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Yes, Very behind everywhere else. There has to be agencies that can help in the country somewhere?

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Yes, on looking up Croatia (is that where you hail from) they do seem to be behind the rest of Europe in the management of personal debt. However, there must be debt help agencies that you can contact? You say your creditors had no solutions so what was the point of your calls to them? The pay us, can’t pay conversation is a pointless one for everyone.
I would do your income and expenditure and see what you have left to pay your bills, offer lower payments to,your creditors. I sat and wrote every single debt down, and all my income plus what I could cut out of my expenditure without too much hassle, subscriptions, what was the most important to tackle first ie those where you lose things such as a home, a car, your liberty etc.

[Monica1]

How r u today?

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Yes, from what you describe you are a CG or a problem gambler. However, that is not who you are, it is a destructive behaviour we all took on for whatever reason, and you know, you can emerge from it a better person. Recovery is possible. I think all CGs understand isolation and loneliness as we all have the propensity to isolate ourselves. If you cannot tell your family how about joining us in the group chats we have every evening or join charles new members groups on a Monday and Thursday evening. You would be Most welcome and it is a supportive group. One thing we all know is that we cannot beat this addiction alone and I would recommend getting counselling support to help support you and understand the triggers and reasons why you gambled so compulsively in the first place. There are always underlying reasons.
Some of us have done the gma women’s programme which we all found helpful and remain gambling free, for me 2 years and eight months. It is possible to break even the worst gambling habit. First, we have to accept that we are powerless over gambling, once we accept that then we can make the moves to stop and recover. Keep posting and I hope to see you in the chat some time.

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Obrigado pela sua postagem no meu tópico. Sim, a Irlanda lidou com isso melhor do que o Reino Unido. O Reino Unido demorou a fechar, lembro-me do festival de Cheltenham acontecendo e várias pessoas adoeceram lá, demoraram para fazer o teste, problemas de logística de EPI e a situação do lar de idosos. sai como um escândalo quando tudo é revelado. Você pode estar certo sobre a dor de garganta, ela estava ausente hoje, mas ela vem e vai. Espero conversar mais tarde, acabei de sentir sua falta ontem.

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Thanks for your post on my thread. Yes, Ireland have dealt with it better than the U.K. The U.K. have been slow to shut up shop, I recall the Cheltenham festival going ahead and a number of people got sick there, slow to test, PPE logistics issues and the nursing home situation will come out as a scandal when all is revealed.
You May be right about the sore throat, it was absent today
but it comes and goes.
Hope to chat later, just missed you yesterday.

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Mulțumesc pentru postarea pe firul meu. Da, Irlanda s-a descurcat mai bine decât Marea Britanie Marea Britanie a încetinit să închidă magazinul, îmi amintesc că festivalul de la Cheltenham a continuat și un număr de oameni s-au îmbolnăvit acolo, au fost încet să testeze, problemele de logistică a EIP și situația căminelor ieși ca un scandal când totul este dezvăluit. Ați putea avea dreptate în ceea ce privește durerea în gât, a lipsit astăzi, dar vine și pleacă. Sper să vorbesc mai târziu, tocmai ți-a fost dor de tine ieri.

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Bedankt voor je bericht in mijn topic. Ja, Ierland heeft het beter aangepakt dan het VK. Het VK was traag met het sluiten van de winkel, ik herinner me dat het Cheltenham-festival doorging en een aantal mensen werd daar ziek, traag om te testen, PBM-logistieke problemen en de situatie in het verpleeghuis zal komen uit als een schandaal wanneer alles wordt onthuld. Je hebt misschien gelijk over de zere keel, die was vandaag afwezig, maar die komt en gaat. Ik hoop je later te kletsen, heb je gisteren gemist.

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When we first come into recovery we often hit our own rock bottom whatever that may be. For me it was my home being repossessed and a committal to prison notice for non payment of uk council tax. Neither of these things happened but they were under threat for some time. I was honest with both about why this had happened. And why I had gotten into the huge financial mess. The debts were not written off and I am still paying them. I was also doing this while quite ill at the time caused through the stresses of gambling. Unfortunately I had to face the consequences and I could not delay these. It was painful, the worst case scenario I was threatened with didn’t happen and I now am ahead with my rent and have a payment plan for the council tax. Lesson learned.
It is difficult facing these issues but face them we must. Are you sure your bank account will be frozen? In the U.K. that only happens when you file for bankruptcy.

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Firstly, well done on coming on to the forum and welcome. The thing with gambling is that it is a vicious cycle of win lose lose lose win a little and before we know it we are broke and all of our savings and salary are thrown into gambling. The depression aftermath of massive losses lasts far Longer than any win with the depression and tears. Compulsive gambling g is a progressive illness with a very long trap door to a bottomless pit ending up for some in prison, insanity and suicide. We have to stop that cycle and work as hard on our recovery as we did in gambling. With losses, the only way is acceptance, within yourself. The money is gone, you won’t be getting it back and trying to only perpetuates the horrible cycle. Compulsive gamblers never win, we have to accept that we are powerless over gambling.
Have you been to GA? Meetings are not happening during lockdown but they have online groups. Try going to Charles facilitated groups on this site, there are particular ones for new members on a Monday and Thursday evening.
Look, for me, and I am much older than you, it will also take me ten years to climb out of the gambling mess I created. I accept I created a mess and am powerless over gambling. I accept the losses. I am a compulsive gambler which means I can never ever win. But you can start to become gf, try and get some on line counselling during the lockdown, there are always reasons, sometimes many, why we became a compulsive gambler. We also cannot do this on our own, we need support.

Restrict access to gambling, are you able to do that? Since there isn’t any sport happening right now, I imagine it would be fairly easy to do that?
I am now two years eight months gf. It is possible to be happy in recovery and it is possible to not worry too much or have regret about the massive losses and the debts. What matters is what we do today and keep doing one day at a time.

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Woke up usual time and then fell asleep till 11am. Most unusual. I am finding I have a sore throat in the morning, goes during the day and comes back nighttime. What’s that about?
Listened to joel osteen Easter service which was very inspiring and started a springtime Qi gong course. I find I have so much to do during the day I don’t do all of it. Now that’s strange in these times a.though I would like to get back to normal although I don’t think normal will ever be quite the same again as pre corona. My son cooked lunch,pulled pork and mash and I cooked a roast in the evening. My son and I fell out for the second time today over the same subject as previously. My son has a sharp Scorpio tongue and can say hurtful things. It upset me and when Pete called he was very sweet and listened and was supportive. My son and I made it up after an hour or two. We do seem to have flare ups and then he is kindness itself after we make up. He cleaned up the kitchen before I did and now we have the bonus if the dishwasher I bought and he plumbed in. He has done so much in the house and I know he gets stir crazy but sometimes I do feel usurped out of my own space. I am natural.y untidy, for example when cooking I poured a saucepan of swede into the colander and completely forgot to put it over the sink and half of the water
went over the floor. Dyspraxia I think they call it. I had to really focus tonite doing creamed cavolo Nero with spinach and creamed swede. My spatial awareness isn’t great and never has been. I am awful at design, better with concepts and words. I just make a mess. I make A mess cleaning up a mess.
My daughter rang for another small loan for food which I did.

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Idi is right, you won’t get any money on here so you should stop asking. It isn’t going to happen. And I would question as to why you are persisting in asking? Asking problem gamblers so save you by giving money is not a good idea and we all know the desperation that drives us to do that. But it will not help you one bit, and we all know that. You are the one that needs to save your own life, and take responsibility for where you are right now, this means not looking for bail outs.
Many of us in here have built up huge debts, far more than your own, you have a big plus in your favour in that you have a good job which is a massive plus. You can recover your financial position and as for five or ten years to get straight, welcome to my world, ten years and I am much older than you. Some of us who hit rock bottom did lose our jobs in the process. In relation to your creditors if you admit to a gambling problem they have to listen and they will give you more time, we have all been in the same boat and like idi that is what I have found.
So, face the hard truth, and accept it, you have a gambling problem and seek out a good counsellor who can help you to examine why you are gambling in the way you have been, there are always underlying reasons. Do you have a GA you can go to?
I wish you well, and please stop asking for money.

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Yes, I read that today, it is from a well known thorn in the side of this Government. He is very vocal but what he is saying is true.
This morning got a full blown gut attack, first in 40 days. That will teach me to go way off diet over the past week. Back to it again. Takes me rest of day to get over it.
Positives today, feeling lazy did a bit of coursework early evening
Got onto Ocado website after waiting 50 mins and got a delivery slot, that’s the first in 4 weeks but they r charging 7 quid for delivery.
Pete came by on his bike and we spoke out of the window. That cheered me up.

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I find the hello fresh recipes, whilst very nice, are quite calorific. But my guts are much better now without the long work days and I find I can eat things I never used to be able to in small amounts. There was one brill recipe that tastes yum which is pasta in blue cheese sauce. May post the recipe.

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Mi se pare că rețetele proaspete salut, deși sunt foarte drăguțe, sunt destul de calorice. Dar curajul meu este mult mai bun acum fără zilele lungi de muncă și consider că pot mânca lucruri pe care nu le-am putut obține niciodată în cantități mici. A existat o rețetă strălucitoare care gustă yum, care este pasta în sos de brânză albastră. Poate posta rețeta.

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