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JM how are you since you last post?

Your loss is certainly big but you are still young and alive. please turn your back on this and start saving again. You will look back and see it as a terrible mistake

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Kin ty for sharing this. Made me stop and think for a bit 🙂

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Vera,

so nice to hear from you. Well done on steering clear from G. You already decided from you previous post (before payday) that you would not gamble and so you didnt.

I gave birth to a beautiful girl on at the end of May. Busy now with 2 babies and gambling has no place in my head or house. She remains nameless as I have too many name choices!

I woke up in the morning and waters broke within 10 mins. Went straight to hospital and delivered within the hour. Delivered on gas and god given air! 

There I was booking myself in for an elective C section for fear of a traumatic delivery (experienced by me from my no1) but nature showed me it had other plans for me.

so grateful 

have a lovely day Vera 🙂

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My advice would be please be honest with your wife and tell her about the gambling. Your actions directly affect her and your child.

If you don’t face up to your addiction and involve those that are affected then your addiction will thrive and you won’t have any checks in place to stop you.

To lose that amount of money is a big deal and you need someone you trust and love to make you see the reality of what you are doing. The damage you are creating for you and your famil. This advice is from experience.

I lost £20,000 within 30 minutes last year and when I did it I felt sick to my stomach. I bet £500 per spin. When I told my husband soon after it happened, his horror at my courage to bet that amount woke me up to how bad things had gotten with me. I realised, only from him, how out of control I had become. I desperately needed his help and guidance.

You need to involve someone you trust

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Believe me, you have done yourself a huge favour by excluding from these sites. Over a year ago I lost £14k in one session (no more than half an hour) Had I self excluded from other sites and registered with Gamban and GamStop soon after, I would have saved myself from losing  thousands more.

stop now. the chase will only lead to more losses and continuing gambling will only make you bleed financially until that debt you have becomes unmanageable 

you have done extremely well to ban yourself from sites and make arrangements to clear your debts.

give yourself time. You will feel amazing in a few months time if you stick to working hard on your recovery

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Hi Kin,

why silver and not gold? 

Never thought about that but I also have a lot of money tied up in gold wedding jewellery

These wedding gifts definitely stop me from losing the cash value to G 

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Hi Vera,

Your kind words really uplifted me and I felt the exact sentiments for you Vera. You deserve so much better. We all do.

You have a blessed life and only you can make it better by stopping G properly.

Get rid of the choice of either gambling or not. Keep barriers in place to prevent you from G (lose access to that money) withdraw your pay. Do whatever it takes to make your life better and bring back the peace of mind you once enjoyed.

Life is hard enough and with the current circumstances with the world economy, you really need your salary for worthwhile things.

Please give us some news on how you are doing.

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Hi Stuart 

feeling your pain with this loss and relapse and  it’s all the more painful when it happens after a long stretch of GF time. 

With regards to the withdrawal restriction, was it just a case of you waiting for the cash out period or was it that you had to gamble more to be able to withdraw the 16k?

These sites have a way of hooking us in a keeping us there, until we have spent our last penny in deposit money (as you probably know well.)

Please let go of your losses. That 2k could have been £20k or even £200k.  just imagine based on past experiences what that would have felt like.

I, like you, have lost a huge amount of money to online G sites and only lost again and again chasing. I have zero inhibitions when it comes to gambling and I always bet big, which means huge losses in a small amount of time.

Turn away from the things that are triggering your loss like alcohol and lose access to money. the addiction will always remain and I guess you have to protect yourself from it now and even 10 years down the line. 

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How about not logging in at all on that date

Your plan of :

‘The non gambler in me is planning to give my lap top to somebody overnight on that date. Go to the ATM the next morning. Remove all available cash.‘

Make that decision Vera and stick to it. It’s when you look at option C or D that the complications arise

I don’t go to land based casinos (pre lockdown) so have that cash in my hand would deter me from G

Good luck

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Привіт Темна Енергія,

Я знаю, що ви маєте на увазі, і я сам цим користуюся. Мої контакти у фб поділилися позитивними та цікавими речами під час цього карантину. Я думаю, що з мого досвіду багато моїх контактів публікують свої життєві переживання (без гострих відчуттів), я використовую fb для святкового натхнення та перевірки старих друзів з університетських днів. Я також купую речі за вигідну ціну!

Я думаю, це залежить від того, як ви його використовуєте, і від вашого бачення речей.

мої двоє найкращих друзів не на ФБ і у них немає дітей. Я глибоко знаю, що вони теж хотіли б мати сім'ю. Вони двоє з найбільш відданих і справжніх людей, яких я знаю.

життя не закінчилося для вас, і кожен день, коли ви прокидаєтесь, у вас є сила зробити ваше життя кращим. Повір у це.

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こんにちはダークエネルギー、

私はあなたがFBについて何を意味するのか知っています、そして私はそれを自分で使います。 fbの私の連絡先は、この封鎖中に前向きで興味深いことを共有しました。私の経験から、私の連絡先の多くは人生での経験を投稿していると思います（スリルはありません）。私は休日のインスピレーションとユニデイからの古い友人のチェックインにfbを使用しています。お買い得品も買います！

それはあなたがそれをどのように使うか、そしてあなたの物事のビジョンに依存すると思います。

私の2人の親友はFBに参加しておらず、子供もいません。彼らにも家族がいたらいいのにと思います。彼らは私が知っている中で最も忠実で本物の人々の2人です。

人生はあなたのために終わっていません、そしてあなたが目覚める毎日、あなたはあなたの人生をより良くする力を持っています。それを信じる。

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Olá Dark Energy,

Eu sei o que você quer dizer com FB e eu mesmo uso. Meus contatos no fb compartilharam coisas positivas e interessantes durante este bloqueio. Acho que, por experiência própria, muitos dos meus contatos postam suas experiências de vida (sem emoções associadas). Eu uso o fb para inspiração de férias e para ver velhos amigos de uni dias. Eu também compro coisas por uma pechincha!

acho que depende de como você o usa e da sua visão das coisas.

meus dois melhores amigos não estão no FB e não têm filhos. Eu sei que, no fundo, eles gostariam de ter uma família também. Eles são duas das pessoas mais leais e genuínas que conheço.

a vida não acabou para você e a cada dia que você acorda, você tem o poder de tornar sua vida melhor. Acredita nisso.

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Hej Dark Energy,

Jag vet vad du menar om FB och jag använder det själv. Mina kontakter på fb har delat positiva och intressanta saker under denna lockdown. Jag tror, av min erfarenhet, många av mina kontakter lägger upp sina erfarenheter i livet (inga spänningar bifogade) Jag använder fb för semesterinspiration och checka in på gamla vänner från unidagar. Jag köper också saker för ett fynd!

Jag antar att det beror på hur du använder det och din syn på saker.

mina två bästa vänner finns inte på FB och de har inga barn. Jag vet innerst inne att de önskar att de också hade en familj. De är två av de mest lojala och äkta människor jag känner.

livet har inte slutat för dig och varje dag du vaknar har du makten att göra ditt liv bättre. Tro det.

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Hallo donkere energie,

Ik weet wat je bedoelt met FB en ik gebruik het zelf ook. Mijn contacten op fb hebben positieve en interessante dingen gedeeld tijdens deze lockdown. Ik denk dat uit mijn ervaring veel van mijn contacten hun ervaringen in het leven posten (geen spanning bijgevoegd). Ik gebruik fb voor vakantie-inspiratie en het inchecken bij oude vrienden uit de tijd van de universiteit. Ik koop ook dingen voor een koopje!

Ik denk dat het afhangt van hoe je het gebruikt en je visie op dingen.

mijn twee beste vrienden zitten niet op FB en hebben geen kinderen. Ik weet diep van binnen dat ze ook zouden willen dat ze een gezin hadden. Ze zijn twee van de meest loyale en oprechte mensen die ik ken.

het leven is niet voor jou geëindigd en elke dag dat je wakker wordt, heb je de kracht om je leven beter te maken. Geloof dat.

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ہیلو ڈارک انرجی ،

میں جانتا ہوں کہ ایف بی کے بارے میں آپ کا کیا مطلب ہے اور میں اسے خود استعمال کرتا ہوں۔ اس لاک ڈاؤن کے دوران ایف بی پر میرے رابطوں نے مثبت اور دلچسپ چیزیں شیئر کیں۔ میرے خیال میں ، میرے تجربے سے ، میرے بہت سے روابط زندگی میں اپنے تجربات شائع کرتے ہیں (کوئی سنسنی نہیں ہے) میں چھٹیوں کی حوصلہ افزائی اور یونیورسٹی کے دنوں سے پرانے دوستوں کو چیک کرنے کے لیے ایف بی کا استعمال کرتا ہوں۔ میں سودا کے لیے چیزیں بھی خریدتا ہوں!

میرا اندازہ ہے کہ یہ اس بات پر منحصر ہے کہ آپ اسے کس طرح استعمال کرتے ہیں اور چیزوں کے بارے میں آپ کا نظریہ۔

میرے دو بہترین دوست ایف بی پر نہیں ہیں اور ان کے بچے نہیں ہیں۔ میں جانتا ہوں کہ ان کی خواہش ہے کہ ان کا بھی خاندان ہو۔ وہ دو انتہائی وفادار اور حقیقی لوگ ہیں جنہیں میں جانتا ہوں۔

زندگی آپ کے لیے ختم نہیں ہوئی ہے اور ہر روز آپ جاگتے ہیں ، آپ کے پاس اپنی زندگی کو بہتر بنانے کی طاقت ہے۔ یقین کرو.

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