[Meghna83]

I am glad you came to realise that Everything you do affects your husband. When I gambled all I could think about was my husband and how I would feel if he had done that to me. I would have felt betrayed, let down and uncared for.

honestly, my advice to you would be draw the line. I myself inherited some money which enabled me to gamble away a large chunk of it. I am now living with the consequences of that and am not proud of my actions.

draw a line under all your losses and take your recovery seriously 

[Meghna83]

It’s 2020! Happy new year to everyone on this forum. Stephen happy new year my friend, wishing you the best for this new decade. 

I have to agree with so many comments I have read today about gambling causing unnecessary stress, shifting money, counting, calculating, projecting. It’s all a nightmare. One way of self destructing. Not worth it. Imagine the years we pile on for this self inflicted pain and stress.

Still GF from august last year. I can not afford to look back. I feel very close to my husband and baby right now. My family is growing and it’s beautiful to be a part of it. I am fortunate in this life and really don’t need more money as it won’t change my feelings of contentment since choosing to stop G.

Life throws its problems at me but now I face them and work through them with my family.

Wishing you all well for this amazing new year!

[Meghna83]

Thank you IDI

so happy to hear so many positive steps we are all taking to avoid G damage. I’ve been following your progress and wishing you well with each update you give

you sound so focused and energised and it is helpful to hear about the positive steps you have taken to get were you are right now.

keep posting 🙂

[Meghna83]

Stephen,

it never ceases to amaze me how caring and giving you are to people that need help on GT. You always reach out and give anything you can to help others learn something from you. Whether it’s someone new on the forum or old. You take the time to read and respond and you are very sincere with your thoughts and feelings. Please know that it is appreciated. 

thank you so much for consider  the very little I did for you though I feel you helped me so much too. Know that I always follow your progress and am always wishing the best for you. You are very honest and sincere about your journey and know your weaknesses.

I hope your dad is well and that this tough time has put many things that actually matter higher up in the priority list. I am sure it has bought you closer to your loved ones. You are loved by so many ppl around you so believe that you will always do better and make the right choices. Love can help us overcome so many struggles in life.

thank you for your kind words. They really made me feel appreciated. I will definitely keep you posted about the baby in the making

take care of yourself stephen and keep sharing your positivity. 

[Meghna83]

Still gf and feel like gambling was part of a previous life of mind. It’s so weird how when you stop and work on recovery, the brain can stop the toxic cycle.

I will stay vigilant but I do think not reading everyday about gambling helped me channel my energy elsewhere.

I am almost 16 weeks pregnant and will find out the gender of my baby on Saturday. Life is a blessing

[Meghna83]

Hey murr, snap! 

I see you notice similar messages I notice. ( brother from another mother)

wishing you the best, always x

[Meghna83]

Thank you so so much for this message. Much respect to you  

[Meghna83]

That’s amazing IDI well done to you. You sound very different and speak with determination and clarity. Wishing you many many more months, years of gf  time.

by the end of nov I will be over 3 months GF. I stayed away from GT for a bit just to kind of get out of the gambling dwelling and it helped.

wishing you the best 

meg 

[Meghna83]

Thank you Berta for your insight and perspectiv. I also thank god for allowing me to be rational most of the time. 

I no longer wish to gamble. I no longer wish to throw money away in seconds. 

wishing you the best xx

[Meghna83]

i believe you can be gf for years to come . Praying for you and always reading your posts to follow your journey xx

[Meghna83]

I have my first baby scan on Monday and so excited

[Meghna83]

Thank you Murr, Berta and Kin.

Since my last relapse in august I have not gambled. I gave up all my bank cards and deal only with cash now.

I am sorry to hear about your relapse murr. You really deserve a fresh start and renewed hope and motivation. It is in you and you must fight for it. Please be kind to yourself and stop the pain of gambling.

I am almost 9 weeks pregnant and busy with family life. The good news is that I am looking for a house to buy and have made a few offers. I felt sad at times thinking about the amount of deposit I would have had which would have given me a low interest rate and a good standing with paying stamp duty. However, still so optimistic and encouraged by the fact that I am putting the rest of my money into a worth while project.

My head is clearer and energy better placed since my last slip.

Things are looking up

Wishing everyone the very best

[Meghna83]

Hi 

i have done done the exact same thing but playing demos. I ended up gambling and losing money.

To break the habit I realised I absolutely should not watch gambling of others nor play any sort of games that reminds me of it or imitates such games.

even if the money isn’t wagered it’s the conditions of gambling that ends up making us put money down and feed the addiction 

Please do come back over the next 7 days. It will help 

[Meghna83]

Murr,

so so nice to hear from you. You are working extremely hard to get back on your feet and it is extremely admirable. I know you will not gamble agaim. Your words are quite different and I like how you talk about what you are doing to move forwards rather than talking about figures lost. I have been reading your posts though have Not posted or replied myself.

So I relapsed as you know and since then I would lie if I said It doesnt hurt or I didn’t wish I could get the money back.This time though I felt quite vigilant and didn’t want to go further or chase mindlessly, no matter what the amounT. In fact I was afraid to do that and put more barriers in place.

I am bored of the damage it brings and it is guaranteed damage.

so the good news is I’m pregnant! Started work in September and really really tied up with work and then home duties.

over the moon that my baby  will have a sibling soon. 

Always wishing you the best and rooting for you my friend 

 

[Meghna83]

Thank you so much for your kind words R. I truly believe we All will turn our back on this insidious habit.  I too relapsed but lost a lower amount than I usually do and not wanting to chase loses. That is one positive change I have seen in my behaviour 🙂

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