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Hi Velvet
I am so sorry to have missed the group chat yesterday. I was on a work conference call that went way over schedule. Hope to join on Tuesday.

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Hi Velvet,
I have been trying to join the group but unsuccessfully :). I even “spoke” to your online help but they couldn’t help me either. So sorry.

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Hi Velvet

Thanks for your valued advice.
I will definitely try to join your meeting today if I can. I am guessing that it is a simple process.

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Hi Velvet,

I so appreciate your input and will answer every question you have for me.

We are aware of his problem and as much as it hurts us that he has gambling debts, I am fully aware that helping him with this is enablement and for this reason, we will not bail him out. He is fully aware of this.

I do not believe his roommates are aware of his problem and I am almost 100% certain that they are not gamblers. They are both getting married soon so will, in fact, be moving out within the next few months, so he will be looking for new roommates.

I try so hard for his addition not to control my life but I worry about it and him a lot. We are a very close family and I feel that I must have done something wrong somewhere for him to turn to this. We have always been there for him, given him everything he needs and lots and lots of love and support.

His older siblings are both doing well and both getting married this year. They are managing their lives well, are self-sufficient and responsible adults. I cannot believe that he believes that he has not had their opportunities as we consciously make every effort to treat them the same. If anything, I would say that he may have been more spoilt being the youngest. I think that he may be lacking self-esteem and self-confidence and I am not sure why. He has so much going for him. He is a good-looking, very intelligent young man who has a great job and a family that loves him. He did break up with his girlfriend of a year a few months ago, but the gambling started before he even met her so I don’t buy the fact that the break up is the factor. He has been depressed and expressed it to us but will not speak to a professional about it.

Please feel free to ask as many questions as you need. My son’s happiness and well being means the world to me.

Thanks again.

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Hi Velvet
Thanks for your prompt reply. My son does not live at home. He has his own place with 2 roommates. He travels a lot for his job so is away during the week and only home on weekends.
He does have 2 older siblings.

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