bolje. Mališani nas mogu uplašiti koliko mogu oboljeti, ali se jednako brzo odbiju. Osim samozabrane, je li ovo bio i obiteljski posjet casinu? Zna li vaša obitelj koliko je ozbiljna ova ovisnost? I da ste kompulzivni kockar i da nikada ne biste trebali kročiti u kasino? Postoji li netko tko bi vam mogao ograničiti pristup novcu ili imati unaprijed plaćenu debitnu karticu s dodatkom koji vam otežava kockanje? U mojoj ovisnosti od pet i pol godina, moja obitelj, odnosno moja odrasla djeca tek su nedavno počeli shvaćati koliko je ta ovisnost ozbiljna i po život opasna. I sada ih podržavaju. Doslovce je trajalo dok nisam na rubu samoubojstva da to dobiju. Shvaća li tvoja obitelj Liz? Proći ćeš kroz ovu Liz i to je zaista jedan po jedan dan.

    in reply to: Nu renunț! #134348
    Monica1
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    Da, pierdem evidența cât de mult cheltuim, am făcut asta de atâtea ori și suntem familiarizați cu acel sentiment de a nu dori să ne trezim și noi. Câte sesiuni de consiliere ați avut și a existat ceva în ceea ce a declanșat ultima sesiune? Dacă sesiunile nu funcționează, puteți schimba consilierul? Am avut două sesiuni de consiliere care nu au funcționat deloc și ar fi trebuit să cer schimb de consilier, dar eram prea îngrijorat de sentimentele consilierilor. Uneori pur și simplu nu funcționează și se rotesc în cercuri. Uneori, consilierul nu are experiența de viață pentru a ne obține sau nu înțelege cg, cu excepția cazului în care un consilier instruit în jocuri de noroc sau dependențe. Bravo pentru că ai fost acolo pentru nepoata ta și sper să se îmbunătățească în curând. Cei mici ne pot speria cu cât de bolnavi se pot îmbolnăvi, dar se întorc la fel de repede. Pe lângă autointerzicere, a fost aceasta o vizită de familie la cazinou? Știi familia dumneavoastră cât de gravă este această dependență? Și că ești un jucător compulsiv și nu ar trebui să pui niciodată piciorul într-un cazinou? Există cineva care vă poate ajuta să vă limitați accesul la bani sau să aveți un card de debit preplătit cu o indemnizație care vă face dificilă pariul? În dependența mea de cinci ani și jumătate, familia mea, adică copiii mei mari, au început de curând să înțeleagă cât de gravă și amenințătoare este viața această dependență. Și acum susțin. A trecut literalmente până când sunt la un pas de sinucidere pentru ca ei să o obțină. Familia ta o primește Liz? Vei trece peste Și peste Liz și este într-adevăr o zi la rând.

    in reply to: Nem adom fel! #118791
    Monica1
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    Igen, elveszítjük a nyomunkat, hogy mennyit költünk, annyiszor megtettük ezt, és ismerjük azt az érzést, hogy nem akarunk felébredni. Hány tanácsadást tartott, és volt -e valami abban, ami kiváltotta az utolsó ülést? Ha az ülések nem működnek, cserélhet tanácsadót? Volt két sok tanácsadó ülésem, amelyek egyáltalán nem működtek, és kérnem kellett volna tanácsadó cserét, de túlságosan aggódtam a tanácsadók érzése miatt. Néha egyszerűen nem működnek, és körbejárják a köröket. Néha a tanácsadónak nincs meg az élettapasztalata ahhoz, hogy megszerezzen minket, vagy nem érti a cg -t, hacsak nem szerencsejáték vagy függőségek képzett tanácsadója. Jó, hogy ott lehettél az unokádnak, és remélem hamarosan jobban lesz. A kicsik megijeszthetnek minket attól, hogy mennyire betegek lehetnek, de ugyanolyan gyorsan visszapattannak. Az önbetiltás mellett ez egy családi látogatás volt a kaszinóban? A családja tudja, mennyire súlyos ez a függőség? És hogy kényszeres szerencsejátékos vagy, és soha ne tegye be a lábát egy kaszinóba? Van valaki, aki segíthet korlátozni a pénzhez való hozzáférését, vagy rendelkezik előre fizetett betéti kártyájával, amely megnehezíti a szerencsejátékot? Öt és fél éves függőségem során a családom, azaz a felnőtt gyermekeim csak nemrég kezdték megérteni, mennyire súlyos és életveszélyes ez a függőség. És most támogatnak. Szó szerint eltartott, amíg az öngyilkosság küszöbére nem értem, hogy megszerezzék. A családod érti Liz? Túl fogsz jutni ezen a Lizen, és ez tényleg egy nap.

    in reply to: 888 refund #42038
    Monica1
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    Really pleased. Enjoy it but not on gambling!

    in reply to: The second 100 days #39858
    Monica1
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    Well, groups yesterday were quiet in the evening. No one in 10 or 12 group. I guess people are busy preparing for Xmas. I have no preparation at all as I have nothing. I feel completely excluded from life. This weighs heavily on me. Feeling sleepy today. The only positive has been a letter re a meeting in January for council tax. This delays things I am hoping.

    in reply to: I was here #36365
    Monica1
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    You and I have that in common. Part of my descent into gambling amongst about 10 other reasons was chronic pain so I know what that feels like with bilateral frozen shoulders post surgery. Took 2 to 3 years for the pain to subside and nothing helped at the time. I also had spinal shingles in 2003 which was exceptionally painful so know full well how both chronic and acute pain can really get us down. You are not wasting your life at all LAura. This site is all the better for you and when we come here we are in quite desperate straits so a helpful word which is insightful and supportive makes a big difference. Have you tried a tens machine? I guess that is the first port of call for back pain. Even though I s, very frustrated at my situation, another part says it’s ok to rest, it’s ok to do very little sometimes, particularly when we have been very active in Life previously. Hope you have a good nights sleep.

    in reply to: I’m not giving up! #40255
    Monica1
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    So sorry to hear that you have gambled with the usual impact for a CG. Are you aware what triggered it? I have been through many stops and starts so know how this can happen. What was different for me this time, aside from the total destruction it caused, was that I realised there is never never any excuse or reason to wake the sleeping monster lurking in the corner. No matter what we are going through waking up the monster will only make things worse. I so know this and I know that feeling in the pit my stomach when we chase and it just takes. I think they are programmed todo this, seen it so many times. It’s like a light switches on, Cg here, just take! Good luck Liz, it was a blip, that’s all. We never win, never can.

    in reply to: Pes etmiyorum! #121748
    Monica1
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    Bir CG için olağan etkiyle kumar oynadığınızı duyduğuma çok üzüldüm. Neyin tetiklediğini biliyor musun? Birçok duraktan ve başlangıçtan geçtim, bunun nasıl olabileceğini biliyorum. Bu sefer benim için farklı olan, neden olduğu toplam yıkımın yanı sıra, köşede gizlenen uyuyan canavarı uyandırmak için asla bir bahane veya sebep olmadığını fark etmemdi. Ne yaşarsak yaşayalım, canavarı uyandırmak işleri daha da kötüleştirecek. Bunu çok iyi biliyorum ve kovaladığımızda midemdeki çukurdaki hissi biliyorum ve sadece sürüyor. Sanırım bunu yapmaya programlanmışlar, bunu defalarca görmüşler. Sanki bir ışık yanıyor, Cg burada, sadece al! İyi şanslar Liz, küçük bir olaydı, hepsi bu. Asla kazanamayız, asla kazanamayız.

    in reply to: Ne odustajem! #131537
    Monica1
    Participant

    Žao mi je što čujete da ste se kockali s uobičajenim utjecajem za CG. Jeste li svjesni što ga je pokrenulo? Prošao sam mnogo zaustavljanja i startova pa znaj kako se to može dogoditi. Ono što mi je ovaj put bilo drugačije, osim potpunog uništenja koje je prouzročilo, bilo je to što sam shvatio da nikada nema opravdanja ili razloga probuditi usnulo čudovište koje vreba u kutu. Bez obzira na sve kroz što prolazimo buđenje čudovišta samo će pogoršati stvari. Znam to i znam onaj osjećaj u trbuhu kad jurimo i jednostavno treba. Mislim da su programirani za ovo, vidjeli su to toliko puta. Kao da se pali svjetlo, Cg ovdje, samo uzmi! Sretno Liz, to je bila greška, to je sve. Nikada ne pobjeđujemo, nikada ne možemo.

    in reply to: Nu renunț! #134346
    Monica1
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    Îmi pare rău să auzi că ai jucat cu impactul obișnuit pentru un CG. Ești conștient de ceea ce a declanșat-o? Am trecut prin numeroase opriri și începeți, așa că știți cum se poate întâmpla acest lucru. Ceea ce a fost diferit pentru mine de data aceasta, în afară de distrugerea totală pe care a provocat-o, a fost că mi-am dat seama că nu există niciodată vreo scuză sau motiv pentru a trezi monstrul adormit care se ascunde în colț. Indiferent prin ce trecem, trezirea monstrului nu va face decât să înrăutățească lucrurile. Știu așa ceva și știu sentimentul ăla în groapă în stomacul meu când urmărim și este nevoie. Cred că sunt programați pentru asta, au văzut-o de atâtea ori. Este ca și cum o lumină se aprinde, Cg aici, ia doar! Noroc Liz, a fost o clipă, atât. Nu câștigăm niciodată, nu putem niciodată.

    in reply to: Nem adom fel! #118789
    Monica1
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    Sajnálattal hallom, hogy a CG szokásos hatásával játszott. Tudja, mi váltotta ki? Sok megállást és indulást megéltem, így tudom, hogyan történhet ez. Számomra ezúttal más volt, eltekintve az általa okozott teljes pusztítástól, hogy rájöttem, hogy soha nincs mentség vagy ok arra, hogy felébresszem a sarokban megbújó alvó szörnyeteget. Függetlenül attól, hogy min megyünk keresztül, a szörny felébresztése csak ront a helyzeten. Annyira tudom ezt, és tudom ezt az érzést a gödörben a gyomrom, amikor üldözünk, és ez csak úgy tart. Szerintem erre vannak programozva, annyiszor látták. Mintha bekapcsolna a lámpa, Cg itt, csak vegye! Sok sikert Liz, ez volt a hiba, ennyi. Soha nem nyerünk, soha nem tudunk.

    in reply to: Jien ma naqtax qalbi! #110019
    Monica1
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    Hekk jiddispjaċini li tisma 'li lgħabt bl-impatt tas-soltu għal CG. Int konxju dak li qajjimha? Jien għaddejt minn ħafna waqfiet u tibda sabiex tkun taf kif dan jista 'jiġri. Dak li kien differenti għalija din id-darba, apparti mill-qerda totali li kkawża, kien li indunajt li qatt ma hemm skuża jew raġuni biex tqajjem il-mostru rieqed li qiegħed jaħbi fir-rokna. Ma jimpurtax minn dak li għaddejjin minnu meta nqumu l-mostru jaggrava biss l-affarijiet. Jien hekk naf dan u naf dik is-sensazzjoni fil-ħofra ta 'l-istonku tiegħi meta niġġru u jieħu biss. Naħseb li huma pprogrammati għal dan kollu, rawh ħafna drabi. Qisu dawl jixgħel, Cg hawn, ħu! Awguri Liz, kienet blip, dak kollu. Aħna qatt ma nirbħu, qatt ma nistgħu.

    in reply to: The second 100 days #39857
    Monica1
    Participant

    I ate well today. Pete cooked spaghetti Bol with greens and had two cakes as well. Plus a cheese sarnie for a late lunch. So,i appreciate this. I really do!
    One of the things my readings have convinced me of still is that there is a lot wrong in some of the new age teachings I have learned.

    in reply to: The second 100 days #39856
    Monica1
    Participant

    I study scripture. Earlier today I ask some questions of my higher power, mostly about what Laura raises and related to suffering and the seeming absence of God in that. Of course, this ultimately relates to the suffering of Christ on the cross and I have always had an issue as to why he was allowed to suffer so much. The answer is that it was preordained and prophesied, and related to the Old Testament atonement for of a blood sacrifice. I read the teachings of St Augustus and Thomas Aquinas who also asked the same question, ie was there another way? I am still not convinced there wasn’t another way but he was six hours on the cross and I thought it was longer. For those who don’t keep religion, my apologies for writing about it. I am someone who in life has always been a seeker of truth, so I would quite like an answer to some of these questions. I feel like I am getting some answers, not all. Well, in the middle of all my reading, I am invited out for coffee by the Jehovah’s Witness on Friday so I agree to go. I am interested in people’s perspectives on all of this.

    in reply to: Strong despite weakness #42060
    Monica1
    Participant

    Well done on your gamble free time and for sharing your story. You have a lot going for you, a well paid job, discharge from bankruptcy, credit in a good place and a wife who supports You. We all thought the slots were stupid, I got to 54 before I started playing them and was very quickly hooked. Have you considered handing over the finances to your wife? With everything is god place,you need those barriers in place to stop this insidious addiction from raising its ugly head again the sleeping monster…. I can think of nothing,worse than to get into a good place financially and then start the destruction all over again, which I have done in the past. And if you start again, it will drag you further and further down to a place you cannot get out of, prison, insanity or prison. It doesn’t care. One thing we know on this site is that you cannot do this journey alone and will need support either from GA or counselling. Remember, a compulsive gambler never wins…

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