[lizbeth4]

Well a few more glitches on the way to my new home. The seller’s agent had to go out of town for a few days so the list of things to fix hasn’t been presented to the seller yet. I am hopeful that things will be taken care of and I can close by the 13th and that I won’t have to change my date of moving. I am still packing and preparing for the move. I took yesterday off to spend the day with my Grandson. He spent the night and we went to a movie. When my Daughter picked him up today we had a little birthday party for her (tomorrow is really her birthday). We bought her some new boots for when she is in our new hometown and a infinity necklace, which she loved. We even baked cookies for her. He was so happy to see his Mom happy. The days seem to be flying as I am so busy. My youngest Daughter is coming over tomorrow to help me so more. I am 3/4 of the way packed. I am so excited about the move!!!

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, I need to catch up with you. Congrads on the new job. It sounds like it is a good fit for you. Good for you on not gambling!! I am hoping to close on my house on the 13th and moved on the 18th. There have been a few glitches, my realtor had to go back east for a funeral and the seller’s relator was out of town for 4 days. There are a few little things that need to be fix per my home inspector. I am hoping this can be done in time so we can stay on schedule. I am busy packing and getting things prepared for the move. The women’s event sounds like it was a blast. I am so happy that things are going well for you. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

HI! I just wanted you to know that this was and is the place for me. I was able to put up a lot of barriers and I am learning to deal with stress as it pertains to my gambling. Please, keep posting and reading posts here. It will help you immensely. Consider going to GA meetings and limiting your access to cash. We never win at the casino. You have found the right place for support. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Just a update that everything is proceeding with my new place. The home inspector found a few little things that need to be fixed before I close. My realtor submitted the list to the buyer’s agent yesterday and there should be no problem. I asked again if I am still doing my walk through and closing in 14 days and the answer is YES!!! I already have movers in place (5 days after closing) and I am at the half way point of having the condo packed up. I started a list of things I need to get down and changed over prior to my move. It will take me awhile to unpack as I will be coming back and staying with my Daughter 2 days of the week to help with my Grandson. His team won the baseball game last night and he got the game ball. He has progressed a lot in his playing and sportsmanship skills. Oh, I worked in the snack bar the first half of the game as it is on a volunteer basis. He is growing so fast and not my little guy anymore. He is spending Friday night with me so I will try to get in as many hugs and kisses as I can! Well, got to go and get back on the packing. Hope everyone has a great gamble free day. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Thanks Cat and Kathryn for your posts. Cat, I always like to hear what’s going on in your life. I’ve done the renovation thing and it is a lot of work but worth the outcome. Kathryn, thanks for your uplifting post. I believe also that things happen for a reason and in fate and destiny. I didn’t do a lot of packing today. But I had my car serviced and I bought a new cell phone and service so I can get rid of land line when I move. I had a great lunch with my oldest Daughter and my youngest Daughter came over after work and we loaded up a cabinet my Sister was storing over here so she could take it back to her. Another thing to cross off my list. I am going to bed early so I can get up tomorrow and get some more packing done. In the evening I am going to my Grandsons baseball game. A lot going on!! I am excited to move into my new place and start the next chapter of my life. My Daughter’s retail shop opens the day after Thanksgiving. It will be a exciting time for her. My Grandson says he is going to have a desk there also and work and help his Mommy. What a good boy! Thanks everyone for your support. I am hoping to be able to contribute more to everyone once I am settled.

[lizbeth4]

I am busy packing still! I am not as far as I had hoped but I am trying to get other things related to my move done also. The home inspection is done and nothing is majorly wrong, just a few minor things need to be fixed. I have my home insurance in place and today I am going to get new cell phone service and get rid of my land line. I got up early to have my car serviced (oil change and tire rotation). Utilities, garbage pickup, water, cable, and internet have to be turned on to the new place before I move in. Just time consuming things I need to get done. I did take a break yesterday and my youngest Daughter and I went to a psychic fair. Now, I do believe in God (a higher power) but I do believe some people have psychic abilities. I had a session and it was fantastic. My Husband kept coming through. The psychic told me about my new home and described the weird shaped windows in the dining room. One of my favorite things about the home. He described the backyard totally and the peaceful and quiet neighborhood. According to him, the condo issue won’t be resolved till after January. I know that is true as I don’t even have a court date yet and in December it is hard to get a court date here. It was very interesting and he said to put the condo into God’s hands and it will be taken care off. I have already done that. My Daughter wasn’t as impressed with her psychic!!! Well it was a fun afternoon!!!

[lizbeth4]

Thank you everyone for your posts. Firstly, I am going to ban myself from the casino where I am moving and I am going to start going to GA meetings again. I haven’t been active in my recovery in sometime and it’s time for me to start. They think they have found my Step-daughter but there has been no contact with her yet. If they find her employer than they can send the letter to her there. There will never be any one on one contact with her from the skip trace. I wonder how she will react. She isn’t even using my Husband’s last name and she cut off all contact with him 12 years ago. They were never real close as the divorce happened when she was 2 years old. Her Mother wasn’t kind to my Husband and played a lot of games with him such as moving to another state for 2 years without notifying him. I am sure she said a lot of negative things about him. I am prepared to split the proceeds from the condo with her as that is what Arizona law dictates. I expect her to take the money. I don’t know her and she doesn’t know me. So, I don’t know what kind of person she is. It is what it is and it is for me the last hurdle I need to get over to feel like I can move on with my life. Velvet, my 2 turtles are sitting in my condo living room right now ready for our new home. Every time I look at them I will remember our trip to San Diego and my new start in my new home. Today, I will be a packing fool!!! Have a good day everyone.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, I just wanted to see how you were doing today. My new home passed inspection and I am doing nothing but packing the next 5 days. Read my last post: they think they found my Step-daughter. Anyways, I just wanted to tell you that you have been through a lot of changes and I think that you have done well. I am glad that you didn’t gamble yesterday. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

My new house passed the home inspection today, no problems. I had my Grandson this afternoon as it as a early dismissal day from school. The next 5 days are going to be aimed only at packing!!!! Oh, the skip tracer found my Step- daughter, although no contact has been made yet. She is living in a state far from Arizona and is using her mothers second married last name as her own. Her phone has been disconnected but they think they have found her employer. The plot thickens!!! In 25 days, I will be into my new home and we can deal with the condo. I am hoping for a court date in December so I can be appointed personal representative of the estate. I will be happy at this point to give her the 1/2 of the condo when it sells as I want this over with. I have a lot of things going on and when this issue is settled, I feel like I can move on and live a normal life again.

[lizbeth4]

The town I am moving to has a casino. I have checked and there is a GA support group there that I can attend and I will continue here with GT for a lot of support. In Arizona almost every city and town has a casino. That is real sad as they are profiting from some people who have addiction problems. Just real sad!!! I have been having urges today but I have my Grandson this afternoon and my youngest Daughter is coming over after work to help me pack. I am determined not to gamble!!!

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, Don’t be so hard on yourself. You have been going through a lot lately. Just start over again and try to figure out what triggered your gambling. I have been having urges lately. I say to myself with all you have going on and you want to gamble? For me it is wanting to escape from stress and things that are hard to face. I am keeping myself busy with packing and my Grandson. The bad thing is there is a casino in the small town I am moving to, so it will be a challenge to stay out of it. I checked and they do have a GA group I can go to. I am determined to find other things to keep me busy. Take care of yourself. We are always the hardest on ourselves. Hopefully you will find work soon so you will be busy with that. Talk to you soon. Have a good day.

[lizbeth4]

I am trying to find my motivation again today. My new house inspection and termite inspection is tomorrow. I have also hired movers as my move date is November 18th. In the mist of all of this, I am having gambling thoughts. Crazy!!! I am picking my Grandson up from school early today and tomorrow and there is no school on Friday, which nixes me going to the casino. I went on my Husband’s facebook page this morning and just cried reading the caring words his friends had posted after his death and looking at all the pictures of him from the previous year and remembering his struggle with cancer and death. It just hit me hard. I am ready to move as this place isn’t my home anymore without him here. I will be sad but I am excited about my new home. A lot has happened this year and I have changed a lot also.

[lizbeth4]

Hi ican, I haven’t been faithful lately posting but I wanted to say hi and hang in there. For myself, I put my children and Husband before myself. When the kids grew up and left home, I really had a hard time. I think we have to find ourselves again and kind of reinvent our path. I have had gambling thoughts the last 2 days in the mist of packing and buying a house. Crazy, ugh? Just hang in there! Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Thanks for the posts. I don’t know where I would be without all the support everyone has shown me. P, I don’t know how brave I am. I am just doing what I need to do and what I think is the best for me. Thank you for saying that and being proud of me. It’s nice to hear. I didn’t get much packing done today as I had laundry, unpacking to do. I am up early this morning as I can’t sleep. There is a lot going on inside of my head. The lawyer sent me all the papers he is filing to get my court date set in probate court. They can’t find my Step-Daughter. I will have to be appointed personal representative of the estate and after I sell the condo, I will have to keep her part of the proceeds till she comes forward or the statute of limitations runs out. Also, I have to be bonded to be a personal representative. This is beginning to be a pain in the butt. I will get through this with my sanity!! I won’t have a house payment, so I will be able to afford to keep paying the mortgage and association fees and utilities on the condo till it is sold. I am using most of the money left to me from the life insurance for my home. The money went fast paying for hospital bills and treatment (the 20 percent we owed) and paying off bills, the lawyer, ect. I am not complaining as I am fortunate to have it. I figure buying the house is a investment. I think I will be able to think clearer and not have so much on me when I am packed and moved and when the probate is over and the condo sells. I am excited about my new start. Vera, I feel like my Husband has been looking out for me as things seem to be falling into place. I find comfort in that.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, I am sorry the house deal fell through and that you are haven’t found a suitable job. Keep positive, things will turn around. I think the ceramic studio sounds like a cool place to go to. I just returned from my San Diego trip. It was awesome. We spread my Husband’s ashes this morning in the ocean and each of us said what we are going to miss about him. I feel that we have closure now, even my Grandson. We sat on the beach for awhile and watched the waves and surfers as they were the only ones brave enough to be in the ocean. It was a foggy, cold day and the ocean was really choppy. We only got out there up to our knees. I am starting my packing tomorrow as I only have 3 1/2 weeks till I close on my new home. I really feel good about the move and when I walked into the house, I felt like I belonged there. I would love for you to come and visit me. Take care Carole. Talk soon.

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