[lizbeth4]

Thanks Charles and Cat for your posts. The move went smoothly. I am half way unpacked. My Mom helped me yesterday. A few times she became real tense and controlling, so I tactfully suggested that she go home to rest as we did work hard yesterday. I need to set up my boundaries with her so I don’t get stressed. She seems to take the victim role when she is called out for her behavior. Enough of that, my home is everything I thought it would be. I felt at home as soon as walked through the door. All my utilities and cable and internet has been turned on. I have a lot of yard work to do but I am going back to Phoenix today for 2 days to take care of my Grandson and I will stay at his house. I will be going back and forth till May when school is over and they officially move here. Anyways, it is raining here so the yard work will have to wait. My next door neighbor swept my driveway (leaves) for me the day before I moved in. He and his wife are real nice. A elderly woman lives on the other side of me. I am close to a pond and the geese were in full force yesterday evening. About 10 of them decided to come up to my street and were in people’s yards. One even chased a teen on his bike. So, we will have to watch out for them. The school bus travels right in front of my home. The move was a lot less stressful than I thought it would be and I am happy I did it. I need to go to the condo Friday on my way home to pick of my outside plants. Cat, I will ban myself from the local casino. I have so much to do around here than I haven’t even thought of gambling. Have a good day everyone.

[lizbeth4]

Thank you ican for your post. I woke this morning knowing that this will be my last day living at the condo. While I am excited for my new home and new life I am getting ready to start, I have been thinking of my Husband and our life here. I know he would be happy for me and I felt in some strange way he lead me to my new home, but it is hard to say goodbye. Everything is bittersweet! My neighbor helped me pack up my car this morning. I am done packing and ready for the movers tomorrow morning. No turning back now. I need to follow my journey and new path.

[lizbeth4]

Carole, I am proud of you and all that you have accomplished. We are both progressing and doing it without gambling!

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P, I think of you often. I think of the times we were on chat together and all the supportive posts that you written to me! Just remember that you have a lot of friends here and that I am proud of you. Take care!

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Bettie, I am sorry that you are having health issues. I can understand how you would be depressed, but stay strong. You have to take care of your health first! I hope you can get some relief (pain) when you see the Ortho. Take care and I will be praying for you.

[lizbeth4]

Thanks Cat and Carole for your positive posts! I closed yesterday on my home and everything went smoothly. I enjoyed my Mom’s company and she helped me unpack the car and we had a nice dinner together. I came home to the condo today and it just didn’t feel like home anymore. I am going to be busy the next 3 days getting the odds and ends packed for my move on Monday. Oh, small town life! I went into the gas company and paid a deposit and turned in the application for gas turn-on. The whole place consists of 2 people! The holidays are coming and there are a lot of events for us to attend, always something going on but at a lot smaller scale than I am used to. I can get anywhere in the town within 5 mins. I am going to love it!!! Carole, I hope the condo sells quickly. I am going to put it on the market after Christmas. I have heard nothing else about my Husband’s Daughter. It looks like they have hit another dead end in finding her. Maybe she doesn’t want to be found. Anyways, Cat and Carole, I am glad that we haven’t gambled either. I know if I was still gambling, I wouldn’t have my new home and be moving forwards. I think we should all be proud of ourselves. Life is good!

[lizbeth4]

Tomorrow I close on my new home!!! I ran a lot of errands today and I fax a lot of paperwork pertaining to the new home. I think I am just worn out!! I am leaving tomorrow at 7:30 am to go to my new town. I packed the car with a lot of breakables that I have bubble wrapped. I am coming back on Thursday to pick my Grandson up from school and to spend the evening with him and my oldest Daughter. Friday, Saturday and Sunday will consist of packing the remaining things as early Monday morning the movers will be here. I am so glad that I was able to refrain from gambling and going through money that has been used to buy my new house. I feel like a hurdler, I have jump almost all the hurdles and I am approaching the finish line. Today for the first time, my Mother seemed happy about my move. I have asked her to stop talking about myself and my Daughters to my Sister as it is very hurtful and serves no purpose. It is what it is and I can’t change her or no one else. How I respond to it and handle it is all that I have control over.

[lizbeth4]

Carole, I am glad that you are doing soo well! I am moving closer to my closing date of this Wednesday. I am going to officially move (movers) on the following Monday, the 18th. I have been emotionally detaching myself from the condo. Although I will be sad to leave my friends here, I am ready and excited for my new start. I have been having issues with the upstairs neighbors. Their son hit my new car with their car door and it turned ugly when I said something to them about it as they never said anything to me. Also, they have always been noisy. I understand they have children and I can expect some noise, no problem. But they have no respect as the kids bounce balls and jump up and down all afternoon on the weekends instead of being outside playing. So, I won’t miss having common walls on both sides of me and neighbors above me. I went away this weekend as I bought a spa package online (a lot cheaper than usual). I went by myself and thoroughly enjoyed it. I was pampered and I was able to relax and de-stress before the move. My Daughter, her friend (business partner) and my Grandson were up at the new store this weekend doing some cleaning and painting as the store will open the day after Thanksgiving! A lot is going on but things are moving and coming together for us!! No gambling thoughts either!!!!

[lizbeth4]

Thanks Bettie and Cat for your posts! My Mother is a very angry person. I have tried everything to get her to open up to me but she won’t. I think she likes to stir the pot between my Sister and I. We all know someone like that. I don’t talk to part of my family as they stopped talking to me and my oldest Daughter after the death of my Husband. They acted inappropriately and were very rude. I have stayed out of their lives but have hopes that one day we will talk again. If there is any jealousy on their parts that is very sad as the only way that I am being able to make this move is because of my Husband’s death. (insurance) I would give anything in this world if things were different and he was still here with me. If my Mom gets ill or something happens to her, it would be me taking care of her not my Sister. She told me a long time ago when my she wasn’t talking to my Mom, that she was my responsibility. I have never told my Mom the horrid things my Sister has said about her. Why? But my Mom takes the time to tell my Sister everything I am doing. Yesterday when I called my Mom to try to talk to her about this situation she lied to me and wouldn’t take any responsibility for her actions. She has never been very supportive or had a lot of positive things to say in my life only negative things. I should be used to how she operates but it still saddens me. The positive, is that I am always trying to work on myself, my faults, and I try to be a better person. I am not going to let anyone steal my joy! I feel like I have came a long way in the last year! Thank you friends for your support!

[lizbeth4]

Hi P, Hang in there and ride the gambling urges out!! Stay strong!

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Thanks P for your post. I am moving right along as I am closing on the 13th and moving on the 18th. I have accepted the seller’s credit allowance. I am almost all packed. I went this morning and had my eyebrows done and hair trimmed. I feel like a new woman!!! I was a bit irritated yesterday and I want to gamble. But I didn’t gamble and I am dealing with the hurt. My Mom has been talking about me to my Sister. Anyways, my Nephew told my youngest Daughter some things that were being said. It was hurtful. Isn’t your Mom supposed to be supportive and loving? I am moving close to her and didn’t know she felt this way towards me. I know that some of what was said has lost it’s original meaning as I am hearing it in the 4th person. I called my Mom and only addressed one thing, that she wasn’t happy that myself, daughter, and Great-grandson were moving there as she felt we were invading her life. She didn’t deny it. I told her that we didn’t need to see each other daily and if she wanted to see us once a week or whatever it was alright with me. I asked her to talk to me instead of my Sister (whom isn’t talking to me), She was real vague and acted like she did nothing wrong. My oldest Daughter said she felt the whole thing amusing that they had time to discuss our lives and that they weren’t going anywhere and that we were moving forwards. It is what it is, but it was hurtful to me! I accepted the pain and I am working through it as gambling isn’t going to help. How can family members be so mean and petty? I thought I could help her with her yard work and spend time with her as she is alone most of the time. Well, I do have my own life and I will keep busy.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, Don’t be soo hard on yourself. You can take the exam again. You’ve come a long way baby!!! Be proud of yourself. You have started a new life and job, ect… That’s a lot to be proud of!! Danny is out of control as he can’t manipulate you any more. You are standing up for yourself now!!! You are still entitled to half of the land ect… don’t forget that. Take care of yourself and keep smiling.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, I am proud of you for thinking of yourself and not working the double shift and extra hours. Self-care is something we as women don’t do enough of for ourselves. We always put other’s needs ahead of our own. So kudos to you!!!! Yes, it snows where I am moving but nothing compared to what you get. Sometimes the highway that leads to Phoenix gets closed due to the snow, so your not going anywhere. My house isn’t far from my Mom’s and I think it is time for me to be as I am seeing her slow down a lot which is normal with aging. She is happy that I am moving. My Sister only sees her once in awhile, so I am the only person whom she can lean on. Carole, good news, I am going to probate court on Dec. 4th. They thought they had located my Step-daughter but they have ran into a dead end again. It seems like a long time since we have seen each other though it hasn’t been that long. I am glad that you are enjoying your new job and that you are getting out and about with your friends. Take care! Talk soon!

[lizbeth4]

Things are moving ahead with my new home. The seller wants to give me a credit towards the little fixes I need to do. We are just waiting to see how much. I was so surprised to find out yesterday that I have a probate court hearing for December 4th. I thought I wouldn’t see court till after the new year. Apparently, no contact has been made with my Step-Daughter. They thought they had found her but have ran into another dead end. I am trying to concentrate on my big move. I close on the house in 8 days and I officially will be moving 5 days from the closing date. Very exciting! We are planning to have Thanksgiving dinner in my new home. My Daughters and Grandson are very excited also. No time to let gambling thoughts creep into my head. But I also know that once I have moved I need to not become complacent and need to be active in my recovery. I feel like I have come a long way. Only months ago my world fell apart with my Husband’s death. Now I am starting a new chapter in my life. I feel like everything is going to be fine and that I have found some peace.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Cat, Congrads on being gamble free for a year! That is not a easy feat. It takes a lot of hard work and determination to accomplish. I am very proud of you. I agree with Carole, do something nice for yourself. You deserve it!!

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