[lizbeth4]

Thanks Cat for your post!  I am doing better emotionally with the loss of my Husband.  My oldest Daughter and I are forming a healthy relationship which I am grateful for.  So, something good is coming out of the loss of my Husband.  I feel like I am functioning better and thinking clearer.  At some point, my Mother will have to move to where I live so we can have daily contact and so I can help her more.  She isn’t at that point yet but at least we have a open line of communication, and she is willing to talk to me about it.  She is functioning well physically and mentally but it is hard to have her 2 hours away and she is slowing down a lot.  I just want to be there for her like she was for both of my Grandmothers when they could no longer take care of themselves.  My Grandson spent the night and we are going for haircuts today and then back home.  It has been so hot and humid here, we have had a heat advisory the last week.  No gambling urges lately, good news.  I hope everyone has a great gamble free day! Take care.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole,  I just wanted to tell you that you are very brave and a lot stronger than you think you are.  I know it must have been very hard on you to have to return the 2 dogs that you had adopted and to have to think about euthanizing your other 2 dogs.  I am so glad than you found your cat!!  Change is hard, even when you know it is the right thing for you.  Everything will be alright, it will just take time and some adjustments.  Take care of yourself and remember that I am always here for you.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Thanks for the posts everyone!!  The visit with my Mother was awesome.  She was feeling better when I left.  We have a major wildfire in the Northern part of our State.  19 Firefighters gave their lives saving people’s homes and our forests.  Will everyone say a prayer for them and their families?  Very sad!!!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Kathryn, Thanks for thinking of me.  It makes me feel good that I have such good friends here.  I am sorry about your Mother.  I like you treasure every moment I have with mine.  Take care.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, Planning for your cruise, how exciting!  I finally bought living room furniture and new mattresses for the beds yesterday.  I will get them on Friday.  I always love a deal, like your 50% discount on clothes.  My living room set was in the clearance room.  I got a good deal!!  I read where you are putting your property on the market in 2014.  I hope it sells so you can move here.  Take care of yourself!!  Miss you friend.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Hi Cat, I want to thank you for all of your support.  Your posts have helped me get through the rough days.  Scotland sounds wonderful.  I am thinking about going to Europe (France and Germany) next year.  I have never been and it has always been a dream of mine.  Life is too short. I think a lot of places have become commercialized.  That is progress but it is sad.  You deserve a wonderful vacation.  Take care!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Thanks Cat for the post.  I was sleeping so well and someone called at 600AM,  wrong number.  But he called 4 ***** afterwards!!  OMG!!  I am ready to go through my Husband’s things.  It will be easier with my girls here.  I think the only way that I can stay here in the condo is by making it mine, my style.  We had bought it from my mother in law before she went into a senior living apartment and it ***** a lot of updating.  I am going to do a little at a time till I have it the way I want it.  Patience is something I work on daily Cat.  I am hard on myself.  I am looking forward to a nice day with my Daughters and Grandson.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

I bought a couch and tv console and new mattresses for my bed.  My friend came with me and it was fun picking out new furniture.  It gets delivered on Friday.  Tomorrow, my Daughters are coming over to help me go through some of my Husband’s things and we are going to look at pictures, have lunch and swim.  Just making a afternoon of being together.  I am really tired, not sleeping well.  Going to bed.  Hope everyone had a good day!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Thanks for the post Carole.  I came back today from my Mom’s.  I had a good time visiting with her.  I felt so much of the pressure was taken off me in deciding not to spread my Husband’s ashes.  Both of my Daughter’s have picked out a cremation necklace they like and I haven’t decided on one yet.  A great idea Cat!!  My Sister text me today and we talked via texts, but that is a start.  I am looking at living room furniture tomorrow.  Hopefully, I will find something I love.  Carole, I am trying to take my time in making decisions as I am not good at making decisions right now.  A little hesitate.  I was glad to get home, back to my surroundings.  I feel comfort here!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Carole, I agree, I won’t be spreading my Husband’s ashes this weekend.  It is too soon for me!  It doesn’t feel right.  I have been thinking of you too and missing you!!  The car passed emission testing and I have current tags on it.  Yeah!!  That has been a journey itself, but now it is done.  Cat, thanks for the link to the cremation jewelry.  I am buying a necklace for me and one for each daughter.  That way, he is always with us!!  Getting some things done around here and tomorrow morning I will be off to my Mom’s. Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Thanks Cat, what you said makes sense and I know things will get better, it’s just hard right now!!  I have heard of cremation jewelry.  Thanks for the link, I took a quick look and I found some things that I liked.  I will look later, it may be for me.  I am looking at living room furniture next week.  I am still having some issues with the car that I want to give my Mom.  I am going down to the dealers again this morning, maybe I will be through with the car issues today.  I am not going to let anyone, even family, rush me into doing something that I don’t want to do.  I will deal with things when I am ready.  Thanks for the advice!!  I am going to my Mom’s tomorrow for the weekend, so I need to pack and do a few things around here.  Have a great day everyone!!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, It does seem overwhelming.  It’s just a temporary situation.  It’s hard when someone is invading your personal time. Take care and don’t overdo it.  Wish you were here!!!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Cat, I did sleep well last night.  I think I was so exhausted!!  I have mixed feelings about going through my Husband’s things.  My Daughter wants some of his things, which I don’t mind giving her but I don’t know if I am ready.  I don’t even know if I can spread his ashes this weekend.  It just doesn’t feel right to me yet!!  I don’t know if I am being silly or if I should just force myself to do it.  God, I miss him every day.  Maybe I am holding on to his ashes just to have him here with me, I don’t know.  I am doing better I think in general but I always have this sadness hanging over me.  No one can really relate unless you have been through it.  It hurts so bad, you feel like your heart has been ripped from your chest.  I try to sleep at night but I keep re-thinking about the cancer that ate at him till it took him from me.  I remember from January 10th when we found out that he had cancer to March 12, when he ****.  It just tears me up!!!  The look on his face when he was dying and me holding his hand telling him that I loved him.  OMG!! Cat, I hope it gets easier with time, that I deal with it better.  I hate being alone!!  It sucks!! Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Cat, My spirits and focus is definitely different when my Grandson is around.  There are tons of places where I can do volunteer work.  I will make a decision on that after the summer is over.  I agree, I need to find some group or organization where I can have fun and do activities with other women my age.  Today has been good.  We played games, read books, did some drawings, and went swimming. OMG, I’m tired!!  Tomorrow the car goes into the shop so they can put the meter on it again to see if it will pass emission testing.  Everything was wiped out when the battery went dead this last weekend.  I called my oldest Daughter today and we had a good talk.  She is coming over next week to help me go through my Husband’s personal belongings.  There are a few things that I want her to have. Another sleepless night last night.  I am going to take a sleeping pill tonight. Take care everyone and have a good day!!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Thanks RG, I did get a mani/pedi today!!  Best thing ever.  I will be alright.  I need to find somewhere to volunteer once a week, preferably on a weekend day.  Playing Wii sports earlier with my Grandson!!  We are getting ready to go to bed and do some reading before sleep.  Hoping I can sleep tonight. Seize all the good things in life

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