[Meghna83]

Možda je došlo do nesporazuma i ispričavam se ako sam pogriješio kraj štapa.

Napisao sam tu poruku nakon što sam pročitao neke negativne primjedbe ostavljene na nečijem postu i zapravo sam o tome razmišljao na vlastitoj temi radi vlastitog zapisa. Lekcija je – ne šutnuti nekoga kad je pao (imao recidiv)

recidiv je sam po sebi poražavajući i sjećam se da sam od svih ovdje dobio toliko pozitivnih povratnih informacija koje su mi pomogle da se nosim s tim. Suosjećam sa svima koji su se vratili i uvijek žele biti optimistični da će se moći vratiti kao GF

da mislim da su ukrštene žice IDI

[Meghna83]

Misschien een misverstand en mijn excuses als ik de verkeerde kant van de stok heb gekregen.

Ik schreef dat bericht na het lezen van enkele negatieve opmerkingen over iemands post en ik was er eigenlijk over aan het nadenken in mijn eigen draad voor mijn eigen record. Les zijn – om iemand niet te schoppen als ze down zijn (een terugval hadden)

een terugval is op zich al verwoestend en ik herinner me dat ik van iedereen hier zoveel positieve feedback kreeg om me te helpen ermee om te gaan. Ik voel mee met iedereen die een terugval heeft gehad en altijd optimistisch wil zijn dat ze weer GF . kunnen worden

ja ik denk gekruiste draden IDI

[Meghna83]

Maybe a misunderstanding and I apologise if i got the wrong end of the stick. 

a relapse is devastating in itself and I remember  getting so much positive feedback from everyone here to help me deal with it. I feel for anyone who has relapsed and always want to be optimistic that they can get back to being GF

[Meghna83]

Maybe a misunderstanding and I apologise if i got the wrong end of the stick. 

a relapse is devastating in itself and I remember  getting so much positive feedback from everyone here to help me deal with it. I feel for anyone who has relapsed and always want to be optimistic that they can get back to being GF

[Meghna83]

I really do not appreciate the venting of frustrations on my thread. 

Thank you 

[Meghna83]

Hi IDI, It’s Meghna not Meghan  🙂

i guess that message should be posted on steevs thread. I am sure he will appreciate it.

As far as sermons and church is concerned, I’ve never quoted anything biblical. I have never read the bible nor do I follow that faith. I have my own faith in a creator. call him/ her god or any other name. this is my thread (which you posted on) and it is up to me what I write about and how I express myself. I am not out to reform or give sermons to anyone. My posts are for my own record.

‘I agree some of us need to hear the message very directly but please advise actions we can take – we can go to church if we want a sermon!’

That is your opinion and I do not have to or intend to give ‘sermons’ to anyone here, including you. Please do not dictate how I ought to write on my own thread and what I must say to express my thoughts and feelings.

you yourself have talked about ‘God’ in some of your posts and no one is scrutinising or criticising you for it IDI. It’s your point of view.

Hope you have a good day!
thank you

[Meghna83]

Olá IDI, sou Meghna, não Meghan 🙂

Acho que essa mensagem deve ser postada no tópico da steevs. Tenho certeza de que ele vai gostar.

No que diz respeito aos sermões e à igreja, nunca citei nada bíblico. Nunca li a bíblia nem sigo essa fé. Eu tenho minha própria fé em um criador. chamá-lo de deus ou qualquer outro nome. este é o meu tópico (no qual você postou) e cabe a mim sobre o que escrevo e como me expresso. Não pretendo reformar ou dar sermões a ninguém. Minhas postagens são para meu próprio registro.

'Eu concordo que alguns de nós precisam ouvir a mensagem muito diretamente, mas por favor, aconselhe as ações que podemos tomar – podemos ir à igreja se quisermos um sermão!'

Essa é a sua opinião e não tenho que fazer ou pretendo dar 'sermões' a ninguém aqui, incluindo você. Por favor, não dite como devo escrever em meu próprio tópico e o que devo dizer para expressar meus pensamentos e sentimentos.

você mesmo falou sobre 'Deus' em alguns de seus posts e ninguém está escrutando ou criticando por isso IDI. É o seu ponto de vista.

Espero que você tenha um bom dia!
obrigada

[Meghna83]

Bok IDI, to je Meghna, a ne Meghan 🙂

pretpostavljam da bi tu poruku trebalo objaviti na temi steevs. Siguran sam da će to cijeniti.

Što se propovijedi i crkve tiče, nikad nisam citirao ništa biblijsko. Nikada nisam čitao Bibliju niti slijedim tu vjeru. Imam svoju vjeru u tvorca. nazovite ga bogom ili nekim drugim imenom. ovo je moja tema (koju ste objavili) i na meni je o čemu pišem i kako se izražavam. Ne želim se reformirati niti držati propovijedi nikome. Moji postovi su za moj vlastiti zapis.

'Slažem se da neki od nas trebaju čuti poruku izravno, ali molimo vas da nam date savjet koje mjere možemo poduzeti – možemo ići u crkvu ako želimo propovijed!'

To je vaše mišljenje i ne moram niti namjeravam držati 'propovijedi' nikome ovdje, uključujući ni vas. Molimo vas da ne diktirate kako bih trebao pisati na vlastitoj temi i što moram reći da izrazim svoje misli i osjećaje.

i sami ste u nekim svojim postovima govorili o 'Bogu' i nitko vas zbog toga ne provjerava ili kritizira IDI. To je tvoje gledište.

Nadam se da vam je ugodan dan!
Hvala vam

[Meghna83]

Hallo IDI, het is Meghna niet Meghan 🙂

ik denk dat dat bericht op de steevs-thread moet worden geplaatst. Ik weet zeker dat hij het zal waarderen.

Wat preken en kerk betreft, ik heb nooit iets bijbels geciteerd. Ik heb de bijbel nooit gelezen en ik volg dat geloof ook niet. Ik heb mijn eigen vertrouwen in een schepper. noem hem/haar god of een andere naam. dit is mijn draad (waar je op hebt gepost) en het is aan mij waar ik over schrijf en hoe ik mezelf uitdruk. Ik ben er niet op uit om iemand te hervormen of preken te geven. Mijn berichten zijn voor mijn eigen record.

'Ik ben het ermee eens dat sommigen van ons de boodschap heel direct moeten horen, maar adviseer alstublieft wat we kunnen doen – we kunnen naar de kerk gaan als we een preek willen!'

Dat is uw mening en ik hoef of ben niet van plan om 'preken' te geven aan iemand hier, ook aan u niet. Zeg alsjeblieft niet hoe ik in mijn eigen topic moet schrijven en wat ik moet zeggen om mijn gedachten en gevoelens te uiten.

je hebt zelf in sommige van je posts over 'God' gesproken en niemand bekijkt of bekritiseert je ervoor IDI. Het is jouw standpunt.

Hoop dat je een goede dag hebt!
bedankt

[Meghna83]

sorry to hear about your slip. well done for coming back here to keep your recovery in mind and seek support 

[Meghna83]

It is really not healthy venting frustration or anger on anyone on this forum. Especially after someone has relapsed and especially at a time like this.

[Meghna83]

was thinking about what Relapseking wrote ‘… i get evil thoughts like hurting myself or stealing my money back from someone else….’

When I experienced a massive loss one night, almost £20k within half an hour, it was a sobering experience for me. At first I felt brain dead and kept blinking and looking at the screen, not believing what had happened. What I had done. How out of control I was.

The experience humbled me in a way. I always imagined myself to be quite intelligent and I was, at times, arrogant when thinking about my ability  to make money and managing my finances. My husband always let me manage our money and at times I was pretty harsh with him for making poor financial decisions. Even his overspending would be mentioned by me. It’s a mindset which was nurtured by my father during my teens to adulthood. My father always said I had a good, steady head on my shoulders. 

After that night, I never felt (and still don’t feel) that someone else deserved it to happen to them. I never wished to steal money or acquire money to make up for the losses. I actually thought that the fact that I am gambling and trying to win more money that someone else lost was toxic and wrong within itself. I remembered god and the power he had to make or break me. He alone could bring success and happiness into my life and in contrast he could also take it away. Why me? Well because I am human and am open to wrong thoughts and actions.

It hurt so much to lose so much money. To date, I think I’ve lost within the region of £35k- £45k (stopped counting) to gambling but I feel it is a wake up call that I am fallible. I am flawed as a human being. I can make bad choices and things in my life can go wrong. It made my faith in God stronger and my need to ask him for help when I cannot find answers vital. 

My gambling stemmed from so many issues both childhood related and post pregnancy/ motherhood.

I forgive myself and stop asking myself how or why it happened. I know why it happened and it stemmed from arrogance and greed. I would never ever wish it on anyone. I try to be more generous with money now and give to the poor. I like to splash out on bday presents for friends and family and do not dwell on financial costs or losses (car fines or insurance) as I used to.

Reading Kin’s posts gives me so much faith in humankind and human nature. I wish to correct my ways and thoughts and be fair, generous and forgiving. Since having my first child and now expecting my second, I realise how precious life is and how it can end suddenly. Money is not everything. Life, peace and love is.

[Meghna83]

Abhay instead say “I will not gamble again!” leave out the try

you can do this. Believe that things will get better so long as you do not gamble.

keep posting 

[Meghna83]

Abhay I sympathise with you. I lost a lot of money too and it was my savings. 

I chased and chased and it is that which caused me to dig myself into a bigger hole. My losses only grew with chasing.

My advice to you is:

1.stop chasing losses. Believe me, if you can at least take that step, the damage you have done will begin to heal.

2. Self ban from all gambling sites. Online Gambling is probably the most toxic and destructive ways to gamble as thousands are lost within minutes.

3. Talk to someone, as hard as it may be/seem, owning up to what you have done and getting an outside perspective will bring you back to the reality of how mindless gambling can turn any person.

4. Hand over your finances to a close person and give up using debit and credit cards.

5. the biggest challenge- let go of your losses and accept they are gone. Find ways to imagine how Such a financial loss could occur anyway such as a business  closing for good  due to covid 19 (this has happened to thousands of people) many have lost a massive amount of money. 
6. forgive yourself and realise you deserve better and have the power to take control and recover financially. You can be in control. You are not powerless over your recovery but are powerless when gambling.

All these steps helped me and yet I found myself relapsing several times since April 2019. Luckily I have removed all access  to my savings now and my husband is helping me stay vigilant. I am still on my journey of recovering from this self inflicted, nonsensical financial bleeding. 

Please believe me, stop now and your brain will begin to recover from this brain-dead, ludicrous activity.

[Meghna83]

Really cheered me up hearing how well you are doing and how far you have come. Your energy and positivity will always shine through and it does not surprise me one bit that you are doing very well at work and personally.

Your focus on your recovery and belief in yourself, in improving your life and acknowledging  all the right things you are doing, is so inspiring and admirable 

it gives me hope that I can and will end the year without attempting to gamble or gamble. 

the inner goodness and love within us always wants to do better for ourselves and others. Though sometimes dark actions or poor decisions overpower this.

my family and I are well and in isolation. Baby is due in 8 weeks time and I am looking forward to having more love and beau in the family.

thank you murr for always reaching out and listening. I always felt I was heard even when things were very bad.

always here and listening to your journey x 

meg 

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