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Also murr, Try to be honest about your triggers and what you have done to stop yourself gambling when the urges arise. Spending too much on alcohol or holidays are two which can be addressed to help you with your recovery.
For me it is spending too my friend, so I have begun saving spare coins and cash at home to keep me focused on saving, even if a little. I’ve already saved £970 in coins and £400 notes from market research I did and spare change from my husbands till he gave me. It makes me value the money I have in front of me and gives me the confidence to stay in control of my spending and saving
Perhaps find something you can do to save and budget and pay off some of that debt slowly
Murr,
you have your whole life ahead of you. If you could only accept your losses to begin with and let it go. Steev has written a very useful post about chasing losses in the recovery section…
it will get worse if you keep at it. It can only get worse. If I hadn’t said no more after my last relapse losing £3900 I know for a fact I would have 0 left in the bank for my house deposit
let go my friend and focus on staying gamble free .
if spending is your trigger should you be considerimg going on holiday and borrowing and spending more money? Will you be away from casinos there? Do you have enough obstacles in place to stop you from gambling again. its clear that you have to be vigilant now to really give your recovery priority.
give yourself a chance to step back from this madness. The debt will only get higher if you choose to continue. I believe you can, you like me stepped away from it for years, completely forgetting it existed.
Do do it again murr. Turn away from it for good. Do it for you.
Thank you steev. A really helpful list for me. Especially points 3 and 6
You are not pathetic, just caught in the trap that is gambling
Draw a line now. It will only get worse and that 8k can’t be easily won now. Let go please Murr. Remember I’ve been there. 14k in one night actually add the 4600 of ‘winnings’ then thats almost 19k pound sterling
it it will not get better, it will only get worse
thE chasing will only cause more damage
Murr do you mean you lost money after that 4K or was it the same relapse
please try to rememtwhat happened in the past for you when chasing …
Hi give it a few days and your mind will settle. You haven’t failed at all. It’s part of your recovery
Thinking of you murr,
whats done is done. Now pick yourself up and say today is going to be another GF day. Start over my friend but with the same mindset you had before this slip.
You can’t afford to continue gambling murr. It’s not an option with the huge amounts you and I put on the table. It will wipe you out.
i know that your triggers are spending too much money on things and drinkin. Those two things need to be addressed in parallel to G. I always thought that with you. You went to a party, spent quite a bit there, then your expensive cab ride. I think they were triggers as you mentioned them.
perhaps make it a challenge to budget your spending and see how it helps you focus on staying GF
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