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Bok, hvala vam puno što ste podijelili svoju priču. Ono što si rekao o gubitku zbog kojeg želiš prestati na kraju mi je zaista imalo smisla. Isto se dogodilo i meni. Izgubio sam 20k u roku od 20-30 minuta i to me jako povrijedilo.
Kao i vi, ni ja nisam stigao do dna, ali znajte da sam sposoban tamo dovesti sebe i svoju obitelj. Kažem svoju obitelj jer je to upravo to. Moji postupci, naime kockanje, negativno će utjecati na njih. Ako se kockam, snosit će posljedice i to nije pošteno. To nije u redu. Moje kockanje je bilo sebično, pohlepno i moja potreba za trenutnim zadovoljstvom dovela me do velikih gubitaka.
Ponekad poželim vratiti vrijeme do prve oklade i poništiti to. Nije me briga za novac koji sam 'osvojio'. To nikada nije bilo moje i zapravo ne bi ništa promijenilo u mom životu. Bilo mi je dovoljno ugodno. Taj novac me nije učinio sretnijim, a kockanje i gubitak poštene zarade doveli su me do tuge.
Hvala vam što ste podijelili svoje iskustvo i Bravo što ste stali prije nego što se pogoršalo.
Uvijek zapamti riječi svojih mama. Kakvu majku koja te podržava i voli. Nadam se da će njezina ljubav, briga i dobri savjeti ostati s vama do kraja života
Klonite se bijede koja se kocka.
Bravo i ostanite pozitivni i jaki
Привет, большое спасибо за то, что поделились своей историей. То, что вы сказали о проигрыше, заставляющем вас хотеть остановиться, в конечном итоге действительно имело для меня смысл. То же произошло и со мной. Я потерял 20 тысяч за 20-30 минут, и это меня очень задело.
Как и вы, я еще не достигла дна, но знаю, что в состоянии привести себя и свою семью туда. Я говорю «моя семья», потому что это именно то, что нужно. Мои действия, а именно азартные игры, окажут на них негативное влияние. Если я сделаю ставку, они пострадают от последствий, и это несправедливо. Это неправильно. Моя азартная игра была эгоистичной, жадной, и именно моя потребность в мгновенном удовольствии привела меня к этим огромным потерям.
Иногда мне хочется перемотать время к самой первой сделанной мной ставке и отменить ее. Меня не волнуют деньги, которые я «выиграл». Это никогда не было моим и на самом деле ничего бы не изменило в моей жизни. Мне было достаточно комфортно. Эти деньги не сделали меня счастливее, а азартные игры и потеря моего честного заработка вызвали у меня печаль.
Спасибо, что поделились своим опытом, и хорошо, что остановились, пока не стало хуже.
Всегда помните слова мамы. Какая у вас заботливая и любящая мать. Надеюсь, ее любовь, забота и дельный совет останутся с тобой на всю жизнь
Держитесь подальше от страданий, связанных с азартными играми.
Молодцы, сохраняй позитивный и сильный настрой
Hi thank you so much for sharing your story. What you said about losing making you want stop eventually really made sense to me. The same happened for me. I lost 20k within 20-30 mins and that hurt me so much.
Like you, I haven’t hit rock bottom, but know that I am capable of getting myself and my family there. I say my family because that’s exactly it. My actions, namely gambling, will adversely impact them. If I gamble they will suffer the consequences and that is not fair. That is not right. My gambling was selfish, greedy and it was my need for instant gratification that led me to those great losses.
I sometimes wish I could rewind time to the very first bet I made and undo that. I don’t care about the money I ‘ won’ . That was never mine and actually wouldn’t have changed anything in my life. I was comfortable enough. That money didn’t make me any happier and the gambling and loss of my honest earnings led to my sadness.
Thanks for sharing your experience and Well Done for stopping before it got worse.
Always remember your mums words. What a supportive and loving mother you have. I hope her love, care and good advice stay with you for life
Keep away from the misery that is gambling.
Well done and keep positive and strong
Merhaba hikayenizi paylaştığınız için çok teşekkür ederim. Kaybetmek, durdurmak istemek hakkında söylediğin şey sonunda bana gerçekten mantıklı geldi. Aynısı benim için de oldu. 20-30 dakikada 20k kaybettim ve bu beni çok incitti.
Ben de senin gibi dibe vurmadım ama biliyorum ki kendimi ve ailemi oraya götürebilirim. Ailem diyorum çünkü tam olarak öyle. Benim eylemlerim, yani kumar, onları olumsuz etkileyecek. Kumar oynarsam sonuçlarına katlanırlar ve bu adil değil. Bu doğru değil. Kumar oynamam bencilce, açgözlüydü ve beni bu büyük kayıplara götüren anlık haz alma ihtiyacımdı.
Bazen keşke yaptığım ilk bahse zamanı geri alıp bunu geri alabilsem diyorum. 'Kazanacağım' para umurumda değil. Bu asla benim olmadı ve aslında hayatımda hiçbir şeyi değiştirmeyecekti. Yeterince rahattım. O para beni daha mutlu etmedi ve kumar ve dürüst kazançlarımın kaybı üzüntüme neden oldu.
Deneyiminizi paylaştığınız için teşekkürler ve işler daha kötüye gitmeden durduğunuz için Aferin.
Annelerin sözlerini her zaman hatırla. Ne kadar destekleyici ve sevgi dolu bir annen var. Umarım sevgisi, ilgisi ve iyi tavsiyesi ömür boyu seninle kalır.
Kumar olan sefaletten uzak durun.
Aferin ve olumlu ve güçlü ol
hello Murrs7
how did the meeting go. Please share your experience and thoughts and feelings…
please stop going to that casino. It’s causing you more pain and damage.
if you can cancel your bank/credit card and Put your money somewhere else/ non accessible. That would be a good first step.
well done for paying that cash in.
im the same, show me how much I spent online gambling in cash, I’d not touch it. As soon as it’s on my online account and I’m depositing into the online account , the digits become almost valueless and I can go as far as £500+ a spin. ( and I did)
horrible. Destructive, wasteful and disrespectful to my and my husbands hard work.
NEVER AGAIN!!!
When is any amount enough? Put forward £700 eventually built that up to £6300. Withdrew £5k and then played the £1300 to end up ‘winning’ £4600. Calculated all my losses from the beginning of April 2019 to 5th May 2019. Yes!!! Up by £4000 so I won!!!! W ended up losing £4600 plus another 14,000 from my savings in less than 20 minutes. Upped the stakes, got greedy. The lion bit a chunk out of me…
My point is… 1k 2k 3 k 50k jackpot mega jackpot is never enough. We end up going for more, risking more. I counted out my money pot today. Money my husband put in mostly from his business. Extra bits here and there for us to save. I gambled £500* a spin online yet counting that money reminded me of the hard work we’d both put in to save around £67,000 before April 2019. Why was I not content. My greed led me to suffer the losses
Hubby reminded me last night that “… those wins were not for you. That was someone else’s money, someone else’s disappointment, Someone else’s loss. That money would never have stayed with you. That is dirty money and would never bring you any happiness. Accept what happened and let it make you stronger and more determined to earn in an honest way…”
I said ‘amen’ 100% right in my mind.
I had flashback earlier to the 17 year old me. Walking 1hour to college in the morning and back again in the evening to save £1.40 bus fare. At first it was for chips in the canteen but I ended up saving that money to almost £35. Was so happy as my parents never introduced to the idea of pocket money for children. My father was extremely stingy.
Then flashback to me at 18 years. First salary of £714 pm. Father takes the lot. This went on for 2.5 years. Silver lining was that he bought our five bedroom family home in my name using some of my wages. A property I still have a share of today. Thank you dad. You taught me well with many things and I will remember those values from now onwards.
My children will hopefully value honestly earned money as you did.
Thank you everyone for your thoughts and feelings. Helps me grow as a person each day.
Just think it’s just money. You have beautiful children and they will help you get through this.
I too started gambling in April and stopped on 9th May. Lost a lot of money but luckily the money wasn’t borrowed. I still feel like crap that I could have used that money to save for my baby (she’s 6 months now)
What consoles me is that I’m still young and strong and can earn that money back with time. I can make it up to my family and child. So can you.
Eyes to the horizon and you will get back what you lost. No looking back 🙂
Well done for your courage and honesty. You owed that to your loved ones more than the money you borrowed from them
Well done for finding those solutions, closing accounts and using that compensation to clear debts. That’s taking responsibility for your actions rather than burying your head.
Trust will take time. I keep reminding myself Rome wasn’t built in a day. Little by little your finances will get better as will your mind and your relationships. Your relationships are the most important as is your wellbeing.
Well done again and do keep posting about how you’re getting along.
Also we were poor. Never really had the clothes or things I wanted and forget school trips. I do see the link between past needs and the present. Cliche but real?
I also felt your heartache of not realising before hand that the meal would be paid for. It’s funny how as kids we cant make those guesses beforehand which we do as adults.
I was also impressed by your quick thinking about how you might Have paid for your meal and saved some money for your ice cream. And that ice-cream! Been there and it’s those memories that comfort me. The small pleasures that mean the world at that age.
It takes courage to take responsibility for your own actions as an adult and not blame the past and examples set by the adults Back then. My father wasn’t a gambler nor my mother. But he was very strict, cold and unforgiving. I do appreciate his discipline and his hard work though.
Does anyone gamble in my family? No just me. It’s my urge to get quick results, my impatience, my need to accumulate, to save for a rainy day. Fuck that rainy day. How about living in the present? If that rainy day came at least I’d have my closest ppl beside me. I’d get through it.
I grew up without a mum from the age of 3. Perhaps younger. My father remarried and unfortunately it was a case of the evil step mother. Big gap left in me in my teens. A real
Internal struggle. But I am now a mother and feel like I’m retracing hidden footsteps and filling in the missing ones.I also feel sometimes that I somehow wish to walk the path of self destruction. I had enough money to get by, why gamble? Why blow all that money away? I could have gone on holiday or bought a new car or invested the money in by husbands businesS
Been feeling so low all evening and my husbands noticed the distance. I seem to be there but not there in mind.
feeling low but don’t want to gamble. Just wish I could get that money back. Wish I could make it up to my family somehow.
Radubarlad when you say had, do you mean you no longer have those ppl in your life?
Be strong, we have to be, it’s the only way we will mend. Time will heal us but only if we stay away from gambling. let us not throw ourselves back into the fake world of fast money making machines that in fact leave you at a loss. Be strong
Got so upset today as I received three parking fines of £300 in total. Then rememberEd I’d blown £1000’s GamblinG. But those fines somehow bugged me, felt like it was the parking company stealing from me this time and without my consent this time. I don’t want to lose a penny more now after the dent I’ve left in our bank balance.
please god get me out of this depressive cloud.
if you can find ways of kicking the drinking slowly and that perhaps will also stop the impulsive gambling
for me, even if I don’t drink, my impulsiveness and general love of money led me to my current state. Luckily I’m licking my wounds and trying to read stories on this forum to forever block my mind from turning to online gambling for life.
if my husband did it I think I’d have found it so hard to forgive him as I am such a saver. But the fact that I did it disgusts me to the core. I cannot recognise myself in this act. It’s like someone telling me I murdered some one. It feels that alien and horrific.
Please never waste another penny of yours on those phony sites. As you rightfully said…in fact the winning was actually losing. 38 is still young, you can rebuild and never look back.
I’m 35 and I still want 2-3 more children. I cannot even allow gambling into the equation. Imagine juggling children, with that nasty habit that consumes us all, looming over my head. NO WAY!!! I’d rather have peace, honesty, sleep instead of that fake sense of gain or ‘winning’.
Focusing on my closest relationships, my husband, a future home for my family, hard work and hard earned money is what will nurture my soul and bring me closer to my goals In life.
family matters to me above all and my honesty and care for them. The rest is secondary