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Hi K, Ooh a trip to Bali, we went 4 years ago(25th Wedding Anniversary) and absolutely loved it. It is a long way from UK, and if my health would stand it, we would be going again next year for out 30th Wedding Anniversary too. That 7 weeks will fly by and I feel sure you really don’t need to ‘lose the flab’, but can also understand your thinking 🙂 xx I believe you should express your excitement, even though it may cause initial upset, it can be discussed. Why don’t they want you to discuss it ? is it something personal to them ? Try not to feel uncomfortable about it – don’t let their hang up ruin your build up to such a great break. Love to you xxxWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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Hi K, Happy Easter Bunny day to you and your family. I hope you enjoy your break and recharge your batteries. It is awful feeling TATT (tired all the time). Your life certainly has changed for the better and just being able to ‘cope’ without reverting to gambling is a tremendous achievement. It is raining here today, so horrid after all the sunshine of late – but hey ho !!! Take care and have fun. Much love xxxWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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Hi Marlene, Of course I remember you, and sadly mine is much a same tale. An adult child who has not yet recognised he ***** constant support, even after going through GH !!! We will be here to support whenever you want to post. Time to look after YOU now, and let those adult children find their way. It is YOU that is important, remember that. Sending much love and friendship to you xxxWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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Hi Mark, Great to read your update and that life for YOU is good. I remember when you first posted and the despair you felt, that despair after losing so much that was precious to you in life, made you apply to and go through GH and look where you are today 🙂 I wish you continued recovery and a happy, gamble free life. Much love xxxxWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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Hi Vera, Thanks for your posts on my thread xx I hope you are okay and are ready for the April pact, of which day one has almost passed ? Glad to see that you have banned from the place you knew you could get your ‘fix’. Hope to see you around here very soon xx Much love xWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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Hi K, thanks for the post on my thread, it means so much xxx I like the line ‘ Sometimes our greatest fear is ourselves and our inability to be open to the possibilities’ and I believe that is true for us all, CG and non CG alike. I for one hope you keep giving your very much valued support to all on this site . Be proud of your achievements, living can never be boring, each day has something different to offer us, make us think and take stock of what we have in life and just how far we have come. Sending much love to you and yours xxxxWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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Welcome to 2012 as a recovering CG Geordie, it is good to see a new and bright post – look forward to more of the same. Live for today – it is the only day that matters. Much love for continued peace and happiness in your life
xxWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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Hi K. Thanks for the post on my thread. Life goes on and that baby girl bring so much laughter. We have been to tea this evening and Grandpa was in the ball pool with her, so funny, not sure who is the biggest kid !!! We so HOPE he will turn his life around too, but can’t sit by, life is too short and we are not getting any younger. Hope you got the long needed rest after the long shift and are all settling into your new home. Much love xxxWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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We got booted 🙁 – lovely to chat. Take care of you xxxWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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Hi Geordie
I too hope your parents health issues begin to resolve and that all goes well with dads operation(s). I would like to thank you for your support on my thread, that is what this site is all about, supporting those who want recovery and encouraging those who might be falling by the wayside slightly. Sad to say, still no contact from son and that is how it will remain. His Nanna and Grandad (by marriage) came for lunch today and were asking how the situation was with him. Of course we updated them with the finer details – no point hiding it and they were truly sad and shocked about the most recent of events !! Not a lot happening here, but our darling grandaughter also called in :-)), she brings us so much joy amongst so much sadness and for that we are thankful. Whatever you are doing is working for you Geordie, and that is all that matters. I know you have been disappointed in your daughter of late, but I think V hit it on the head, trust takes time to rebuild/regain and you have said yourself, you let many people down when you were in the grip of the addiction, without a thought for them or the situation you left them in, so don’t be too harsh on her actions. Things will come together in the ‘midst of time’ as they say. Keep on keeping on mate.
Take care on your journey. Much love xx We must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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Nice post Geordie, keep it up . It makes good reading. xx
Much love
xxWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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Hi Geordie
Thanks for the post on my thread and I have ordered said book. I don’t usually read many books unless they grip me in the first page, so hopefully !! I have just updated myself reading your thread. So sorry to hear about Dad and Mums ongoing illnesses, but you are there for them, despite other family members being absent Geordie. You know what they say, we can’t save everyone, we have to save ourselves and you are certainly doing that. Well done you, keep up the good work, and Vera, you know it makes sense !!! lol. All you wrote about everything being compulsive I can see in my son !! All or nothing – only thing is he has not yet done the banning from all DOCTOR QUIRKEY’S GOOD TIME EMPORIUMS lol !!! Still hope yet though. Good for you. Take care both.
Much love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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Hi
Well we are home after our ‘break’, can’t really call it a holiday as our minds were really back here with recent events. It was very hot in Bulgaria, just how we like it and the hotel was lovely, food left something to be desired, but hey ho its and up and coming resort and feel sure they will get there in the end. Recent events have continued after taking him basic foods on the Weds we called Friday before we left for the airport. ‘Have a nice time – I am okay’ – yes right !! Spoke to him Sat to let him know we had arrived safe and asked how he was ‘okay – watching telly’ . Got a text from our close friends on the Monday to say son had text – no emergency payment due to tax code and no food – advice please. By the time I text back they had gone with daughter and bought £5.44 worth of basic food stuff and delivered it to him in the Tesco Car Park. Have found out today that they chatted with him in car and I will fill you in with that bit later. I spoke to him on Wed and he did not mention the text or the food shop and I did not mention it either (kept it up my sleeve and it is still there) !! I asked if he knew what his plans were re job etc and he said no and to ‘ stop stressing him’, also said he couldn’t get into his email account to retrieve his CV and had had to email hotmail to get his password as there was a copy on a sent email ! He was supposedly due to be paid on Friday 27th May – so I text on Friday saying hopefully he had been paid and phone topped up and could he text to let us know how he was and what his plans were – no reply ! I called – phone off !! Daughter text to say she had met him on Thurs with his niece, she bought him a drink of pop and they had a chat. She said he was still saying silly things, like I am going to get a laptop to use the internet, her saying well you really need to use your money to get a place to live etc, etc. She said they might have him to lunch on Sunday and he said ‘I will pay and treat you’, she said she didn’t expect him to pay and he would need to use this money wisely. He told her he was meeting an old school mate on Friday evening and I knew then the scenario which was to follow. I text her Sun to see if they had him over -she told me No as she had text him twice and called on Sat to make an arrangement – guess what – no response !! Our close friends, who he called to collect him from the station and went with daughter to take food, also tried to text and call from Friday to Monday – no responses and phone off most of the time other than 12.30am Mon morning when one of her texts delivered !!!! still no response though. Even friend sending a ‘can you text its urgent’ didn’t get a response, which lets face it could have been any number of things- accident, illness, death etc !! Daughter called hostel late Mon evening asking if he still resides there – told yes but she said she did not want to speak to him, just wanted to know if he was there. He told daughter he was not going back to his job in London (still don’t know if he really still had the job). I called last night and withheld my number but phone still off. Hubby and I have talked a lot during our break and have decided that we have to walk away. We want to tell him face to face that until he sorts himself out he is now no longer a welcome visitor here and not to contact us at all. If and when he decides that the time is right and he makes the choice to get support etc and comes out the other side then he will be welcomed again. However, with no responses we cannot even arrange to meet, we will not go to the hostel to ‘seek him out’ and I don’t want to do it by text, or are we just best leaving it – thoughts please ????? Spoke to friend this morning and she told me more about the meeting with the food (daughter has not said anything about it). She said they told him they had only gone for us ! They asked how he was with the gambling – he replied he thought about it every minute of every day and ‘my head is messed up’. They said it was not surprising and that when he got paid it was his opportunity to try and sort a few things, accommodation etc and he also told them he was not going back to London ‘they are all idiots at that workplace’. He said he might need help with someone looking after his money and they said there were plenty of us willing to do so, all he has to do is ask, but it would be a case of when he wanted money he could not throw a wobbly when there was none available !! Thank God they are now singing from our hymn book. Friend also said that he was looking out of the car window and thought he was only listening to the bits he wanted to hear. I said he was probably realising that their door was also closing to him too ! What do we think has happened: 1. He got paid and blew it all so now in hiding again. 2. There was no job, therefore no money so again, gone into hiding ? Neither of which we have concrete evidence but going on past events and patterns one or the other seem to fit. So that is my update, not brilliant really is it – never expected it to be really I suppose, always HOPED though. I have had really bad nightmares on holiday about him – so much so that hubby has had to wake me on various occasions as I have been shouting out – always with sons name !!!! Hubby is worried about my mental state too. Survival of the fittest now I am afraid and we have to be the fittest………………………………………………….and strongest………..stronger than ever. If walking 10 miles in a night then sleeping in a field, then on a mattress in someone’s drive is not enough to hit rock bottom – what is ???We must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo– 01/06/2011 14:52:52: post edited by Looby Loo.

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Hi Kathryn
Just wanted to say, glad that all is well for you right now and you are living your life doing NORMAL stuff. 
Well done on the one and a half years.  I hope you enjoy a Happy Christmas and peaceful and healthy 2011.
Much love xWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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How lovely Velvet.
My thought for the day:
I must remember how far we have come as a family, and how much better life is now, but when tested, I need to remain strong in my resolves and remember to tell myself ‘I never did anything wrong, other than be a loving parent’.
Much love xWe must look forward and must never look back, we cannot change what has already happened. The future is brighter.Looby Loo

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