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I posted a response and the site was then down for maintenance so lost it. Annoying. Thanks for your post on my thread. Yep, the teeth issue has a lot to do with the cigs but I have had lifelong problems since I was 7, so good that I hve kept on to them for this long although they are on their last knockings.
I am really pleased you were able to sell some things, that is good, you have had so much stuff to sell, reminds me of me as a bit of a compulsive shopper although with much more control now over that than previously.
I very rarely wear make up as I am allergic to most of it. I think a bit of lipgloss and a good moisturiser go a long way, I have never really been one for makeup and never really missed it. I think it is all a bit of a Palava. If I wear foundation I come out in spots so best to leave skin clear and my eyes itch and stick together with mascara lol.
Keep.going Liz it will get better. We have to persist with the recovery programme because it is the only way forward.
I did two of Charles groups last night now although I am still awake late. I find the support invaluable so when you get your internet back, you should try Charles groups for peer group support. I find I have to keep seeking support to keep on track.One of the things that recovery has done, and I know that idi will also back this up is that the things we have let go of, ie clothes, hair, appearance etc come to the foreground a bit and we consciously do things to improve all of that. No matter what age we are we can make an effort with what we have although sometimes it does feel like a losing battle… Idi is losing weight and when I was destitute my hair grew out grey for a year but it now has a nice colour. I had never left it that long but the gambling aftermath meant that I had no money to get it done.
Just pay the credit card company what you can afford and battle it out with them over the phone. Whichever way you look at it, taking you to court serves no one. And if they get aggressive with you, I would either calmly or equally shouty state your point… I have done this and they have left me alone for some time now. But the calls have started coming again so will have to deal with that.Thanks for your post on my thread. Credit cards are not deemed a priority debt in the U.K. and I am sure in the US too. Explain your situation and tackle the priority debts. You can offer them a dollar a month and if you have priority debts they hve to accept it. All of my credit cards deferred action for six months because of my situation. They know that they cannot take priority over rent or mortgage, and all taxes, utilities. They know this so cannot force you to pay anything.
None of us asked for this addiction. It happened brought on in both our cases by a reaction to loss. Despite your debtors screaming, as mine have done, they can wait, well some of them. The court stuff has to be dealt with but they are wasting their time taking this action and you should tell them so as it doesn’t help anyone.
You are not at the end of the road. Many times in life I think well this is the end and it isn’t. We go on and you will go on too. I get the anxiety as I am sometimes overwhelmed with it but I also have times of great faith. We just need to keep walking and stick to our programme of support. I only have here too and soon I will go back to GA as the forums are so quiet. You have got on top of your debts or making them manageable before by remaining gf and you will do so again.No one in group last night so missed you. What a pain having your taxes audited. Envious of your tan, mine is fading now! Hope to catch you soon in chat. Good to hear you have been having a good time.
How are you today? When we feel that deep sadness which I can relate to, this is the time when we have to give it and the conduct of our lives to our higher power. I talk to my higher power and pray a lot, sometimes I definitely feel,it,working in my life and sometimes I don’t and am left with my anxieties. But we have to live each day as it is. I 100 per cent know that there is a power far smarter than me that supports us when we turn to it, let go of control and let go of our concerns.
Being human and living a life is not an easy process particularly when we get older and look back. I am speaking for myself here. Releasing the sadness by talking about it expressing them to our higher power and tackling the issues that hold us back can help. Sounds daft talking to thin air but I find it helps.
Small and simple things. I am enjoying the European championships, 2018 has been a fantastic year for sport. So I get my pleasures from simple things despite the many obstacles and frustrations which are there to be overcome, I guess.
I still haven’t tackled my debt one year on gf in a few days. So ***** your blessings. You will get through this funk and understand exactly what it is that has brought you to feeling this way. Gamblingis not your friend, it is your enemy!Good to hear about your pension and the good advice you have had around that. Liz, I view gambling as something I can never do. When we stop and enter into recovery we acknowledge our sadness and work through it. This took me up until just recently and isn’t an easy process but I am glad that I have the view on gambling that I do. There isn’t a magic wand and I can’t pretend that it an easy process. We can have goals and things we want to achieve, no matter what age. And we can also have good days. Good news about your daughter.
Sorry to hear you gambled. Did you identify what triggered it? For me nothing is worth going back to the addiction that would surely destroy me. And it very nearly did.
Did you have any barriers in place, and are you getting any emotional support? Both are needed to truly recover from this awful insidious disease.Where you are with gambling is exactly where I was so I recognise it well. We stop, we start, we stop and so it goes on until we reach a point of no return where I did. It is the addiction deeply engrained that seeks to destroy us, and we cooperate with it because deep.down we are very sad at how life has panned out. We seek oblivion and maybe we hope we won’t wake up which sometimes feels
preferable to life But we do wake up and the more we relapse and dig the hole the worse our physical and mental health get. That is the pattern and in recovery we need to confront those issues and find a reason to go on. Like me, we both have many reasons to go on. Our families love us even if the relationships are not exactly ideal. Five and a half years I too was lost in this addiction reacting to loss in my life and wanting to throw everything including myself away cos I had had enough of a less than great life.
You have value Liz, you are worth it. I have value and am worth it.
You can recover from this and I hope the air conditioning gets sorted out very soon. It has been boiling in the U.K. now for months but finally it is getting a little cooler.You are right, you can’t do that to your family and grandkids. But you know that. I am so sorry you gambled but relief that over the course of 11 hours it was just 300 dollars. It could have been so much more. What were the triggers? Was it the financial situation and your daughter requiring some financial help? That has been a trigger for me in the past when the family have needed money. God knows why but being aware of it helps, I,don’t,feel like gambling when that happens now although the feeling of not enough is the trigger. And wanting to help and sort,out the kids financially,for life. It sounds like a typical addicted gambler, playing to play as long as possible, not to win. Did you have anyone from GA you could have contacted when you got the urge? Go along to your GA meeting and tell them what happened. Ask if anyone can provide support the next time this happens.
I hope the air con gets sorted out now.
Pick yourself up and get back to normal activities ASAP. It was a glitch and then move but look at your triggers Liz and what you can do when they arise.Thanks for your support and posts on my thread. I too,am going to see my sister this week. It was lovely what she was able to do for you re the jewelry. I am also thinking of going back to GA as I need to keep up,support and momentum. It’s to easy to start to feel depressed and support re the aftermath if this addiction has to be a constant. It is really,good to hear of your progress.