[lizbeth4]

Hi Cat.  If at all possible would you come for a visit while I am in Canada.  I would love to meet you.  You have been such a supportive friend to me and I know you are a awesome lady.  I would like to be able to meet you.  Take care.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Oh, Carole, I would love to meet Cat!!  I hope she can come!  I too have had a few gambling thoughts, especially after the scene with my Daughter.  I have been able to get through them also.  Everything is set, I have my flight confirmation and all I have to do is pack!!  We will have a great time!!!  So excited!!!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Carole, It was good to chat with you this morning.  I sent you a email with my flight # and time!  I am very excited!  I would be up to going to the recovery group meeting with you.  I am so happy that Ruffuss will be going to a great home.  I will give you a call soon!  Take care!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Carole,  I just read your post on my thread.  Yes, it’s time for me to say enough with my Daughter.  Sadly, I think that my Husband passing away and that I am left alone to deal with it has changed my way of thinking about things and my tolerance level.  Come on, I’ve been dealing with her addiction for 9 years.  How long do you want me to stay when I visit???  Let me know and I will book my flight.  Then I will call you with the details.  I’m excited too!!!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, Thanks for your post on my thread.  Find out the dates in August and if it is good with you, then I will come for a visit.  It’s normal to feel lonely and it will take you some time emotionally to disengage yourself from Danny’s emotional hold.  I am glad that your gambling urges have been slight. I have had a few urges but haven’t acted upon them.  We know that is not the answer.  Have fun getting beautified!!!  You deserve it!!  Take care.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Thanks Carole for your post.  I didn’t sleep well last night and I didn’t realize how much my Daughter has stressed me out.  I was literally sick all night to my stomach.  I text her this morning telling her that she is no longer welcomed at my house and how I was really concerned about her behavior especially in front of her son.  I told her that she could go through her Ex regarding my Grandson.  I will meet her in the parking lot to get my Grandson and I will take him out there when she comes to pick him up.  Her Ex agrees with this arrangement and he said he totally understands where I am coming from.  I have to set the boundaries with her now as her behavior and abusive actions can no longer be tolerated.  So, I am going to take a shower and maybe go to the store.  I need to start moving and do something.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole,  Don’t you like the way I have invited myself to your place?  Only good friends would feel comfortable doing that.  I am glad that you have moved most of your things and are getting settled into your new place.  I am having a rough time now, still grieving and dealing with my out of control Daughter.  Oh well, I will get through this too!!  Hope that the financial legal stuff gets worked out soon so you can move on and start your new life.  You deserve happiness and peace.  Take care.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Today has been another trying day with my Daughter.  My Grandson was here and she showed up being belligerent and stood in my front yard screaming and calling me names.  It was embarrassing as all my neighbors who were home heard her but more troublesome was that my Grandson was standing there hearing everything.  I had talked to her ex my Grandson’s father, as he and I have a good relationship, about her behavior of late and the concern that she is doing ***** or drinking again.  He talked to her about it and it fueled her to be mad.  I am being threatened again with not seeing my Grandson.  My ex son in law said that would never happen as he would make sure I would see him.  This is all so sad and depressing.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Hi Cat, it’s me again.  Your posts seem to make me put things into prospective.  I wanted to gamble today but instead I bought some new plants and beautified my patio.  I was wondering how Ruth’s family and the twins are doing.  I think of them often.  You know Cat, I am grateful that I have my Grandson in my life as he keeps me grounded and he and I are like two peas in a pod.  We enjoy being together.  Take care of yourself and thanks for being here for me.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole,  Wow, that really worked out with the renter and your Granddaughter being able to move the furniture to your new place. Everything is falling into place.  You have had a lot to deal with lately, maybe tomorrow you could take it slow and relax a little.  Remember self care??  My condo is still a work in progress.  I love my living room furniture and new TV.  When I get this condo thing  (with Husband’s Daughter) worked out this fall, I am going to get new flooring, ect..  I can’t wait, it gives me something to look forward to.  When you get all moved and are settled in your new place for awhile, I would like to visit, if you think it would be ok.  I can always sleep on a sofa, I am good with that.  I miss you and I want you to know that I am here for you!!!  Take care.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Thanks Cat for your support.  My Sister says my Daughter isn’t doing ***** but is drinking.  Ok, well obviously she has substituted the booze for the *****, which she has done in the past.  Cat, I didn’t walk away today from her ranting.  We played phone arguing until I turned off my cell phone.  I realized it wasn’t going anywhere.  I was so upset that I let myself get caught up in all the drama.  I wanted to seriously go gambling.  I didn’t though.  I was good and went to the plant nursery and bought some new plants which I planted in pots.  My patio looks very nice!!!  I feel like most of my family members think that I should be through grieving for my Husband by now!!!  It’s been 17 weeks since my Husband **** and NO, I am still grieving him and missing him everyday.  I just need to do what is right for me, and it’s okay for me to feel the way I do. I guess that unless you go through a death of someone close to you, you don’t know how it feels.  Thanks for everyone’s support.  You all have been so kind and understanding.  I have many true friends here!!!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

My Daughter is so full of anger.  When she picked up my Grandson yesterday she was fuming.  I think she is angry with herself.  And I have changed the way I react to her, I walk away now.  After my Husband’s illness and death, I changed a lot.  The last 10 years of my life were spent dealing with people’s addictions and mine too.  My Husband was a acholic, my Daughter’s **** problem, and about that time my gambling addiction started.  I am tired of it all!!  I can’t bail someone out of their addiction, they have to work on themselves.  My Daughter is 34 years old, she can’t keep blaming other’s for her actions.  I have let her manipulate me, and I think she is angry now that I have put my foot down and said no, it’s enough.  I have enabled her.  Life is too short.  I can’t keep living through others, I want my own life and experiences.Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole,  Just wanted to say hi and to let you know that I am thinking of you.  Take care!!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

I am enjoying my time with my Grandson.  My Daughter should be here soon to pick him up.  I am hoping that some of the rage she showed yesterday is gone.  I plan to do some grocery shopping this afternoon and then I am going to start a new book.  I just plan to have a relaxing day.  Hope everyone has a good day!!Seize all the good things in life

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole,  I am glad that you are feeling better emotionally today.  That is awesome that Ruffuss is going to such a great home!! Once you are in your new place, you can get a clear head and be able to make decisions as whether having a friendship with Danny is a good thing for you.  Take care. Seize all the good things in life

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